I'm posting this more as a personal reminder and revelation than anything. My hope is that it could result in some discussion on self control or or some shit.

Every time I see an attractive girl, all I do is continually check her out, basically until she's out of my line of sight or leaves the vicinity. I literally stare, eyes locked on like a sniper, at her tits and ass and feel overcome with desire and lust for that girl. I've always told myself that I just highly appreciate the female form, but I'm realizing that's just a PC way of saying "I view women as sex objects." A coworker of mine even commented on my behavior when attractive girls come by our department - she said I'll see a girl, stop whatever I'm doing and walk off (in cute girl's direction). The saddest part of it is that I rarely even talk to these girls, and if I do it's mostly the standard "can I help you find something?" I do this at the gym a lot too and I'll catch myself following girls around, checking them out and realize I'm behaving totally irrationally. KNOW WHEN YOUR BEHAVIOR IS IRRATIONAL!! If you catch yourself going out of your way to check a girl out or something, stop all bodily movement and think, "is what I'm doing rational?" If the answer is no then either approach woman or go about your business.

What I've begun to see is how this kind of irrational behavior stemming from lust and desire affects me. It makes me absolutely, cringingly needy. It puts every girl into this sexual-prize frame and I therefore won't interact with her as if she's an actual human being. My unrequited desire for this person I don't even know puts so much pressure on me/the interaction, because my only focus and motivation is sex, that it inevitably blows up in my face and becomes a fairly short and awkward experience. I mean going from stranger to sex is a pretty complicated process and just because you'll stick your dick in anything with yoga pants, doesn't mean she's ready to take them off.

Right now I'd just like to get my head back into a place where sex isn't my sole motivation, and I can talk to women like they're not some intimidating sex goddess that I must sleep with. I'd really like to hear your guys thoughts/tips on how to overcome and control such intense feelings of desire, it'd be very helpful. OR, maybe some ways to utilize such feelings.

TL;DR - An abundance of lust will not result in an abundance of women, it will only make you needy. Conquer and control your desires and you'll become more attractive to her and yourself.