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[–]Pedantic_Me 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey rtabx, welcome to r/seduction. We're a friendly community that just hit over 200,000 subscribers. To control what kind of content gets posted here, there are some rules you can read about in the sidebar. Because this question is about a specific girl, it's better suited for /r/AskSeddit. If you post it there instead, you'll likely get more and better responses. Best of luck with your girl.
[–]rtabx[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Will do, thank you. It seems I can't post in askseddit yet? Apparently because I'm a new user I can't submit 2 posts in such a short period of time and I have to wait?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Text her to hang out and then escalate
[–]Imscubbabish 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You should invite her to hang out. If you know what she likes then do that.
[–]rtabx[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hang out with friends or one on one? I don't really know what she likes, I know she likes to party (there is one coming up next tuesday, I'm confident she'll be there too). The other day she told me she was watching some lame movie so we talked a bit about movies. I suggested one she should watch, I didn't think it through perhaps I should have suggested one that I hadn't actually seen already (so dumb) and hinted we should watch it together :/
[–]Imscubbabish 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just ask her out, no harm in doing so
[–]tooeasilybored 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ask her out, for all you know she's just being friendly.
[–]rtabx[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
A friend of mine is throwing a party saturday. How about i just invite her? I'm afraid to come off too strong if i ask her to hang out one on one (we don't do "dates" that much in Europe).
Here comes the wall of text: To give more details on what made me think she was maybe more than just friendly: When i met her she mentioned her birthday was coming and hinted i should come to the party, which gave me the opportunity to ask for her number. Few days later i texted her to know if she was still throwing a party, she said she wasn't sure but if something was planned last minute she'd text me. Which she did: the afternoon of her birthday she texted me she didn't have anything planned that evening and i should come with some friends and she'd bring 2 bottles of wine. Sadly, i had a paper due for the day after and couldn't come... I told her i was going to be at a party the next and told her i was hoping to see her there, to which she responded enthusiastically.
Now we met again at that party and talked a little. She asked me a bit more about what i was studying, and why, and she seemed oddly impressed, gave me a few compliments and kept touching my arm (maybe italian girls are just more touchy feely though). But then out of nowhere she was surrounded with guys urging her to join them and do some shots. I had one shot then went away a bit frustrated by all the attention those guys were giving her, and the fact that i couldn't drink much that night (had an oral exam the next day - yeah not a good week - which ironically enough got postponed cause the teacher forgot to show up...)..
[–]tooeasilybored 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'd invite her and make sure she knows it was a 1 on 1.
Now my wall of text. I had a VERY similar experience during college. Met this girl(call her V) at this metal club (lamb of god FUCK YEAH!), she asked if I wanted to go outside for a smoke. We talked, hit it off. Laughed, and did the standard things like ask where ya from, what you studying.
I walked her home, got her number. We saw eachother only at metal club meetings, but whenever she showed up shed jump in front of me with a big smile just to say hi. Progress a few more weeks and my daily routine has become wake up go to class, then she'll text around 1 PM and I go over to her place to hang out. Hell I even invited her to a Children of Bodom concert, and she came with! My crush grew, until I asked her out 1 day to find she just sees me as a friend. All those signs, were just her appreciating my friendship.
I ended up getting in with a friend of hers from highschool. BUT, it took a lot longer because I never asked her out to a 1 on 1 date/fun day.
Make your intentions clear, and see what she says. If she's not interested, you can finally move on and not waste your time. I lost 2 months of precious college time chasing the wrong girl.
[–]rtabx[S] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for your input! I think you're right, I'll just have to grow some balls and ask her on a date. I won't be chasing this girl for months anyway, I don't develop crushes easily (good for me I guess).
[–]bl1y[M] 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This belongs in /r/askseddit as it is asking advice for a specific situation / girl
This will stay in spam filter, please repost in the AskSeddit subreddit.(Not askREDDIT, but askSEDDIT)
Please read RULES & GUIDELINES. This post is answered by many SIDEBAR guides.
I would also recommend reading 10-20 of the top posts on Seddit: FOUND HERE
Also, don't worry about it! You didn't do anything wrong since you didn't know
Yeah /u/Pedantic_me told me, so I submitted the same post in /r/askseddit, but then people started commenting on here so...
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