This post is just a summary of concepts I've developed over the past years in a particular type of seduction that is not frequently discussed. For those who need reminding, keep those plates spinning while you do this stuff.

Some Background:

Ever since I graduated high school (about 5 years ago) I've been jumping around Europe and the USA. This let me meet quite a few interesting girls scattered all over. Knowing I would probably be in their area (or they in mine) again sometime and that I would definitely want to bang them, I would just make sure we were FB friends by the time I left (or I got an email, but FB is better) and begin talking to them after a while.

Why Write This?

I haven't seen much material written on this type of game. Texting and FB chatting are usually treated as things to do quick to ensure a second date within days, with the seduction taking place in person mainly. But almost no material (to my knowledge) on actual seduction through these means. For any men that are travelling often, this will be useful (I hope). Plus with this increasingly globalized world, it is not uncommon for people to be in at least 3 different countries in a year (at least in Europe this is quite common). In the USA though, think interstate bangs. And no, I don't advocate doing this for any HB8-HB10. Do this for a girl who is worth the trouble (to the most cynic of my fellow redpillers, yes there are worthy girls out there, they are just RARE as fuck, otherwise they wouldn't be worthy, would they?)

This will be stuff most know, but if at least one person learns one thing, then this post will have been worth it.

Method:

Two things to get out of the way. First, it will be highly important the impression this girl got of you when you first met in person, you WILL need to have at least caught her attention a bit. Second, keep a tight profile. This means pictures that transmit social proof/high value in the form of an interesting life as well as having girls actively communicate with you on your profile or trying to get your attention is a big plus.

Important Term:

FM - First Memory: The memory the girl will have of you from when you first met. It is an important factor in whether it will be possible to establish something with this girl. Note that she will not remember things perfectly but she will focus on two things, how you made her feel and how you acted, she will most probably forget a large part of what you guys talked about.

Step 1 - The First Chat

This part is crucial. While part of its success depends on the FM, you can still have a chance with a good hook. I'm not saying there is a magic line, but a nice interesting opener will allow you to catch the girl's attention and ensure at least 5 minutes of conversation.

Warning: Something I suffered early on (perhaps due to first learning PUA from David DeAngelos Cocky & Funny), was that I stressed too much on the C&F side, teasing a bit too early. More on this later.

Tips: Try to get an idea of the girl from her FB. See what you guys have in common and what type of girl she is. Calibrate your approach accordingly. For example: As a musician I am often discovering bands that are relatively unknown. A girl from the USA, very into music (artsy type) was a large fan of a very unknown band that turns out we had in common. Guess what I opened with?

Me: "You know xxx?? You and I must be the only fans"

She expressed surprise and interest and from there I transitioned to stories of concerts, short and that resonate with her passion for music.

The main thing you're looking for after catching her attention with the initial hook/opener is to transition to some kind of story that will allow you both to form some kind of emotional connection. The word I like to use is resonate. You want her to feel like she's talking to a guy she can't find anywhere close to her. A guy who shares a passion with her.

IMPORTANT: A very very common mistake early on is to go overboard with the story and look like you're trying to impress her. This is bad. Really bad. The state of mind you want to adopt is this one: Think of something you are passionate about, now imagine you're holding a rubber duck and you want to tell them about it (Yes, the old debugging trick).

After establishing this meaningful connection, you will want to leave soon. Ideally the first chat should be a short one. 10 minutes long at most. You want to leave her with the taste in her mouth. I will say though, on the off chance that you two are really connecting and hitting it off don't be afraid to spend the whole night chatting away. Many will say that it is a beta thing to do, that an alpha male would not waste his time like that, etc... I've come to learn that the real world is not as black and white as that. Perhaps it simply fits my approach, that of the mysterious, intelligent, musician/poet, with a romantic side. In what I call local gaming I would keep the romantic part to a minimum, but in long distance you want to exploit the disney/hollywood romantic notions women have.

