Thoughts on flying solo?

ElSupaToto · 2014-08-02T18:13:03+00:00

I'm the opposite. I don't mind eating and going to bars solo but clubs tend to put me off. The secret trick is to stick to bar counters to eat. You don't have an empty space in front you, you can meet people eating next to you... So just go to restaurants that have counters.

Curiositygun · 2014-08-02T19:19:13+00:00

i prefer doing everything alone when i feel like getting girls most of my friends are introverts & they have there own thoughts & feelings about approaching random strangers

& i feel like they judge me negatively whether it goes successfully or not.

when i'm alone i may still be judged negatively by the people around me but i don't hold there views to as high an esteem as my friends therefore i can start having fun doing game

dragonfingers · 2014-08-02T23:30:03+00:00

My biggest improvements have come from doing streetgame solo. In my opinion, that shit is the scariest style of pickup. It'll teach you how to not be a pussy.

cMcD15 · 2014-08-03T00:17:45+00:00

Personally I find going out by myself to be a more enjoyable experience because anything you do is solely up to you. If you want to make a connection with someone you can't rely on anyone else to help you. Ultimately this helps your social life. Have a good time and don't worry about judgemental stares. Be confident in yourself and just do you.

branic007 · 2014-08-03T03:00:30+00:00

I have literally had girls in a group, say "wow, you are here by yourself [talking to us] that's impressive." If you are comfortable in your own skin, that's what matters- it shows you have confidence in yourself. Also, I'd often say something like "I have to get back to my friends at X bar, but ...." if am not in my element.

pinepineappleapple · 2014-08-02T17:28:27+00:00

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nominally · 2014-08-02T19:20:30+00:00

It's the only way I do it.

big_ol_dickhead · 2014-08-02T23:39:01+00:00

Women are fine with it as long as you are.

That's all there is to it. Don't cower because you're alone. It takes a real bitch to think someone doing something alone is a loser or whatever.

As for advice, just do it. Get more comfortable around a certain spot and then expand. I started going to one book store and one pub and now the whole six block bar area is comfortable.

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-08-02T23:44:28+00:00

depends on how you're sitting there. whether you're sat there like a nervous rodent eating as quickly as he can, scanning the environment for threats or like a relaxed boss eating the shit out of his meal and not shying away from making eye contact with / smiling to the other patrons makes the world of difference.

good subtle trick to be the latter : take up a lot of space; put your arm on the chair beside you for example

crazedanimal · 2014-08-02T23:56:56+00:00

I can dance quite well, have rhythm and know how to own a dance floor, I will literally own any dance floor i walk on to, so for me I really dont mind going to a club by myself. Will be grinding or dancing with a girl within seconds.

midnightpainter · 2014-08-03T09:35:31+00:00

My process:

Sir Ian, Sir Ian, Sir Ian

...

YOU SHALL NOT PASS

...

Sir Ian, Sir Ian, Sir Ian

Point is: I am awesome, someone is filming me, I am in a Bond movie.

Title	Thoughts on flying solo?
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Date	August 2, 2014 4:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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