Can someone explain me vulnerability and how does it apply to seduction?

Gelnn · 2013-08-02T20:51:29+00:00

itseemstoberaining · 2013-08-03T08:37:44+00:00

Pay special attention to this sentence in the article Gelnn linked:

Any expression of emotions or vulnerability must be unconditional, that is, without expectation, otherwise it’s just another form of manipulation.

Vulnerability is NOT a trick or technique. You never 'use' vulnerability to change her mind about you.

Being vulnerable means showing your real opinion, your real self, your real desires. You do those things not to make others like you. It's almost the opposite: you do those things, even if others may reject you for it. Showing yourself and opening yourself up to potential pain and rejection is vulnerability.

This ends up being attractive, because it's trying to attract her and being needy and caring too much about what she thinks that's unattractive. Being comfortable with yourself and being fine with her not being attracted to you is attractive. But the moment you use vulnerability in an attempt to attract her, you're back to being needy.

The most powerful result of being vulnerable is that it exposes (or it forces you to expose) your insecurities, anxieties and shame and that fixes them eventually. Which ends up solving most of your dating-related problems...

Baydestrian · 2013-08-03T02:12:26+00:00

I was going to post the same link Gelnn did, with a small caveat: you are a man who is so in tune with his emotional health, that you are completely open with strangers. Normal things (such as an admission of beauty to a woman's face and a subsequent rejection) that would phase normal dudes doesn't phase you, because you are in tune with yourself so much so that she can't throw you off course.

Seeing this, and possibly digging this fearless show from a male who is so in tune with his self worth that he can expose himself to a total stranger, gets the lady interested.

2013-08-04T23:52:20+00:00

here you go man!

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

not tailored to vulnerabillity in pickup, but still very informational

Title	Can someone explain me vulnerability and how does it apply to seduction?
Author	hahah1123
Upvotes	5
Comments	6
Date	August 2, 2013 7:59 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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