Over-analysing

bl1y · 2012-10-21T20:22:06+00:00

Not sure if you mean you're over-analyzing things while in set or after the fact.

After the fact analysis

The problem isn't over-analysis. Most guys don't analyze enough. The stuff that got the big PUAs back in the day to their legendary status was meticulous analysis.

Odds are you're experiencing what I'll call Analysis Paralysis (TM mofos!). You either experience a situation you don't know how to analyze and get hung up on that, or your analysis goes off into outerspace, trying to draw conclusions that have barely any relationship to the facts you started from.

It's really quite hard to analyze a single situation because there are so many variables involved and at best you're going to end up with "Probably X is going on, but a chance Y is going on, and a tiny chance that it's Z - some condition I haven't even contemplated."

Try analyzing groups of interactions. Look at the last 5 times you went out. How did each of your 5 first sets of the evening go? Were each of the second 5 sets significantly better? Do you have routines that hit every time? Some that hit 50% of the time? (What do the times that they hit have in common? What do the situations where they miss have in common?)

And of course, the best way to analyze a situation is to get more data. Go talk to her again.

In-set analysis

This is normal. How long have you been going out sarging with the specific intent of working on game? Everyone is too much in their head when they start out. This will improve as more things become habit. You'll keep analyzing things, but it'll be more relaxed and you'll be paying more attention to things that actually matter.

To reduce this, make sure you're doing a proper amount of analysis when you get home or the next day. Use your off time to analyze what actions get what reactions, that way when you're in-set you're not thinking "shit, why did that happen?" You'll know because you've already thought this through.

TofuTofu · 2012-10-22T13:50:11+00:00

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ikkake · 2012-10-21T23:33:55+00:00

That's how you learn on your mistakes. You can think about what you say while talking, hell actually you should, taking pauses and speaking slowly is pretty much mandatory. If you over thinking while you are talking though, and can't actually focus, you are not in the moment. Learning to be in the moment, detached from future or past will help you a lot. You will have time later to analyse your mistakes, but any beginner will overthink, you need to practice and make it a habit, that takes time.

Title	Over-analysing
Author	cam3r0nrock
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	October 21, 2012 8:09 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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