I have a date with a girl way out of my league in 6 hours. Need last minute advice. Details inside.

Samdrem · 2014-03-21T18:30:36+00:00

No one is out of another person's league. Just be yourself and ask open ended questions. Also, I find if you are nervous, tell her that you are. Remember, she's on a date with you, that means the interest is already there. Just be calm, and collected. And ask her questions, bring up your surroundings, also go to a few different places if you can. The more places you visit the more trust she will have and the longer the date will feel. Good luck man.

okcupidacct · 2014-03-21T18:47:12+00:00

It's too late to make any changes, bro. If I was your dating/seduction coach I'd say:

1) Stop obsessing right now. The worst thing you can do is try to "cram" preparation in. Stop going over the things you hate about yourself, that's the worst possible thing you can do. Relax, have fun, she's meeting you because she's attracted to you.

2) Make sure you escalate/close or something. She won't suggest another date if you don't, she won't be the first to lean in and kiss, etc.

I thought about complimenting on her looks as soon as I see her and open up with a few jokes to gauge her reaction.

3) Don't do this. The best thing you can do right now is largely not care. Just pretend you're a guy with 10 other girls lined up and go from there. That doesn't mean give in to your fear to not escalate, it means relax, take chances, be natural, don't overthink it. Just relax, remember she is sexually attracted to you, and go from there.

4) Come back tomorrow and we can deal with the rest. This is gonna take months to change, not 5-6 hours. Cramming in is COUNTERPRODUCTIVE as you're putting yourself in a "I suck" state, which is going to be transmitted to her instantly. Spend some time thinking about how awesome you are, so you exude that when you meet her.

PS Watch a Russell Brand interview or something before you go. He's CRAZY and extreme, but he'll get you somewhat into the mood.

justmythr0waway · 2014-03-21T18:49:00+00:00

Lose the attitude of someone being "out of your league" to start. Thinking like that is only setting yourself up to fail and giving you an excuse for why you failed afterwards.

Other than that don't go into it expecting anything. Your just there to have a good time. If you guys click and set up something for another meet up great, if there's absolutely no chemistry what so ever no big deal. Either result doesn't have to mean anything unless you say it does.

kingzombymandias · 2014-03-21T19:02:02+00:00

Pretend she's not out of your league, pretend you are out of her league and you are doing her a service by going out with her.

2014-03-21T18:39:47+00:00

Wow, you will fail if you go in to it thinking all this garbage about yourself.

Focus on what makes you awesome, and exude it. Seek having a fun time, so do shit you like, let her live in YOUR world.

puaCurveBall · 2014-03-21T19:07:50+00:00

This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl

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Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know

daddy01 · 2014-03-21T19:20:26+00:00

You’ve gotten some good advice; some of this will overlap:

Don’t open with random jokes, this looks desperate. You could try and open with a hug.
Starting in interview mode is OK, you just need to transition it beyond that, ask open-ended questions like “tell me about your thesis”, if it’s hard to get more than a short answer then answer the question as if she had asked it, but end in another open ended question
If she talks about herself most of the time, take this as a good sign, NOT a bad sign!! Contribute to HER conversation; if she mentions something that you can add to, then open your mouth; not in a one-up-man-ship way and not with an abrupt interruption. For example, if she mentions China and you have been to China, give her one of your observations, but end in another open-ended question. People love talking about themselves and their passions, if she’s doing this she’s having a great time and you are there looking into her eyes; the association is strong, she will feel like she has been on a great date and YOU made her feel great.
This is not a test you can cram for!! Practice makes perfect; if you do blow this, just chalk it up to experience and keep abundance mentality, you seem to be getting a lot of dates, keep trying, it only gets easier and better
I think you need to build up some more self-confidence before you do major kino, but when you change venues either hold her hand or guide her by gently touching her lower back.

HappyJerk · 2014-03-21T18:29:14+00:00

You're going to fail and suck horribly. So stop worrying about it and be yourself.

n0ss3 · 2014-03-21T18:55:09+00:00

Jerk off. And think that afterall, even women shit and emit terribile smells. All of them.

Slice_n_dice · 2014-03-21T18:37:15+00:00

A good combo of Xanax and adderall would get you in the right mood. I know seddit doesn't like crutches though.

Title	I have a date with a girl way out of my league in 6 hours. Need last minute advice. Details inside.
Author	okcupidacct
Upvotes	15
Comments	24
Date	March 21, 2014 6:25 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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