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social_scrying · 2014-03-31T04:30:40+00:00

Welcome! It doesnt matter where you start from, if you listen to the general advice here and are persistent enough, you will get where you want to be. Id like to start you off.

This thread is about seduction. Seduction is NOT just about having sex with girls. It is a lifestyle. The most effective way to attract girls is to actually be attractive (seems stupid, but its necessary to say), so that is what you should be aiming for. There are no quick ways out of this. There are no short cuts. There are many roads, all claiming to be the best. You will fail many times before you succeed.

There are two questions you should ask yourself:

1) what are the characteristics about a man that makes him attractive?

2) how do I go about acquiring those characteristics?

I would recommend reading some of the suggested readings that suit your interests, they can be found by searching this sub. Mark Mansons "models" is a fantastic book and I cant count how many times i have recommended it. Read every page of it, its worth the money. It covers some very fundamental ideas of how attraction works, and gives you a foundation to grow from. Neil Straus's "the game" is considered the grail of pickup, and many find their motivation to get into these topics there. I would recommend reading this as well.

Your problems you present are very common. So common, in fact, they are on the front page of this sub 24/7.

all I want is to interact with woman

You are putting woman on a pedestal. If you treat someone like they are above you, they will treat you like you are below them.

In my head I answer that question with he must have money, its because he has the physical gifts women want, and things of that sort.

You do not need these characteristics to be attractive. Yes, they can be attractive qualities, but there are other characteristics that are weighted much more heavily than these, like confidence and direction in life.

my standards for a partner looks wise might be a little high

Repetition enforces seduction ideas. The more reps you do, the better you get. Its hard to do that with high standards and not approaching. Reps for jesus!

I rarely approach women out of fear

you have approach anxiety. This is most guys biggest sticking point. I would be beating a dead horse by writing any more on this topic. Material on how to get over AA is abundant in this sub.

Just can't keep it up sometimes and from past experience I just would think too much about it and lose my erection during sex.

Seduction doesnt really cover sex techniques. If you are having sex with a girl, you have already seduced her. This might work itself out in time.

I have brought the number of times I masturbate down substantially over the past month.

On one side of the coin, lack of sexual arousal when you go out wont do you any favors for approaching girls. Sexual arousal can give you extra motivation to talk to girls. On the other side of the coin, a lack of sexual arousal will make you less likely to fuck up a conversation by pushing too sexually. For you, I would say this bit is a null factor. Dont worry about the masturbation thing until you get the other parts sorted out.

Overall I honestly think that I'm wasting my potential by not getting out there and experimenting with other woman.

Yes, yes you are. How can you motivate yourself to go out more? Just remember, going out should be about having fun first, above everything else. If you dont have fun, you wont go out.

Give the concepts in this sub time to work. Once you start seeing the bigger picture, your life will change. Its a fantastic feeling to have control over everything you want socially.

enzo32ferrari · 2014-03-31T11:44:31+00:00

first, before you even try any of the techniques out here, you need to focus on improving/upgrading yourself. search for articles on this sub about "inner game". perfect your inner game, and then move onto techniques to use in the field, "outer game".

Title	First post
Author	highlighter14
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Date	March 31, 2014 1:55 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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