Guys are easy to talk to, but I don't know what to say to women.

habaroa · 2012-09-17T04:57:17+00:00

Just relax and don't approach every single woman as if you are going to hookup with them. The only reason you are so smooth and clever when talking to guys is because you aren't trying to pick them up or impress them. You are just being yourself and being laid back. Once you try to talk to girls you are over thinking everything. Just see that as another human being and talk to them. It really isn't that hard. What's the worst that can happen, she isn't interested in you? What's the best that can happen, you get a number and get too see her again. Just go out there and be yourself.

LucilleDeux · 2012-09-17T04:59:22+00:00

sometimes you can spend your fridays and saturdays watching tv shows and drinking beer... with a girl. we're just like guys- only we're girls. you know?

jergenssheabutter · 2012-09-17T18:36:25+00:00

are you...me?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-09-17T11:39:39+00:00

Guys are easy to talk to because you don't want anything sexual from them. There is no risk of error because you have nothing to gain.

Try to adopt that same outcome-independent attitude with women. You don't want anything from them.

Sveske · 2012-09-17T19:48:01+00:00

Ever tried talking to the women exactly like you talk to your guy friends? If your male friends think you re hilarious you probably shouldn't be any different when talking to women

Hugmesoftly · 2012-09-17T04:58:36+00:00

Hey friend, you sound like myself. What I found helped was stop elevating women to a status above yourself. They're human, so are you. I think too that you can be far too self-aware of how you're coming across to the girl, meaning you give a fuck about her opinion. Where as I know for myself I'm never hyper-self-aware with my buddies.

So: be natural, don't think too much, stop holding women in such high regard, and stop giving a fuck. Best of luck!

TuCAyc · 2012-09-17T05:26:16+00:00

There isn't that big a difference. Seriously. The problem is that you believe there is a difference. I'm not getting down on you it's a pretty common idea. But when you get in your own head about it you're gonna have a bad time. It's just a habit you've picked up, so now think about breaking it. The how of it is practice.

iz_haz_an_idea · 2012-09-17T05:44:12+00:00

Here, maybe all you need is an Icebreaker

Title	Guys are easy to talk to, but I don't know what to say to women.
Author	jergenssheabutter
Upvotes	8
Comments	17
Date	September 17, 2012 2:59 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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