In essence in the first chat you will want to:

  • study the girl and fashion your approach. Identify her passions

  • Use an interesting opener or a passion-related opener (do it well, don't be a creep)

  • transition to a story to create emotional resonance

  • add in some very light teasing, as in one to three playful teases, depending on the girl.

  • when you feel the conversation will start to get boring, end it before it does.

  • in the case you two really connect and you both have the free time, try to escalate to skype chat (this will be your aim for the next chat)

Step 2: The second chat (and maybe one or two more)

In the second chat the main intention is for you to get a skype date with the girl. This part is much less crucial than the first chat, here you already know she is interested, so the main idea now is to escalate to skype. It might take you a few more chats, but the combination you want for these next chats are:

  • Further increase her attraction to you by connecting more and more with her. Use stories and pay VERY close attention to what her "resonant words" are. I came up with the term to describe the words which for some reason or another women tend to mention when they are talking about deep topics such as their aspirations, feelings, etc.. They are words like dreams, travel, stars, moon, and such. Words they would use in an About Me on some social media site. Words that for them have an emotional significance. Men have them too.

Use these words in conversation sparingly and precisely. With the right timing they can turn what might seem to them like a bland trying-too-hard-to-be-deep paragraph into a paragraph that in her minds makes her think you GET her. (Mystery touched on a similar concept, on getting her attracted with routines that played on her pyschology)

Pointers:

  • Bring up the teasing. Remember be playful, use some faces here and there. You don't want to seem like a manic, but if you're saying something mean, a :p or :P can turn that into a funny, playful, tease that will make her laugh and try to qualify herself or play back with you. If she teases back that's a very good sign.

  • Be funny and get her to interact with you. You can't physically be there to play around w her so get her to maybe post stuff related to you guys or what you are talking about. For example: She loses a bet and then has to post a nonsensical phrase. This has the bonus of being a future inside joke. Once she decides to make it socially visible that there is an interaction between you two, in her mind she will begin to see you two as something.

Step 3 - The Skype Dates

Ah, finally. Getting serious. First of all, dress up nice. You don't want to get in a suit, but you definitely want to dress good. Remember, this is the first time she is seeing you in a while. Also, think of something interesting to do. Good ideas are to talk and it is very important that YOU act as if this is the most natural thing in the world. As far as I know women don't usually do this type of stuff. In her head she is thinking "what are we doing? what are we going to be? what does he want with me? should I keep on talking to him? etc..." You want to infect her with your energy and make her not worry about these things. The romantic notions in her head will sometimes make her ask you "what are we?" I like to just reply "Two people getting to know each other".

  • You will want to have more skype dates and if possible, get her to start showing some skin (depends on the girl).

Some ideas: If you're both musicians one can play guitar the other can sing (did this, banged her a month later when she came to EU to visit me). Watch a movie (netflix and primewire.ag are your friends).

Step 4 - Meeting

If you've gotten this far with the girl, you don't need any more help.

Closing Comments:

-> To all those who might yell oneitis. I do not believe in there being a soulmate or a "that one person". I do believe in different degrees of compatibility. Being a person that lives in different countries, sometimes you meet a girl from experience you know is rare, why not have a beautiful adventure with her? I will repeat, don't stop spinning your plates.

-> Logistics. This will be up to you. In my case, I've had girls decide to spend the money on the ticket to spend a week with me or so, and I've also met up with other girls when I was back in the area. Also, in terms of buying a ticket to go see her, it's not a bad idea. It's like buying a ticket to go vacation somewhere, but with wild passionate emotional and non stop sex.

-> Something I did not cover is seducing from zero. I have friends who have pulled it off successfully ( had a roommate in germany who added a girl from poland on FB, started talking to her, and in a month she was paying him a ticket to go visit 2 weeks. )

-> What's next? I discovered that using a fake GPS app you can change your location. This + Tinder = Matching with hot women abroad. Sex tourism here I come.

-> I wrote this on few hours of sleep so I will be editing and formatting in the morning.

Suggestions on how to improve this guide are always welcome. Hopefully if enough people like it we can make it a community guide of sorts.