A tough challenge: overcoming poly bias in females by upping my game.

The_DukeDevlin · 2013-02-18T03:47:39+00:00

It's a deal breaker, but it's a deal breaker in your favor. Because the girls that wouldn't be able to handle being in a poly relationship will be filtered out. I'm not poly, myself, but if I were I'd imagine I'd go about it just like I do with my hookups, except after hooking up with a girl I'm really interested in I'd lay it on the table, "Look, we have this great chemistry and we have a lot of fun together, but I gotta tell you I'm not interested in the stereotypical nuclear family set up." The good news is, you know what you want so being honest and screening for what you want will be easier.

intjpua · 2013-02-18T09:35:47+00:00

I bring it up very early, but I do it in a way that almost guarantees the girl is relieved to hear I'm poly.

Here's my general process...get flirty with the girl, escalate a little bit with some casual friendly touching, teasing, etc. Then drop the girlfriend bomb in a casual way; "So this girl I'm dating blah blah blah." Girl will possibly quiz you a bit on the girlfriend, in a subtle way. This quizzing is an IOI, and gives you the chance to talk about how it's been interesting opening up your relationship for whatever reason (or something interesting about the relationship that fits naturally into the conversation).

I don't pursue a lot of girls when I'm in a relationship, but I've found it's definitely not a 90% problem. Maybe 30%. Some seem more intrigued by it, even.

senjutsuka · 2013-02-18T04:19:32+00:00

Wanting to be in a monogamous relationship is not "bias."

Title	A tough challenge: overcoming poly bias in females by upping my game.
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Date	February 18, 2013 3:32 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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