So for a long time, I would talk to girls, and once things didn't seem to be going as well, I'd kinda just say goodbye and leave.

I've been watching this video by RSD Julien, and in it he mentions keeping enough sexual pressure on the girl. Too little and she's bored/friendzone, too much and you'll make her uncomfortable.

Basically, you be a sexual man that must be welcomed or rejected.

The other night, my friend and I approached a two set in the bar. Eventually, I'm sitting next to the cute blonde.

So I'm touching her arm, her back, her legs, playing with her hair and rubbing her neck. She's giving a neutral response, not looking me in the eye a great deal or any significant IOIs.

I get closer, put my leg in contact with hers, and go in for the kiss.

She rejects me, asks me to back up some and give her some space, as I just met her. I oblige her, and explain that I just wanted to touch her because I find her attractive.

We kept talking for a while, and it didn't go anywhere, but I'll spare you the details.

THIS is the point: Put yourself out there. You're going to get rejected, and some women are going to welcome your advances. Stop wondering if girls want you or not and start making damn sure.