First field report after my first time using pretty much anything I’ve learnt since getting into pickup.

The night was supposed to just be a hang out at a friend’s place, initially we had no intention of heading out to any clubs and I certainly wasn’t dressed for it. It's not what you wear though, right? Ok, maybe it is a little. My head wasn’t really in it either but I thought “fuck it, even if I get rejected by every girl I approach it’s better than not approaching at all”. Plus I’ve heard that club game is considerably easier than any other type of game (first time picking up so I can’t say from experience) so I thought it’d be a good place to start.

So the 4 of us (3 guys, 1 girl) head to a club I’ve never been into before (I’ve been to clubs plenty before but have never made a legitimate attempt to pick up in one) and I’m pretty much instantly not vibing the place at all. It’s in a different part of town to where I’m used to and there’s not a whole lot of dancing going on. The girl we’re with spots someone she knows and wanders off, so me and my 2 buddies decide to head off somewhere else. We go into some tiny bar I’ve never been into before and, once again, I’m instantly not feeling the place at all. My 2 buddies start talking with the 2 bartenders (pair of HB8s) and there’s not enough standing room at the bar for me to join in the conversation. I probably could have handled this differently but I was so uncomfortable at pretty much standing there, no drink in hand and literally no girls in this tiny place, that I decide to wander off and go solo. I’m not feeling good at this point, I’ve never picked up let alone solo, so I’ve got an inkling that this night is gonna be a bust.

As luck would have it, I run into a friend of mine outside and the two of us instantly approach a pair of girls (HB 7 and 8). We shoot the shit for about 20 minutes and it becomes apparent that they’re both from out of town and have boyfriends back home. I wasn’t too bothered by this, we were having fun just talking so we stick around for another 5 minutes. At this point I’m feeling much less uncomfortable and I’m more in the mood to be approaching strangers. So we head into another club that I’ve been into a few times before, and I’m feeling good, the place is packed so we approach a pair of girls and start dancing. They pretty much instantly dance away from us. Boom, there goes my good mood. In a single moment, I’ve gone to just wanting to go home, but my friend convinces me to head to the upstairs area of this club. At this point I’m in full on fuck it kamikaze mode, this night can’t possibly get any worse, let’s go finish this so I can go to bed.

Once we get upstairs, my buddy spots a girl he recognises (HB8) and introduces us. Music’s loud so I don’t actually catch her name, but she goes for a hug and I decide to take this as an IOI. I know she was probably just friendly but I think I read somewhere that an important point of being alpha is that everything a girl does is an IOI. Again, I’m in kamikaze mode so the number of fucks being given about anything are rapidly dwindling, and this is giving me a weird sense of confidence. My buddy spots another girl he recognises and leaves me and the HB8 to dance. Game on. So we’re dancing, talking, I’m escalating kino pretty rapidly, going up a notch every time I say something to her (this is something that I think makes club game so easy, escalating kino every time you exchange words is just the simplest thing in the world). I start with the hand on the back, say something, break the contact, go back to dancing; she’s escalating right back at me, after about a minute the hand’s on the back of the neck every time we’re talking. Eventually I manage to get her name, it’s unusual and I have a thing for girls with unusual names so I compliment her on it (I tell her it’s a pretty name, not an unusual name, I’m thinking that would have been weird). Now we’re not even breaking contact between words; this girl I met 60 seconds ago is all over me. I’m in such unfamiliar territory at this point- I’ve literally never picked up a girl in a club before and the first one I’ve talked to is showing some pretty blatant interest in me. So I brush her hair back off her face, I put my hand on the back of her neck and go to say something in her ear; she leans in for a kiss. Motherfucking jackpot.

After around 15 minutes of making out and dancing, a couple of her friends (HB 5 and 6) who she’s with show up. Everything pretty much went downhill from here. In hindsight I could have handled her friends a lot better, but it quickly becomes apparent that it’s a girls night out and neither of the HB8’s friends are down for hooking up tonight. So they’re dragging her around the club and she’s clinging to me- again, I could have handled this a lot better because it was clear that they wanted to separate us but she didn’t want to. Every time we stop moving me and HB8 are dancing and making out, which was a pretty clear indicator that she wanted me to stick around I think. Unfortunately I was getting paranoid that I was overstaying my welcome with her friends, so I got a # close and ejected, saying I had to go meet some people.

Looking back, I could have probably convinced HB8’s friends to leave her with me if they wanted to go somewhere, but it wasn’t something that really occurred to me at the time. Again, first time putting into practice anything I’ve learnt since getting into pickup so I was bound to make some errors. If anyone has any concrete suggestions on how I could have handled this better, hit me. I’m still on a bit of a high, I’ve been single for a few months now and this is my first time ever attempting to pick up a girl I’ve just met. The degree of success I had, even though I basically allowed myself to get cockblocked at the end, has given me the confidence to do it all over again tonight!