Generating attraction, but struggling with the next step

VMikeL · 2013-09-01T14:29:03+00:00

Talk yourself up much?

Okay, sexual intent. That is what you're lacking. If you don't show your desire for her, she may not open up to you, or maybe she does, but you took too long so she's like "Neeeeext." Hence, the friendzone.

Want them to come back to your room? Give them a reason. Have a mini after party with alcohol and music. What about that yotube video you wanted to show her? Is she hungry? Guess who's got food.

allex8800 · 2013-09-01T14:38:40+00:00

Ugh sounds like torture. Feel your pain.

Personally, I like to use a lot of cocky & funny accusations to start sexualizing the conversation.

Stop looking at me like that, I'm not a piece of meat.
I'm not gonna give it up that easy, I need to be romanced.
You're such a perv, keep your hands to yourself (then do a lot of kino).

This is pretty simple push-pull type stuff and really effective to create a sexy, flirtatious vibe. Basically use whatever a woman would say to you when you're getting too aggressive.

In terms of getting them back to your place you have to seed and give her plausible deniability. Mention in conversation:

I just got this awesome movie from Netflix.
I just got this amazing bottle of wine.
You should see my awesome record collection.
I have an awesome view.

Then after letting some time pass: hey, let's go to my place so you can see/watch/listen/drink... whatever.

Even if its stretching the truth and you only have a bottle of genetic red wine, just talk it up like crazy. It doesn't matter.

I was actually interested in her, but she thought I wasn't and I had no idea how to convince her otherwise.

You have to get out of a "convincing", aka begging, mindset. Start talking to women emotionally and becoming that fun guy.

Everyone has their own style, but I probably would've responded "none of these hoes could handle my doggy style" (i'm a giant nerd, so its ridiculous for me to say that).

She's not looking for an answer, she's looking for you to play with her. Then you can create a fun, sexual vibe from that.

Title	Generating attraction, but struggling with the next step
Author	adilthethrill
Upvotes	0
Comments	2
Date	September 1, 2013 1:49 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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