So its been a while since I’ve done one of these but I thought I’d share my previous night out to gain some constructive criticism from you guys. Heads up, grammar is going to be horrible because I don’t have that much time to write this.

Yesterday night I went out to my friend’s college party. Not that large, probably no more than 40-50 people at most, but more importantly I knew about 20 of them. Going into the party I didn’t hold any expectations, assuming it was just going to be a small social gathering that I’d try to game. After saying hello to people I haven’t seen in a while I start to pull the bullshit of walking around looking for someone I know to talk to. After about 30 min of this I walk outside to take a phone call, this is where the night began. Walking back into the party I noticed a 2 set. Realizing that at worst I don’t know them, fuck it up and just leave, I decide to open (keep in mind this is coming from the AA mindset I had the whole night up to this point).

  • Set 1: 2 chicks, hb8 and hb6, looking bored and talking to each other outside of the party. I approach them, introduced my self and start small talk. No sooner than 4 minutes later the conversation dies off and I have no idea what to do. Grabbing the hb8’s hand, I tell both of them to go into the dance floor w/ me since they’re just standing outside in the cold. I end up dancing/grinding/hooking up with the chick ect. Her friend eventually decides to leave and tries to drag her friend along, this is where I fucked up. The hb8 told me she “HAS” to leave with her and I bullshit about going with them. I eventually just thought fuck it, got her number and decided to deal with it later.

My wing, with much less AA then me, arrives and opens set 2

  • Set 2: Wing is chatting up a 2 set, 2 HB8’s, one talking to him, the other sitting next to her looking bored, so I open her. She’s a little bitchy at first but I essentially ignore anything she’s throwing at me. I create a secret handshake with her, something I do quite frequently to re-establish rapport if I leave and return. I forget what we ended up talking about but I did basic push/pull, played with her hair, and would hold hands for a while after the handshake, stuff like that. It was going well but the interaction didn’t have that “Spark” that I wanted. Her friend ended up wanting to leave so they left.

Wing and I, prepared to go to a local bar (as the party is winding down early) do a final sweep of the place.

  • Set 3: another 2 set, hb9 from my high school and hb8 friend. She is SUPER BITCHY to me at first, not allowing any sort of opener to land. After reminding her how we knew each other, she remembered who I was and immediately opened up. As my wing wasn’t doing too well w/ the other girl and we were prepared to leave, I grab their numbers for the following night. We ended up going to the bar which was dead, and just hit on random chicks walking around outside the bars. By this point I was in state and had no objection to opening.

  • Overview:

  • Set 1: I think that Set 1 could have led to an f-close if I persisted. Her friend was cool with me and the chick was pretty invested. I think I should have tried to move her around a little bit, ie take her outside away from her friend to isolate her. There I could have “vibed” and solidified rapport, then get her to leave. Next time I’ll remember to do this.

  • Set 2: I think I should have been more dynamic. I remember in a video from RSD-Julian, he would “create drama” by telling a crazy but fake story. This would emotionally spike her, then after a while (a LONG while), he would say he’s just joking. Other than that, I just need to learn how to deal with friends more, and get better at isolating.

  • Set 3: went pretty bad but I’m pretty happy with how I dealt with it, getting the number at the right moment and telling the girls that we’ll meet tomorrow and go to the bar.

I’m pretty satisfied with the night and learned of what I need to work on. I’m really happy with the state that I was able to reach by the end of the night. This really helped me to see how opening everything can be good to build state. Any suggestions on dealing w/ friends and isolating the girl, or going from k-close to f-close would be appreciated.