Advice for men in recovery from alcohol/drug addiction

RandianHero · 2014-09-15T00:05:48+00:00

My advice would be to not even bring it up. It's nobody else's business but yours. If someone offers you a drink, politely decline or make a joke of it by saying, "Nah, I'm trying to cut back." If they insist, decline again and say, "Nah, I'm good." Hold your ground and don't make it a big deal.

Straight-edge people are boring, but that's mostly because they feel like they have to let everyone know that they're straight-edge. If a guy doesn't want a drink, I'm cool with that. But if a guy feels like he has to explain his reasons for not drinking, I'm gonna assume he's a tool. Don't be that guy. Just be you.

blastanova · 2014-09-15T04:56:55+00:00

I really recommend watching this talk from Mark Manson on the topic of vulnerability: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxGR-htV6Uw#t=36m36s

Specifically this part at 45m minutes in where he discusses the example of a recovered alcoholic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxGR-htV6Uw#t=45m48s

Honestly and vulnerability are traits that can enable you to form strong emotional connections. Instead of hiding your weaknesses, acknowledge how they're a part of who you are today. If you explain your own personal journey, warts and all, and present yourself honestly and without shame, that's something that demonstrates value, because you're showing that you're comfortable with your faults and you're comfortable with yourself.

Of course, that doesn't mean you immediately spill your heart and soul out to everyone you come across, or treat vulnerability as a "technique" or "tactic" that you use in order to get women to like you, because if you make a routine or performance out of talking about your past struggles, women will be able to tell that you're performing, and they'll see that your intentions aren't genuine and consistent with what you present, which makes your behavior unattractive.

What's most important is that you don't try to conceal your past or act like you're ashamed about it. Show that you're comfortable with who you are.

2014-09-15T01:07:18+00:00

Try to have more dates during the day; Going for brunch and a walk is a nice first date.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-09-15T00:03:28+00:00

Take the 13th Step.

deviantkrug · 2014-09-15T00:15:37+00:00

Weed addiction? Really, dude?

Title	Advice for men in recovery from alcohol/drug addiction
Author	EmacNchZ
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	September 14, 2014 10:53 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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