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[–]pastorah 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
If you are attracted to each other then just go for a kiss. You told that woman told you that they want you, so why you just don't kiss her? You don't have nothing to lose, and so much to get.
[–]Dayznolife 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I know but at the same time I just have this fear of rejection or fear of her thinking I'm a bad kisser. I know that this should be easy I just can't get over it. It doesn't help that she's in a similar situation to me so she won't take the initiative either.
[–]pastorah 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So what if you get rejected, it's her loss if she reject you. You are a great and unique person and if she reject you that has nothing to you. About bad kisser, you don't need to impress her or seek for validation or whatever. Even if it's not perfect for the first time, it'll be better in the future. :)
[–]Dayznolife 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the kind words, I'm seeing her again Saturday and I'll do my best to remember this
[–]metshower 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There's this book I read several years ago called "Feel the Fear and Do it anyway".. I recommend it.
The basic premise of the book is that the ONLY way of getting over the fear of doing any particular thing... is to do that thing. Then the fear goes away. Essentially, you will have to do the scary thing WHILE you're feeling the fear. Don't wait for the fear to go away before you do something because then you'll just wait forever.
This honestly rings true I just get so much anxiety when it's actually time to pull the trigger.
[–]ThatSpecialPlace 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
she won't take the initiative either.
Of course she won't, you're the man, you've got to. Imagine how badass you'd look in her eyes if you took the lead and just go for it.
Next time, don't think at all and just go for it. If a girl EVER says, "I want you" dammit you BETTER take that as a command and put your face on hers. If a girl tells me that, there's a bout a tenth of second pause before my tongue's ravaging hers. It cannot be clearer and you need to understand that she's verbally telling you she's more than ready.
UNLESS you're trying to play hard to get, which no offense, but I don't recommend given your current mindset.
Oh and as far as being a bad kisser, there's only one way to get better at it. Guess how?
[–]Dayznolife 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice, I appreciate it
[–]ThatSpecialPlace 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You bet. Just put it all into effect and you'll be fine.
[–]jrant4 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a woman told you want that she wanted to kiss you, and with that information you did nothing, either (1) you are very young (under 18) and this is not that big a deal you are just nervous (2) not attracted to her (in that case just find a woman you are attracted to) or (3) you need to see a therapist because you have some deeper issues going on.
If you're over 18 and can't kiss an attractive girl who wants to kiss you, then you need to find professional help and not from places like seddit.
[–]SexySmexxy 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I know it's just in my head and there's no way in hell she would have stopped me I just couldn't. If anyone can help me out I'd really appreciate it
There is no sentence on earth I could write at this moment that it going to make you want to kiss a girl when you're "in the moment".
Doesn't matter if you reply with "thanks I needed this" or "wow thanks man you've really changed my perspective, gonna go give her a call right now".
What you need to do is just develop the balls to just DO it.
No amount of preparation will prepare you for the real thing.
This is like when a skydiver is scared to jump.
You either JUMP or you Don't, because I'm a random internet stranger, I'm not there to push you out of the plane.
When it gets to the moment, you just have to be a logical guy and just do what makes the most sense.
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