What do you do with women who want to pick from a buffet of date options?

2012-10-05T10:50:14+00:00

The way I heard David D dealing with this was to say, "give me a list of the things you would like to do, and I will pick one."

Also if you suggest something, and she says no (and it's something you want to do!), don't be afraid to just say "okay, I'm going anyway, have fun by yourself."

EricDisco · 2012-10-05T11:29:51+00:00

On my first 'date' with a girl, I always do something low key where we can simply talk and connect, like a drink or coffee at a cafe or in the park. That way we can get to know each other a little better. There's no way she should say no to such a date unless she isn't into me. In fact, I purposely make these dates 'boring.' I'm not going to try to lure her out on a date with me going water skiing around the statue of liberty. I don't want to do that with her. It's not about the activity. It's about us.

After the first date, I'll offer up more fun things to do. Or maybe we'll just watch a movie at my place. If the girl is into me, she won't put up much of a fight.

Have some confidence that whatever you've chosen is worth doing and fun and even if it isn't, she gets to hang out with you. That should be fun enough for her. If it isn't then there's a problem. That's why you are almost always better off saying, "I'm doing X on Thursday night. Wanna join me?" If she says no, she can offer up another night to hang out, offer up her own options or wait until you invite her out again. I'm not a jukebox where she gets to flip through all her options and invest if she sees something she likes. If she wants to be a part of me life, she can be. That's the only offer that's on the table.

july25 · 2012-10-05T23:00:32+00:00

You should realize that you're chasing too much if you're doing that. You need to always be leading, the girl's not going to lead, ever. Take full responsibility and assume the role, stop being a little bitch.

Title	What do you do with women who want to pick from a buffet of date options?
Author	2oosra
Upvotes	5
Comments	3
Date	October 5, 2012 10:14 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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