How do you become the girl you are attracted to?

etcomro · 2014-10-23T16:30:05+00:00

I like girls with high-pitched voice and curly hair

That's a typical guy thing, sticking to the superficial. How about this instead, what activities do you like doing? What activities do you want to take up but haven't yet?

Say for instance you've always wanted to learn swing dancing. You take a class and meet women who are into the same thing.

Remove yourself from the "I want a girl with these measurements and these certain physical attributes" mentality. You're probably basing that off an ex or some girl you liked but never laid. Anyway, that way of thinking is a great method to be lead astray.

Seek chemistry and commonality and it'll be far easier to find someone you relate to and connect with.

recyclablebantha · 2014-10-24T11:23:31+00:00

•Become the type of girl you are attracted to Do you like athletic, toned girls? Join the gym and a local sports team, start getting ripped

I like girls with high-pitched voice and curly hair, with this analogy in mind I should have to change my voice and have curly hair myself??

Like someone said, this is more about internal types than superficial types.

And the idea of changing who you are to get a girl, can work. The problem is, going this route leads to loss of self-respect and jadedness towards women and the whole idea of seduction/attraction/love/etc. It's quite sad. At least once a month (or once every two months), someone posts something about how they're going through the kind of crisis of self that you go through when you become a different person to get a girl. Which ironically, is rather like what girls stereotypically go through after entering a relationship, of giving up who they are to try to make a relationship work. Guys often make this mistake in the initial attraction phase.

Anyway, it's far better to figure out who you and then go for the kind of girl who suits you after that.

onepactwosocks · 2014-10-23T22:38:18+00:00

And you don't like being yourself, because...?

Title	How do you become the girl you are attracted to?
Author	jumpingjupiters
Upvotes	0
Comments	10
Date	October 23, 2014 2:42 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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