I'm a psychology nut. I talk to lots of people that have or are on the road to Phd's n shit, and I just love talking and sharing ideas. I don't go to school for it, it's a very big hobby/passion of mine, and I already have a career in another field, so I ask that you please be open-minded, and take the time and effort for some positive feedback.

Generally speaking, a lot people (even the Dr.s) believe a lot of psychology is pseudo, but can sometimes make sense in application.

Anyway, I want to talk about one major discovery that kinda changed me in this game. It targets those who specifically start with AA or get nervous, pissed or just about anything when they game.

So I want to ask you all, for just personal discussion and experimenting.

What do you do or think when you see an attractive girl? Looking for honest sincere answers.

If you can, just go on google images and type in hot girl or whatever, and tell me what exactly it is that you feel when you see these images. Try to be conscious, what do you think?

Do you get happy? Do you get nervous? Do you get horny? Do you get pissed? Do you get anything?

The idea is that I personally feel interactions with women can become a hyper analyzed scenario in the brain mind, in which the guy gets something. It may be anxiety, it may be arrogance, it could be anything. I just believe there is a trigger that definitely warrants a change in behavior.

My focus is particularly those who get anxiety. Reason being is because there's this inevitable fear of getting rejected or shot down. But that fear is really kinda a movie playing in your head. It's not truth, but your mind believes it to be so. Almost to the point where you've created a cognitive habit to the point where even when you see a hot girl, you queue that "movie" to play, which leads to a dreadful cycle of more AA.

Essentially, the irrational fear is habitually stored in the the uncousious thought without your consious permission.

So the cycle is

1) See hot girl --> Determine She's Hot --> Que irrational fear of rejection --> Play movie or false future with rejection --> get anxiety.

My idea is that you can change that by forcibly practicing that "movie" you play when you see an attractive girl, in attempts to make that particular video the new video you see every time you see a hot girl.

The video you'd play in your mind would be of your winning her over, making her smile, telling a joke, James Bonding it, or James Deaning it (if you catch my drift)

I personally believe that just staring at images of attractive women, and then smiling, while imagining you sweet talking her over and over again can result in amazing progress when dealing with women, or anxiety in general. Doing it habitually to the point where when you see an attractive girl, you get intensely happy and become excited to approach rather than anxious and unwilling.

It kinda runs parallel with that whole TED talk about how forcing your body language in a confident manner which actually trigger a confident psyche.

Ted talk about body language, for those who'd like to see it (fantastic watch) http://www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are

Let me know. Thanks guys.