22 virgin, 19 shades of blue tormenting me

omgboat · 2013-09-25T06:38:24+00:00

Really, you know your choices.

Have sex and ask for forgiveness or save yourself until marriage.

Ask yourself this: What are the chances of finding a female who is also saving herself until marriage?

Are you refusing to marry someone who isn't a virgin? I wish you only the best of luck with that.

whatever6 · 2013-09-25T06:46:40+00:00

Are you in a third-world country? What is the worst that can happen?

b_dubya · 2013-09-25T14:36:09+00:00

You're in a rough spot. I can appreciate the fact that in a third world country, the support of your family is very important and you don't want to mess that up. Also realize that the fact of having sex can lead to unwanted pregnancy, again messing with your family support and religious sect issues.

Have a hard look at your life. At what point can you reasonably cut ties with your family/religion?

Before you go to college? Probably not likely, because of financial support and needing to have a decent job to support yourself. Unless you have other opportunities?

After college? You have a better chance of separating from your family/religion with at least a good job / education under you.

You're 22. At this point in life, this is where you start building capital in yourself. Education, personal self-worth, self-esteem. This is a part of the essence of red pill is to build personal value.

This is probably not what you want to hear since sex is a siren call in your ears, but try and take a hard look at opportunities in your life and what you may have to do/sacrifice in order to build yourself up.

Best of Luck.

SpecialFester · 2013-09-26T00:58:09+00:00

It's not lieing if it's not their business to know in the first place.

[deleted] · 2013-09-27T10:26:28+00:00

The chastity thing is for women dude. No woman cares about finding a chaste virgin man.

browndelicious · 2013-09-29T20:33:00+00:00

Figure out your own beliefs, not what you were spoon fed your whole life. If the community you current live in doesn't support your beliefs, move.

There is an intersection between your values and getting what you want.

Personally, I think any religion that treats sexuality as something negative is bullshit. It's a cult trying to maintain its own power and control. Get out. Take the money for now if you must but strategize your exit and get out, as quickly as you can muster.

LuciusExitius · 2013-09-25T16:33:03+00:00

Get in shape, save your money, move to a 1st world country.

bobjoe177 · 2013-09-25T11:30:12+00:00

maybe try talking to your father about it first? you can't usually say what people will do in a given circumstance until they are actually in that situation. I wouldn't advocate anything that would jeoparodize your relationship with your family, but perhaps planting the seed in his mind could make him more understanding?

Title	22 virgin, 19 shades of blue tormenting me
Author	idolovecorn
Upvotes	7
Comments	15
Date	September 25, 2013 6:14 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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