I need some advice and help.

2013-04-29T00:22:53+00:00

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recyclablebantha · 2013-04-29T15:32:19+00:00

So, I went to a prom yesterday with a friend at a school where i didn't know anyone. No one knew me yet i wasnt able to just do what i want and meet new people. I was to chicken to dance with girls i wanted too.

A couple of things you can start doing now that will help you in the long run.

Start talking to everybody. Old people, young people, pretty people, people you don't find attractive, people who work at the gas station, etc. (I.E., people who will be easy to talk to because you're not trying to pick up on them.) If you wait until you see a cute girl to try to become social, of COURSE you're going to have a bad time. You just spend the other 99% of your day not being social or leaning on people you already know.
Start working on your observation skills. A neat trick I picked up from a David Wygant video: pick a 4-5 minute scene in a movie and then hit "pause" and right down everything you remember from the scene, what people were doing, wearing, scenery and things in the background. Everything. Then hit rewind and watch it again and see how much you missed. Rinse and repeat. The point to this is that life will give you some fucking interesting things to talk about, IF you're paying attention. Life will give you things to start a conversation up with anyone. I've opened up girls by asking them a question about the situation we were currently in at that moment. They were thinking about the same thing so it was like I jumped into their heads.
Start thinking out-loud. If you see something strange or interesting while you are walking outside, say so to yourself. It's a good habit to start, because then you'll make comments about the same things that other people are thinking about, in the moment.
Really practice living in the moment. If you start getting worked up about something, take a moment and look around where you are right then. Look at everything happening around you. Then say connect to the first person you can..... even just to say hi.
Get a hobby or something you can put yourself into ...... something that requires work and that you can see a payoff in that you can take pride in. Possible choices: Rock-climbing, running, partner-dancing, martial arts, etc.

I'm not the most good looking guy nor am I ugly, so i think.

Looks don't mean as much as attitude.

thaway314156 · 2013-04-29T15:42:06+00:00

Reading Models by Mark Manson, one lesson I got out of it was, what do you want to be more invested in, what you think she will think of you when you try to talk her (you think she will think that you are a creep), or what you think of yourself, that you are an awesome guy that has the guts to say hi?

If the girl snubs you, well great, she's filtered herself from the pool of girls worthy of your attention. Better than a girl that's nice in the beginning but ends up not worthy of it. They select their mates, and so should you. Do you really want that airhead, or do you want somebody interesting and passionate?

Title	I need some advice and help.
Author	callmechad
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	April 28, 2013 10:30 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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