Hey /r/seduction. Online dating field report here. I tried hard to put in some theory and reasoning instead of just "I did xyz".

http://sangnamjaa.wordpress.com/2014/05/10/okcupid-petite-black-girl/

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Let me be clear: I hate online dating. OKCupid embodies every disadvantage for men in the sexual marketplace:

  • Skewed gender ratio
  • Flaky girls
  • Photoshopped/altered photos (lack of realism)
  • Can't control the nature of interactions online (which is very underrated in Game)

In any case, I do use OKCupid because a) it's a passive resource for sex; no real time is wasted other than mass messaging every few days, b) it's free, c) it can help immensely with dry spells.

I was able to meet this particular girl right away after just 4-5 messages. Invited her out for a drink on Friday night at like 10 pm. She agreed. Right there you know a girl is DTF if she meets you 1:1 with alcohol late night (keep in mind, I live in a large metro area where most don't drive cars. Thus, any girl who meets you past 9 pm is staying with you for awhile).

Tip: Logistics is key. Controlling the nature/location/intensity/manner of your interactions with a woman is huge. I could be wearing the same clothes and be the same person but things would have gone differently if I met her at a coffee shop at 11 am

In addition to logistics, you have sexual availability, sexual attraction, and alcohol (optional, obviously. But I'm talking about 'first night-lays' and 'one night stands', so you can't underestimate the power of a few drinks to lighten the mood).

With sexual availability, I'm talking about 'target selection'. Of course you take what you can get, but if you're out to get laid on your first date, you must select women who are DTF as well. A young, attractive, single woman in a large city meeting a guy off OKCupid? I'd say she's sexually available. In fact, women make themselves available to varying degrees. Church/school/bus? You're going to have a harder time. Club/bar/beach party/festival? Easy as cake.

With sexual attraction, I mean exactly what it seems like. This is the most important factor obviously. For me, I value 'sexual marketvalue' indicators over routines/hacks/lines/word games/etc. In that regard, my game is very passive. I workout religiously, have a decent-good body, have pretty good fashion, am tall & surround myself with social proof (friends; women). Cultivating these factors will garner you women solely as a byproduct (plus you'll be improving yourself anyway).

Back to the cute black girl. We headed to a sports bar. I usually try to get the girl to play darts or pool, so I can "make a bet" on the winner. I always win so I tell them they must give me a kiss. Here's the deal: even if you lose, if you tell them you want that kiss anyway, it won't matter. The game is just a framework; it's your confidence and sexual value that they really care about. If you have been "challenging" them and teasing them all night, the kiss will be expected. And after you makeout, it's always boom time.

After leaving the bar, we actually headed straight home for sex. Here's where it got freaky though. We passed some old alleyway between two buildings under construction. I pulled her in for a kiss and ended up fucking her doggystyle right there. Oh, and she swallows~ Afterwards she tried to challenge me "hmm how many girls do you do that with?" but I was able to keep frame "Too many to count! But you really know how to keep my attention so don't you worry~"

Summary: a) cultivate passive resources for women (your targets), b) cultivate passive SMV (body, social proof), c) logistics, sexual attraction/availability, and alcohol (atmosphere), d) and 'Act without Asking'. This mindset/process garners me first night lays probably 80% of the time I meet a girl 1:1.