First Time Field Report. [Input Appreciated]

recyclablebantha · 2013-03-23T12:34:33+00:00

I just started my own clothing company so that is a subject I love to discuss when I am out sarging.

Off-hand, I'd say bringing up special things like this should be done when the information is ASKED for. It should not be used as a conversation starter. It sounds kind of desperate to use it in such a way.

I got the courage to do so, went up to her and started to make conversation. I told her about my clothing business and that she was someone whom I would love to talk fashion with. After a small bit of conversation I asked if we could talk on the phone sometime. I handed her my phone and she put her first/last name and her number in it.

Look, the problem I'm seeing right off the bat is that you based your interaction on BUSINESS. And if you were too nervous to convey your own intentions towards her clearly enough, you probably turned her off in the non-business/personal department.

She seems like an incredible girl but I am not too sure what I should do now. I don't know if I should call her, if I should text her first, or if she is too good looking for me. She was definitely one of the most gorgeous girls I have ever randomly approached in my life.

The final note here is that we were not there. We did not see how this girl responded to you. We did not see how you talked to her. It could very well be that you did set things up with her well.

But based on what you've said, what you created was a business contact, not a potential date.

And if you continue to use your business as a conversation starter, you're likely to continue creating business contacts. Or you'll be cultivating social connections with people who want to use you in some way.

I recommend watching this video. Chances are, that your attempts to approach a woman could be a lot more effective if you stopped trying to think of the right thing to say and started thinking about how to get inside of her head by using you observation skills to come up with openers that will actually help you RELATE to her. As opposed to now, where you seem to be interrupting people and their trains of thought to talk to them about your clothing business.

GodlessSwag28 · 2013-03-23T12:44:35+00:00

I recommend you read The Game and The Mystery Method.

Maphistow · 2013-03-23T13:29:04+00:00

Good to hear you are making progress, taking those first steps and getting over AA is always a good thing.

You should be more detailed about your approaches when writing a FR: how long was the conversation, how much kino was there, did she show IOI's. The more details you give the better. The way you describe the conversation, I can't make out if was she was interested in you in a sexual way or just in a friendly way.

I don't know what your next action should be because you haven't given me a whole lot to work with :P If she was throwing you IOI's I would just straight up call her and try to settle for a date. Otherwise it's up to you, you can keep contact, meet up sometime and see how it goes from there, just don't get clingy.

Is she too good looking for me.

Don't worry about looks, period. It doesn't matter how good looking either of you are; it's about attraction. Look at this as an opportunity to become more confident around good looking girls. Just make sure you are well groomed, smell nice and have good breath; that's all you can do and all you should worry about.

Sword11 · 2013-03-23T14:02:53+00:00

A tip, make it about them not about you. Don't talk about your interests (clothing company) as much. You want to talk TO them not AT them.

Sebajun32 · 2013-03-23T14:51:38+00:00

I appreciate all the input from all of you. It seems like I have been using my clothing company as an easy way for me to approach some of these girls but sometimes I feel like I am creating more of a business contact with them. She was a foreign girl and was born in El Salvador and we talked about how she liked it there, what she was studying in school. I told her she has a really nice vibe to her and if we could talk fashion sometime. Aide from the handshake there wasn't any other kino unfortunately. I was quite happy that she put both her first and last name in my phone. Most girls usually just put in there first name. I told her to check out my website and told her that I would give her a text/call sometime. The whole conversation lasted a few minutes. All in all, I felt happy with the way it went but in the end I always have trouble with the second step. I don't know if I should text her first or call her, how long to wait etc. I feel like I have gotten this new wave of confidence since St.Patrick's day but I still have MUCH to learn.

Sebajun32 · 2013-03-28T04:08:56+00:00

Well guys. I know what they say. The texting game should be done so you can set up a potential date. At the moment, the lady and I have been texting back and fourth briefly about her studies and about my clothing business. Sometimes she takes a while to respond and other sometimes it would be immediately. She told me she has been really busy since exams are coming up. At the moment, I do not really know how to proceed with the situation. I want to make my intentions clear with her but I do not know what my next move should be. I think the one reason why I am having trouble with her specifically is just the fact that she was probably the best looking girl I have ever had a conversation with in my life.

Regards

Title	First Time Field Report. [Input Appreciated]
Author	Sebajun32
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	March 23, 2013 6:29 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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