I found that people who used to fight a lot when they were younger and became self-defense instructors attract the hottest girls. I did practice martial arts, but I have - due to limiting beliefs my parents gave me and therefore bad reference experiences - not had a single successful fight in martial arts/self defense clubs. The point is, they have reference experiences of how to protect themselves and therefore a woman that I don't have. How can I compete with people like that and get those women attracted?