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An Approach a day [Week Two]

nopetoday

May 26, 2013

3 upvotes

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So, I have been neglecting my posts recently.

Thankfully this is because I have been having so much fun with friends and girls that I havent had time.

I have no problem approaching girls now and feel like the more I approach women the better I get. I guess practise does make perfect :P

I have been on many nights out in the past week and have managed to get 5 phone numbers, organise 2 dates and make-out with numerous girls that I have approached.

My only problem is going from the approach to perhaps the make-out or the bedroom. I now need to work on my technique and develop an understand of how I can make my approach flow.

Any tips on how to move from an approach to making out to the bedroom would be appreciated!

I have been so close many times but things like, friends cock-blocking, timing and progression have knocked me down over the past week.

Cheers, Nopetoday

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Title	An Approach a day [Week Two]
Author	nopetoday
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	May 26, 2013 5:30 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1f38jp/an_approach_a_day_week_two/
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[–]VMikeL 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Tip on your cock-blocking friends - leave them (either at home, or period). A deliberate cock-block is perhaps the MOST disrespectful thing I can imagine socially. "Hey my friend's about to get some. I better stop it." - said no wingman ever.

So, to get to the make out and bedroom, it's all about sexual escalation. You create that tension, that idea in her head that you're a valuable partner, whether tonight or forever. If you want to build it, there are plenty of ways, namely Kino escalation. One way I love is motioning for the kiss and doing something redundant instead.

e.g. Hold the back of her neck, with one hand, and her hip with the other, as if you were going in for the kiss and just whisper something in her ear. You can ask something as redundant as "What's the time" to something contextually relevant to your situation. This can be applied day or night.

If you want me to explain more about the escalation ladder ask.

As per the bedroom. This is where you need your logistics in order. You gotta have your shit sorted, and you gotta find out her circumstances, if she says "I have a job interview at 9AM tomorrow - your chances of getting a lay are PRETTY slim. This is a whole chapter in itself. What aspects do you need info on?

[–]nopetoday[S] 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

[–]VMikeL 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

People who encourage you, support you or join you are ideal. Where you will inevitably lose friends the further you go down as a result of them not knowing what they did wrong, those who are deliberately socially retarded, or cock-blocks (male or female) have no place IMO. What if this was another facet of your life, like your career, or personal health that they tried preventing? You'd fucking gut them if they did, relationships shouldn't be any different.

That's one of many things you can do, also, going from individual touches to strokes, are a huge difference. If she leans in for the kiss, why the hell not? It's down to you but for the most part it's conditioning her that you do this, and when you do go for the kiss, you're both ready.

The escalation ladder goes something like this:

Lower arm

Shoulders,

Legs, Outter thighs, inner thighs

Neck, collarbone, upper neck, Jaw

Face, cheeks, lips, etc.

And to get to these places here are some things you can do:

Touch (to get someones attention for example)

Hand shake (Introduction)

High fives/fist bumps (Rewards)

Hugs (Can be rewards, explanations, reasons, comfort building)

lifting her up,

kiss on the cheek,

Kiss on the lips

Make out,

etc.

The idea of the ladder is that you are going up. You can skip steps, but if she reacts negatively to one, step back, and try again until she is comfortable again.

Asking her if she wants to leave can work, but it all depends. You gotta feel it out. To hold the escalation, you gotta plan it, it depends. If the trip is like 1 hour, you can probably have sex on the way, if it's only like 20 minutes, you can chat, and make out.

[–]nopetoday[S] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks for the reply!

I have a few people in mind that I will reserve for nights with an aim. I have plenty of friends to choose from thankfully. Never thought about a relationship like a career but I guess it's just important so you are probably right :)

Really helpful to see the ladder laid out in plain sight. I guess it's natural as well, to lead from something sensitive to something even more sensitive. I definitely try this on my next night out. I can also see this working really well in the day, seeing as you aren't moving too fast and the kino encourages the sexual tension to build.

Thanks for mapping out the ways to climb the ladder too, that's really helpful and was wandering about the techniques that could be used, cheers!

I can definitely see where I have been going wrong, skipping the ladder steps can probably make a huge difference in a subtle way. This way I can make sure that she is happy with every move I make.

How many strikes would you say to leave at if she reacts negatively to a step?

Haha, having sex on the way made me laugh, I guess this relies on the basis that you have somewhere comfortable to work with, maybe a car or something. Planing for a taxi or transport before would probably be best. Thankfully I don't live an hour away from most bars.

I would probably chat or make-out in all honesty, I don't enjoy sex away from the bedroom or somewhere comfortable :/

Thanks again VMikeL, I appreciate the time and effort you put in to give me some help on this, will update Seddit when I next use these techniques!

[–]VMikeL 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link