Having trouble with rapid escalation. I'm probably being a pussy. Help?

Lindofrindo · 2014-08-10T14:12:11+00:00

First of all. Stop thinking so much. Seems like you over-analyze a lot. Just by reading the first couple of lines I got the idea that you did. This easier to say than do though, and took me a while to get better at. Stop caring what u say and do and just "be in the mood" with the girl. And if you try escalating and flirting and dont get good enough response or the response you want from that girl, find someone else. No reason to keep trying. Wasted time.

"My preferred style of escalation is rapid physical since I like to dance and party, but I don't like to talk a lot. I need to get a lot better at turning women on by touching them."

This isn't your number #1 thing to turn the girl on. There's not that much you can do just by touching her if you have barely talked to her or used your body language actively earlier. Why dont you like talking? You need to combine conversation with teasing, using your eyes and at the same time touching her when it seems natural for you. If you don't want to talk that much or there is too loud music, your eyes become even more important.(they pretty much are equally important at all thimes though...). Dont tell her she's pretty. She already knows that. Show her with your eyes and your whole body that you like her. Give her a lure smile and a flirty look.

I understood from your post that you work on these festivals? You can take the girl with you backstage or whatever place that are basically just for the people who work there. This is a place you can escalate to and do this by acting like you are not really allowed to bring people in and that you "will be in trouble if someone catches us". This makes it seem like you are taking her away from everyone and on an adventure which she finds extremely exciting.

Lastly, there's no recipe or "life tweaks". Every girl is different and what works for you 10 times might not work the next 10 times. The main thing you need is experience. This is gained by practicing practicing and practicing! Good luck untill October, mate! :)

bl1y · 2014-08-10T15:11:42+00:00

My escalation is not great, although I'm extremely likable by strangers, especially women - due to my fun and positive attitude, so during the festivals themselves, opportunities I do however keep finding ways to not get laid, primarily by refusing to believe that they want to fuck, and therefore missing obvious signs by being too pussy to act immediately and missing the moment with inaction.. OR... by locking it down right away, to the point where it's definitely on, but then being far too patient, and not escalating past that part to fucking where. Hesitation, and failure to be bold when nessecary is a recurring theme here.

You've identified the problem: failure to escalate.

You've identified the solution: escalate.

What do you need us for? Permission to escalate? It is so permitted. Now get the fuck out of here and go get laid.

Title	Having trouble with rapid escalation. I'm probably being a pussy. Help?
Author	blitzik
Upvotes	1
Comments	2
Date	August 10, 2014 1:31 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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