Girls are sexually attracted by me, but seems to be scared off by who i am.

Ben_KickassAcademy · 2013-03-12T21:14:48+00:00

As long as you're being honest with the girls, there is absolutely nothing wrong with sleeping with a lot of people.

Assuming you have integrity and are okay with who you are and the results you are getting, I wouldn't change too much about yourself.

Honestly you might want to start standing up for yourself more and engaging people in a dialogue about it when it comes up. For instance, when someone says you're good at "faking" or implies that what you are doing is wrong, tell them that you were totally upfront with the girl and didn't fake anything. Sex is fun, girls are allowed to enjoy it too.

Haters are gonna hate. Doing anything that's above average and garners attention tends to bring some haters.

[all of this assumes that you really are being honest and integris in your interactions]

itsmevichet · 2013-03-13T01:34:09+00:00

As a man who gets this type of shit a lot, I'll tell you the two ways I usually deal with it.

Agree & Amplify - just start making exaggerated remarks about being a player: "Yeah, I have 15 girlfriends now, maybe I can schedule you in sometime in June?" "Yup, so many girls I don't know what to do, please stop throwing yourself at me."
The truth - bust out with this exact story you just wrote here. "Yeah, actually I get that a lot and it kind of sucks. I even had friends go behind my back and lie to chicks that I'm a rapist and shit because they were afraid I was going to sleep with 'their' girls. It's kind of bullshit that so many people will judge someone based solely on their looks, but whatever, fuck the haters." etc. etc. etc.

I had a date last night that was pulling this shit on me for like 2 hours straight. I employed both of these techniques and it ended with her sucking my dick in the restaurant.

magic_mike_25 · 2013-03-13T01:07:36+00:00

If you are not lying to anyone about your actions, then you are doing nothing wrong. Unless you tell the girls you love them and only want to be with them and then ditch them after sex.

As long as you are open and honest at all times, then you are doing nothing wrong. Don't change a thing.

Some people are socially conditioned, and have trouble separating concepts. They think that since most guys that pull lots of women are lying scumbags, that you must be too.

Honestly, some people really DO have trouble separating concepts. It's why guys over-compensate: they can't separate being a strong man with being an asshole, for example.

Just watch Jersey Shore ;)

itsmevichet · 2013-03-13T18:58:16+00:00

Are you treating the women poorly? No?

Then fuck everyone's opinion.

I've been through that. Some people will just not be able to compute that you can have as much sex as you do. Don't sweat it.

I like that you keep to yourself about your personal life, and when these guys pry it out of you, all they do is judge.

What I really think is that you could use some different kinds of friends. Not saying kick the current friends to the curb, but some of the rumors that are going around about you are fucked up (I'm assuming they're false).

Regardless, it might help to start being more selective about who you hook up with. I'm not single right now, but when I am, discretion and the maturity are two qualities I value HUGELY with girls I hook up with.

Because trust me - attaching your self worth to the opinions of people who are not looking out for you? That's the easiest way in the world to be unhappy.

Title	Girls are sexually attracted by me, but seems to be scared off by who i am.
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Date	March 12, 2013 7:34 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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