I'll start by saying although I was a shy child due to bullying and insecurities (i was rather fat as a kid, and although I'm physically fit and my BMI is normal, I still have a beer belly) but these days I'm much more extroverted (5 years of drama training will do that to you). I'm currently at uni, but in a different city to the actual campus. Where we study is just a small poky building with about 30 people on the course, 50/50 men and women, and none are available, or I'm not interested in them. I won't say I'm a nice guy, I am, but there's more to me than just not being a cunt. I'm a very funny guy. Years of being picked on has gifted me with a very sharp wit, and also made me very sarcastic. Most people I know think I'm funny, so that's something. I'm clever, I love to read and learn, and I'm a sucker for a deep conversation.

All in all I make a very good brother/friend/colleague. Not a good boyfriend though. I am not good looking or charismatic, I don't give off sexual energy and I've never done more than kiss and feel a girls tits. I like to think I'm dateable, but the data suggests otherwise. I also have trouble meeting women, I feel weird just randomly talking to women in the streets, and I'm holding off starting an okcupid account until I move out.

I don't think my standards are high, looks are not a priority, I tend to be more attracted to regular looking women than super hot ones. All I really want in a woman is someone friendly, who I enjoy spending time with, who I can blaze a spliff and watch Buffy with and then talk about how fucked up the war in Iraq was, then have sex. Am I too demanding?

Should also add I'm not interested in one night stands, aside from not knowing how to chat up women (though I can talk to them no problem, just wouldn't know what to say to get them in bed) I don't think casual sex is my thing. I'm a romantic soul, and I'm more attracted to personality than looks so I'd want to go on a few dates before sex. Of course, I've never actually had a date... I've considered a GFE escort, but I don't have the money and I live in the north of England so the only prostitutes round here are trafficked meth addicts :/

What can I do? I don't want to be a 30 year old virgin like some people on here, and it sucks thinking no woman wants you.