Out of the blue, no reply after 24 hours from girl I've been seeing. How to proceed?

rewoomantle · 2018-10-19T14:49:42+00:00

Dont even bother, soft next her as you were supposed to meet up but she bailed. She will probably text you back over the course of the next X days at which point you take your own sweet time to reply

streetlecture · 2018-10-19T15:22:04+00:00

I sniff oneitis. If this is a one off event that hardly happens why you stressing out homeboy?

Hit up girl #2 instea... oh wait there is no girl #2 is there?

;)

jakethesnake5000 · 2018-10-19T14:52:43+00:00

Why are you always texting her first? Sounds like you are doing the chasing and if you text her again (don’t), you are going to look needy as fuck. Do not fucking text her.

Maybe her phone broke or she is testing you. Regardless, who cares I’m sure she will get back to you

hibloodstevia · 2018-10-19T15:08:44+00:00

LOL, she's fucking somebody else, clearly.

Psychological_Radish · 2018-10-19T18:43:17+00:00

Not a lot to work with here, but this detail stood out:

we went to the beach in the morning, afterwards I invited her to come over

Don't be taking young college chicks on dates (unless it's something you would do anyway with a male buddy if she couldn't go) until she's earned it. Dates as a bribe for sex is textbook Beta behavior. Girls 18-22 just wanna fuck around and have fun with Alphas, anyway. They don't give a rat's ass about romance. Netflix and chill + shitty takeout food is already more effort than most college Alphas put in.

This is probably where she realized that you wanted the relationship to be more than sexual, which is the point where girls bail.

What do I do now? It's really odd for her not to reply.

Considering you've only been seeing her a month, you have no baseline for what's "odd," but my guess is that she's done with you. Yes, my friend, she saw your message alright. She just didn't care enough to bother responding. Soft next and move on.

SunderPillar · 2018-10-19T18:33:40+00:00

You're probably looking into it too much. You're likely not the center of her world and she shouldn't be the center of yours. If I were to give any advice it would be to stop asking questions, it gives her the impression that she's "in control" and can choose whether or not to answer your question, and she won't if she's not interested in answering. Instead just tweak questions like "How have you been doing?" to something like "Tell me how you've been" because the message and intent is more direct, and how you speak is often more powerful than what you say.

Aktiv8r · 2018-10-20T15:15:47+00:00

"Whoever talks first, loses."

Treat your relationship/plates as a business negotiation. Never compromise.

Title	Out of the blue, no reply after 24 hours from girl I've been seeing. How to proceed?
Author	ushirtrun
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	October 19, 2018 2:45 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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