So I have an ex girlfriend who ended things and I took it way harder than I should have. I found /r/seduction, and almost 2 years later, here I am practicing, learning, and enjoying some success.

Anyway - I'm friends with the ex. We really just go running together, and that's about it. I know better than to pursue her because there are other, BETTER women out there.

So she has a housewarming party, and I'm actually pumped because I knew it was a good opportunity to have some fun and meet some new chicks.

That was my goal - just to lay rap on her friends. Knowing her, she'd be fine with it...if she was sober.

So I was doing well - I'm way older than everyone (I'm 27, they're all in their early 20s - sometimes age differences hurts, and other times it helps value - it's best to just not make it apparent, IMO), and eventually I'm with an HB7, kinoing her hard, teasing, all that.

EDIT: I made sure to isolate her in the basement. I built up enough comfort through humor, listening, and really - shutting the fuck up. The power of silence is poorly understood in western culture. I learned this in a public speaking course

My ex - she comes down and sees us, and shoots me an angry, jealous look and leaves. I really didn't care, and I continued to lay rap with the HB7.

She's a science person (PhD), and I was a bio undergrad. My thing was teasing her, making jokes, and kinoing the shit out of her (there are few magic bullets - kino is one of them. Just touch. Don't think. Just touch).

She was kinoing me back too. Rubbing my leg just for the sake of rubbing my leg. It was on.

So I'm going to go in for the K-Close when two things hit me all of a sudden - she mentions her fiancee, and I realize she's fucking hammered. These are dealbreakers for me. I'm not going to close with someone so annihilated and I'm not at all for pissing off some unseen fiancee.

So I politely eject and figure I'm just going to call it a night. I had fun, I laid down good rap, and that was all that was important.

My ex finds me, and tells me I'm going to sleep in her bed with her. Now I think most of us know it goes with banging an ex. It's easy, and as long as you protect yourself, you don't need to think or even try.

So she tells me we're going to fuck. We're both naked, making out, and she tells me she has the spins and that we can fuck in the morning.

Again, I'm not going to have sex with someone that drunk.

I was pretty sure that she was full of shit, so I called her on it, and passed out. If it happens, it happens, but it sounded to me like it wasn't going to.

I wake up. And to make the story short, we didn't fuck. She told me she didn't want to have sex with me.

My reaction was simple. I calmly told her "that's entirely your loss" without whining or getting angry - I put on my clothes, got some water and left.

I'm frustrated, but I'm over it. She's one girl.

My questions are as follows:

  • How do you avoid this from happening? I have the feeling that this will not be the last time this happens in general (it IS the last time with her). Is this just an inherent risk of gaming girls who are drinking?

  • What reaction would have worked best in the morning (or at night) to when I got rejected? I think acting so calm and telling her that it was her loss was good, but is there a better way?

EDIT: I want to also add that with the exception of my crash and burn, this is, in my opinion a good way to get out of the friend zone, if that's your goal. I've read enough [FR]s and tips that basically say "game chicks when you're hanging out with her" and I agree. If my ex didn't always have her emotional guard up, she wouldn't be passively aggressively trying to manipulate me. And hell - if you can't get the girl, you at least get the confirmation that she's not worth it.