I've seen a lot of people arguing over the who nice guy and asshole dichotomy. I wanted to talk about a better comparison of two archetypes that would better suit most situations. This is the idea of the dominant guy and the submissive guy. Where as the dominant guy is the model that men should strive to be, while the submissive guy is the model that men should avoid.

Dominance vs Submissiveness

It's fairly known that women are attracted to the type of man who dominates, whether its her, or other people in his life. Now, by dominance, I'm talking about being a leader and being assertive. Dominant men know what they want and how to get things done, if they have issues they address those issues instead of cowering and accepting the opinions of others to avoid offending anyone. They know how to take action and give value because they FEEL like giving value, not because they feel like they need validation. A dominant man should be the type that people try to validate themselves too, because they see him as high value and a model for masculinity.

Dominant men know how to win over her affection with their confident and assertive personality. They don't need to buy her gifts or constantly compliment her to get her to like them. Dominant men don't become needy and look to constantly validate themselves to the girl. They know how to give value, but don't just give it for the sake of it. Compared to the submissive guy, who looks for the girl to dominate him, and give him the validation that he's always craving. Submissive men falsely believe that they must submit themselves to the girl in order to win her over.

In truth, women HATE it when a man doesn't want to be dominant. They HATE it when a man can't make decisions himself and always tries to coax her to choose (in some sad attempt to win her favor). They HATE it when a man is always giving more than she gives herself. They HATE it when a guy doesn't stand up for himself when they test his boundaries. THEY HATE SUBMISSIVENESS.

Submissiveness is a sign of femininity, and women do not want to date other women. So why are men acting submissive (or feminine) in order to get a woman? Dominance is a sign of masculinity, and it is a very known fact that very masculine men do attract women. It's a subconscious desire for women to chase a man who can lead her and can be a leader to others.

Now of course, it's not like you should ignore the what your girl wants, it's important to give value to her as well and let her make decisions here and there, as well as lead from time and time. For the most part, it's important that she can look up to know how to lead in a relationship, and that you are leading most of the time.

If she does something that is unacceptable, put down your boundaries and don't let her get away with pushing you around. If she acts entitled, call her out on it and let her know that's unacceptable. Don't submit to her, don't give in and beg for her validation or let her get away with bad behavior. She will love ten times more for not being afraid to be a MAN.

Conclusion: Dominance is key, and is the heart of game.