A quest of a boy to a man

kennotheking · 2013-10-28T21:01:46+00:00

I don't see anything wrong with your list. In fact, I like that you're putting in the time to assess your overall progress. That said, the most effective use of time would be approaching girls. If you're not comfortable leaving tracks at your school, try approaching at the local junior college or state school.

But ya, you're not gonna be a man until you can walk up to any woman, introduce yourself and kino escalate. Fixing your teeth, getting buff, dressing nice, while good, are all immaterial.

Callizero · 2013-10-28T20:09:18+00:00

Your number 2 stood out to me as you can also improve your social skills with it. Sign up to the gym, start going as many days as you can and your confidence will go sky high. You will start holding your self different, wanting to eat better, be more confident in groups and look better and just generally be healthier which will result in better skin.

I would stay away from those Seduction articles as I honestly think if you follow your own rules you've listed you wont have an issue, you can do everything you've put here and read online to practice but it will all rely on one thing. ASKING THE GIRL OUT - You will get shot down but damn, it's only a no, your not attracted to every girl so you can't expect them all to be attracted to you. Honestly I give you this one piece of advice... Kick a ball at a goal 1000 times, it's got to go in once. Try try try (without looking like a desperado) get confident and you'll get a girl, belive me. A little tip I use alot is if I want to get a girls number I will go have prepaired in my hand my number on paper, if she doesn't give me hers I will say "Ok then, take myne if you want to use it go for it if not then no biggy", I can't tell you the amount of girls who've refused to give me their number have texted me a few days after lol

euph0r1a · 2013-10-28T09:20:59+00:00

First, some housekeeping.

<Thou shalt put a link to [SR] here>

Stop using language like this, it's not doing you any favours.

Goals like:

[~] Get a more meaningful life
[ ] Move towards at least 1 long-term goal

are impossible to track, drop them or make them more specific, like the rest of your list.

I don’t drink/smoke/use drugs and never have and never will;

Why? (Genuinely asking here, doing none of these will handicap you in a social situation)

Next, good on you for wanting to make yourself a better person. Even better for making approachable goals, and ones that aren't revolving solely around picking up women.

The fitness and dressing related goals should be priority #1, do some research into how to find clothes that fit you well and work for your body shape. If you own a fedora, cut it into tiny pieces and throw it in the bin, for everyone's sake.

[ ] Remove sloppy dressing- go for smart-casual

[ ] Two pair of jeans

[ ] Two white t-shirts

[ ] One pair of nice casual shoes

[ ] Socks, socks, socks

All of these can be knocked over in an afternoon. Do you know any guys who have a clue about fashion? Ask them where/how to shop if you do, or even to go along with you and give you a hand.

How do you dress now? How would you LIKE to dress? There's nothing wrong with wearing the type of clothes you're comfortable, but they have to match your personality and fit you well. A $100 shirt will still look like shit if it's too big for you.

You mentioned 'smart casual' - so what, like polos, button downs, etc? If you're in the US/Europe, lucky you, winter is coming, so while you're working on your fitness you can wear slightly bulkier clothing if weight is an issue for you and pull it off quite nicely.

Give me an idea of what you want to wear and I'll try my best to point you in the right direction. I'm feeling generous.

Fitness! Is there a gym near you? Gym's are awesome. Go read /r/fitness's FAQ's if you're totally lost, there's a wealth of information there to get you started. The most important thing to keep in mind is that this is a looooooooong term goal, and once you get started you'll keep wanting to improve forever. Take it slow, don't get too discouraged if you don't see massive changes overnight - they'll come with time.

You aren't going to have a six pack and massive biceps by the Christmas Party, but you WILL feel a million times better about yourself. Exercising is the best stress reliever of all time, you'll love it.

Lastly, I didn't notice any other hobby-related goals aside from video games (which is totally fine, I play probably too much DOTA). Is there anything else you like doing? Anything that you want to try, but haven't? Now's your opportunity!

Learn an instrument (bitches love classical guitar), take martial arts(100x this, discipline, motivation, exercise and camaraderie, what more could you ask for?), go rock climbing, anything you want.

The one rules I have for hobbies other than gaming, are they have to be challenging, and they have to demonstrate value. No point spending hours upon hours exclusively doing things that won't help you in life.

If you've got any questions, hit me up, I'd be happy to help. Good luck bro!

S_education · 2013-11-23T20:55:47+00:00

Update 23.11

Went to the orthodontist today- my case is rather hopeless. Unless of course i find approximately 32 000 - 75 000 € (43 363 -101 633$). *sigh not going to happen in 5 years.... I suppose I just have to accept my weakness and embrace it.
~14 approaches in one night
organized a hangout

S_education · 2013-12-10T11:23:23+00:00

Update 10.12

Sub-goal achieved: "Remove sloppy dressing- go for smart-casual "
Sub-goal achieved: "Be able to do 50 push-ups in a row"
Sub-goal achieved: "Touch 20 different people who I am talking to at least once"
Progress: "be able to do 150 crunches in a row." 120->130
Progress: "Address supermarket cashier 20 times by his/her name." +2
New goal: "Get the first real kiss"

S_education · 2014-02-07T17:38:50+00:00

Update 07.02 2014

I went back to swimming.
Hugging, playfulness goal completed
Reduced computer usage to 4h per day.
I am able to do 120 crunches with ease

2013-10-28T08:51:43+00:00

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kostaz8 · 2013-10-28T20:53:35+00:00

I think that is a good thing not to do drugs,BUT doing drugs will help you understand many things in life.Your first target should be getting drunk just dont overdo it.Now after that many people are going to disagree with me but i think trying mdma will help you a lot in many aspects of your life.I think that your not some stupid kid, you can search some stuff about drugs gather some info about them,people are afraid of them because of propaganda, dont be like them try different things learn from them allways be carefull.

Title	A quest of a boy to a man
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Date	October 28, 2013 8:45 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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