I'm 25, shes 19. How should i handle money and the balance in relationship?

02chris · 2015-02-19T21:15:02+00:00

It's ok to spend money to go out and do thing and if she has money it's ok to let her pay for her self sometimes. I think everything is good just don't go start buying her material thing then I'd consider it stupid.

joshsway · 2015-02-19T21:27:15+00:00

She has no money right now so you are fine spending it. You said you make an average salary in your city. That is NOT the target someone wanting a sugar daddy is going to go after.

wallaby13 · 2015-02-20T00:06:18+00:00

There are lots of ways to have pretty awesome dates without spending any or much money.

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-02-20T02:28:02+00:00

seddit isn't really intended for solving specific dating problems with a specific girl, it's for helping guys study general seduction techniques that work with all girls. However, I'm going to address this question in a general way.

It is a general PUA concept that we don't buy women drinks, buy expensive meals in restaurants, etc. not because we're cheap, but because we don't want it to look like we're trying to buy a woman's interest. That doesn't work.

But if a woman is significantly poorer than you, I guarantee she is aware of it. If she's a good woman, she's probably afraid that you will think she's taking advantage of you, maybe she even wishes she could reciprocate, which will only be frustrating if she can't.

I think a good example might be from Suze Orman, who is sort of a crank, but she has a lot of interesting ideas about how couples should handle money. One story she told was pretty interesting. Someone asked about sharing an apartment with her boyfriend, he makes twice the money she does. Should they pay equal halves of the rent? Suze said no, pay in proportion to your salaries, so she would pay 1/3 and he would pay 2/3. That seems fair because both the man and woman are putting an equivalent amount of equity into the apartment, and by analogy, into their relationship.

But I don't see how you can really do this in your situation. Does she ever make an attempt to reciprocate? Maybe make dinner for you at her place, rather than going out for a fancy dinner? Be open to opportunities for her to reciprocate, even if you'd rather go out for a fancy dinner rather than eat her vegetarian tofu spaghetti.

Overall, I think the bigger problem here is the power imbalance. You might be subtly indicating that she doesn't fit in your world. Older guys can often intimidate young women, since they have money, an exciting social circle of mature people, and don't consider the cost of something before doing it. This can make them think you only want them for their body, since they have nothing else to offer, you have everything else you want. So it is very important to make sure she knows that she has a place in your world, and that you are happy to have her there (for reasons other than sex). Try to give her opportunities to show you who she is, and what she does (other than have sex with you) so she knows what you love about her (other than the sex).

ultrasuperthrowaway · 2015-02-20T00:32:45+00:00

Sex is free. Do sex with her.

Title	I'm 25, shes 19. How should i handle money and the balance in relationship?
Author	HonestUser
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Date	February 19, 2015 9:11 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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