Enjoying yourself?

eddkov · 2013-07-20T09:10:41+00:00

I dont view seduction as a conquest or a victory, because its what both of you want. She wants to be seduced, she wants to meet someone interesting and funny, someone confident and fun, someone who listens and is involved but but doesnt get too attached. Unfortunately society is such a way that its hard for women to find those guys, and its also hard for guys like that to exist.

I dont look at shit tests and all the rest as adversarial things, I look at them as verifications, its the security question on your bank account that only you know, when she puts up a shit tests and you pass it she knows that you are different from the rest. You shouldnt be actively seeking out shit tests like objectives in a video game, you should be able to pass all of them without even trying because your embody the values.

Well.... thats just like my opinion man.

2013-07-20T16:41:26+00:00

I really enjoy that you linked /r/deduction

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-20T23:00:39+00:00

Our seduction methods are not intended to depersonalize women. They are intended to depersonalize the behavior that happens between men and women. We do this in order to learn how these interactions work, and we developed a structure that enables us to analyze these social behaviors and discuss them, without confusion from emotional engagement with the people doing the behaviors.

And hey, that's the whole point. We do this stuff because we are seeking emotional engagement with women, resulting in happiness, and just plain old fun, and for the both of us. But lots of guys never learned to read the social signals that women give us, and don't realize the signals they are giving back. They become unhappy because they aren't able to handle social interactions with women. Many of them tried to get out there, all alone without any idea what they were doing, and still failed to get the experience we need. So we have some experienced guys who have studied behavioral psychology, and adapted some of those methods to discussing and teaching men (and women too) about how these social behaviors work. A little knowledge can turn someone's life around. We see testimonials about this all the time in seddit.

rousseaux · 2013-07-20T23:12:44+00:00

A whole hell of a lot of guys get into this because they've been hurt by girls, and want revenge. They naturally gravitate towards aggressive game playing, they're fighters rather than lovers, and they've decided to go to war with women. Ultimately, they seem to realise that filling gaps in themselves is more beneficial than filling holes in women. Sometimes, sadly, they don't.

Personally, I see pickup as a beautiful dance. You tease each other, things go back and forth, you both respond to each other's movements, and when it's done right, and when honest fun is the main goal, it's truly a joy to partake in and also to witness.

Sure, there are canned lines, and routines, and stupid little fucking tricks that get guys laid, but having sex for the sake of having sex isn't why I got into pickup. If you truly believe that you're the prize, you won't just give yourself away to a girl because she's better than average looking. There should be something more there to connect with, if you're going to actually feel fulfilled, and scripts and routines really aren't the way to dig deeper.

Don't get me wrong, it's good to have like a small framework, so you know where you're at and where you're going. But I think of that more as a skeleton, you already know the bones, and then between you and the new girl, you make the rest of the body out of the interaction between you.

Or at least, that's my take on the whole thing.

Title	Enjoying yourself?
Author	Typical_Tom
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	July 20, 2013 7:30 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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