The virtues of the friend versus the virtues of the lover, or exactly why the "friend zone" exists.

SimplePickup5 · 2013-09-18T02:20:05+00:00

You know, considering that this is a new website, and that an article was already posted here yesterday from your site, I thought "great, another guy trying to promote this own blog". But this was brilliant. Truly, is it exactly what I needed right now. You've provided a model that explains a lot of my previous interactions with women: the ones that have been into me sexually and the ones that haven't. And then you wrapped it up by emphasizing that we're not replacing our good guy values, just spicing them up with a new set of behaviours that possibly enhance the original values in the first place. Again, well done.

awwyeah123456789 · 2013-09-18T09:15:45+00:00

Really enjoyed the summation at the end as well. I think that helped me understand what ive been feeling about it all, in terms of the purpose of these seduction techniques/skills. Theres some aspects of it all I dont really buy into, and I was turned off in some ways because I valued some of my good qualities such as compassion, honesty and a nurturing side. But its totally true when you said its not about replacing these values with other things, but rather enhancing them with the sexually charged virtues.

This is something ive really been learning, and glad to finally understand more. For a long time I was stuck with not expressing these dark virtues, the sexually charged chemistry side, at least not to a very high degree. And I wasnt fully understanding the lack of attraction I was getting back from women, even though I could connect with them so well with all my 'good virtues'. Anyways, good write up, I think this will help a lot of people with a deeper understanding of what these boards are all about.

Cyrusk4 · 2013-09-18T08:18:25+00:00

Oh man that photo is priceless. Where the hell did you find this picture?

Tekes88 · 2013-09-18T10:09:00+00:00

Thanks mate, this is exactly what I needed. The way you described Friends virtues and compared them to the Lovers virtues made complete sense to me. A follow up article on how to build these alternate virtues would be great or just any links or info you might know of would be great help. Thanks again.

Lightning14 · 2013-09-18T10:28:00+00:00

Excellent article. I'd say it sums up the two sides well. The obvious aim for all men should be to develop all of these virtues to be the modern alpha male, and one that women will not only be sexually attracted to, but will rationally want to stay with.

parkakrap · 2013-09-18T12:35:25+00:00

I'll echo the above sentiments - good write up. I've a girl that seems to slide me in and out of FZ. It's as frustrating as hell to make solid progress then suddenly hit uncertainty and get pushed back. This has happened several times over the last year. Each time there's some carry over from any escalation so I'm feeling there must be some attraction other than just friendship. Will try and put some focus on recalibrating my virtues. Look forward to any further thoughts you blog!

Cyrusk4 · 2013-09-18T22:28:11+00:00

http://developedman.com/escape-friend-zone/ <-- Here's the follow-up. Not posting it on /r/seduction so I'm not a toolbag spammer, though.

Title	The virtues of the friend versus the virtues of the lover, or exactly why the "friend zone" exists.
Author	Cyrusk4
Upvotes	42
Comments	18
Date	September 17, 2013 11:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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