I was talking with my mom about my visit to the bar last night.

I met up with two of my close friends. There was a group of 10 or so. I hate bars. I saw an attractive female who I thought I might know. I didn't make a move, I felt hyper-aware and anxious about making a social interaction. I froze and the night just drifted by.

I ended up going home in regret, and I felt the need to go on facebook and confirm if it was her. I talked to my friend on Skype who knew her and it was her. I lost an opportunity to get to know someone because I feared social judgment. I talked to my mom about it this morning and she gave me some wisdom.

How will you get to know the girl if you don't talk to them?

Update: 12/1/13 My mom gave me advice to use the internet on how to date from successful people.