There seems to be a notion that all rules of seduction/pickup are universal, because what women are attracted to is biological, but there are absolutely external factors that influence what a woman responds to. Mark Mansons' 'models' has a great section on knowing the demographics of the women you are talking to, and how that affects your interactions with them. Something I haven't seen talked about as much is the effect that your geographical location has on the dynamics of seduction/pick up.

Im interested in hearing from anyone that has actively pursued/dated/slept with/gotten phone numbers from/etc mahy women in more than one location, and has noticed real differences in how the dynamics of trying to pick up and date these girls was different between the two locations. Someone reading the advice on this subreddit who lives in New York City will likely have a different experience trying out the advice on here compared to someone in a very small farm town in rural Kentucky, and it would help to identify some of the real differences people should be aware of so that they can put advice they see on here in its proper context.

To start the discussion, I'll talk about how I've seen size impact seduction. I've been very successful with women in a medium/large sized metro of area of about 500,000 people, in a smaller city of about 40,000 people and in a very small town of 4,000 people. When I started reading the advice on pickup, I was in the metro area which had over a hundred bars and maybe 20 clubs. Now I'm living in a small town with about 10 bars and zero clubs.

One huge insight I've gained along with trying pick up in different sizes places, is that the smaller the area, the more beneficial it is to go out and be social and meet people and become a regular in the places you want to eventually pick up women. In a big city, most interactions that you have with girls come with an underlying assumption that you will most never see that person again if you fail. In this environment, it makes a lot of sense to be very direct about your intentions, and polarize women quickly so that you're essentially playing a numbers game. It doesn't matter if 20 girls tonight got creeped out or didn't like you, you're never going to see them again! And because you're not likely to bump into someone by chance again, with every girl you do like, you have to get her number or else you won't ever see her again either. This makes it necessary to get her number, and it also makes getting her number easy since it doesn't necessarily communicate anything other than 'Id like to potentially talk again'. I also noticed that because there are a bazillion guys, you have to really stand out. If she's attractive, you can be sure that she will be used to being hit on, so bullshit like "can I get a female opinion on something? I swear I'm not hitting on you!" wont work because she'll have already heard it a hundred times. The same goes for cheesy pick up lines and not being straightforward with your intentions.

Now almost none of that is true for a small town. If your mentality is to play the numbers game and hit in every girl you meet in a small town, you will very quickly become well known for trying to get laid. It is far better to play a longer term social status game in smaller towns. What I mean is that when you go into bars, aim first and foremost to befriend as many girls and guys as possible. Your aim is to eventually be able to walk into your favorite 2-3 bars in town (or coffee shops, party houses, wherever you are trying to pick up girls) and know at least a couple of people in there every time you go. Getting to know the staff will pay huge dividens, as will people who are regulars there. When you go out to meet girls in a small town, chances are that you will see them again, and so it's better to approach them in a friendly but flirty manner. If you do it right, you can get a lot of interest coming your way because you've been flirty to girls without seeming desperate. Better yet, because its a smaller town, you'll end up in situations where you walk into a bar and there's multiple girls who you know, and walking over and giving a hug to a few girls will absolutely draw the attention of every other girl in there. Yet this could never work in a large city for obvious reasons. One last idea is that, while it wouldn't pay as many dividens in a big city, you could go to a local bar a few nights in the middle of the week- say Monday and Wednesday to play cards against humanity over a drink with a few friends, or just to catch up after work, and that way you get to know the staff in a much more relaxed environment than trying to have a conversation with them when there's 30 people at the bar on a Friday night.

I'm curious as to what else you guys have noticed with respect to seduction taking place in context of where you live.