I still have a long ways to go in my game (such as approach anxiety, meeting and pulling numbers off the street instead of online, etc.), but I would like to share how I destroyed last night thanks to the things I've picked up from /r/seduction, and give back to this community.

There's plenty of topics I've read through and things I'm trying to incorporate, but by far the number one thing in the past couple weeks that has helped my mindset is /u/erikkiton Udemy's course. Haven't actually done the challenges, but watched all the videos has immensely helped my mindset. Right now, my take away from all of this is one: be assertive, aggressive, and playful, and two: develop my own style. I believe both are key. The first being that's what women want. And it's fun. Simple as that. The latter being we're all unique individuals with something different to offer and we all have our own natural style of conversing to begin with. Harness everything you're reading/learning here, and make it your own. On to the fun stuff...

Ran across this girl's profile on OKCupid - seemed pretty amazing off the bat without getting into every little detail. She's a Masters student, and had a quip about how she could write an exposé on some classic literature but ask me to message her and she wouldn't know the first thing to say. So I began my message with simply "Message me." More on this later. Touched on some things in her profile, and in a couple messages made up some crap about "finding it harder to respond to stuff on OKC give me your number." I wanted to move off the platform, and get something planned ASAP. It worked.

Texted for a day or two. One of the things I picked up from the Udemy course was crap about cupcakes, so worked that in, wine & cupcakes, blah blah. Somehow led to me making up a story about a Swedish cupcake master who beat his employees. Honestly. My mindset was just go with the flow, be ridiculous, and own what you say. It worked, she found it hilarious. Moved into a drinks and improv date on Friday, and it was set.

Had an interview Friday afternoon, and it was honestly running late, so I whipped off my tie and went in a suit. I wanted to pull that off anyway regardless of whether it did run late or not, because suits are sexy, and make up that it was running late if it didn't. And I just got it, I really wanted to wear it. Got to the venue, she was running 10 minutes late or so. Ordered a drink, caught some ladies checking me out, I was in a good mindset already.

Things I was focusing on when she got there: act like she's your girlfriend, initiate touching ASAP, and be assertive, aggressive, and playful. And eye contact. Although I'm of the style to look around and be animated when I talk, my focus was on her when she was talking. She got there, stood up, gave her a hug - she already gripped on tight so that helped my mindset - wasn't a half assed hug but I like what I'm touching already hug. Things are working perfectly and I've seen her for all of 30 seconds. Start conversing, immediately start touching her shoulder, etc. as the conversation flows. There's nothing really of note conversationally here - that's something I don't feel confident giving advice in since I'm still working on developing it, I was simply me and kept a solid conversational flow - I was playful, getting to know her, teasing her, touching her as appropriate, etc. Of note though - eventually I get up and grab our tickets, come back to her, tell her let's go, and grab her hand and lead her to the show. This plays into the be assertive/aggressive/act like she's your girlfriend already. Oh, and she did compliment my suit at one point because she was in fashion design for a couple years, so she appreciates a good suit. (It is a good suit - SuitSupply)

We get seated, and the way the seating was working was that there are two chairs across a small circular table from each other, and two behind it. The hostess told us to sit in the chairs across from each other. Once she left I told the girl essentially "fuck that, sit in these" - the two chairs next to each other. I wanted to keep the touching up and be close to her. No one else was seated at our table, so that more or less was simply some stars aligning for us. Keep talking, I relatively quickly move my hand to her upper leg and just left it there - act like she's my girlfriend. I did this naturally throughout the night, moving and removing it as we were laughing and not, and the more the night went on, the more receptive and engaging she was with me. Went from simply having her hand on top of mine to her interlocking her arms around mine. I was being aggressive and asserting what I want on her - I wanted to touch her.

The show was great. We were laughing the whole time. Another thing that helped me along was there was a sexual skit fairly early on, so that probably got her in the mindset a little more. One thing to note of the night - be difficult when appropriate. Somehow what I do for work kept getting passed over. I think earlier it was because she said something that I wanted to learn more about instead of talking about my job, etc. Eventually there was an intermission, and she's like "Okay, you can't hide now. What the fuck do you do?" And I honestly had to go to the bathroom, and I just look at her and play "Uhh... I need to go to the restroom," got up and left. When I came back she was like, "I can't believe you did that, I thought you were just fucking around about leaving. I thought you were coming immediately back and I was about to say something to the person behind me then I realized it wasn't you." I went on about the overall company, but then the show started. Still doesn't know what I do exactly - texted her this morning "You know the best thing about last night? You still don't know what I do."

We bantered on a bit during the show, whispering in each other's ear. There was one line in the show about a a new haircut someone got yesterday and they look fresh - the line isn't exactly important. What is though, when I heard it, I immediately thought right after the show is over, I'm going to look her in the eyes, tell her "[name], I have something to tell you." Then whisper in her ear, "You look fresh like yesterday." It was golden. I wanted to do this for two reasons. One, the night is clearly escalating nicely. I wanted to build some more tension. So create an air of intimacy, act almost like I'm going to kiss her. Secondly, back to a theme of the night - it's not what you say, it's how you say it. I started whispering ridiculous, inane bullshit in her ear after this, and it was because I was owning what I said, she ate it up.

It's 10 PM, she still can stay out and play for a while. She's a little bit of a nerd, so I grab a cab and take her to a video game bar. Never actually played video games there, just talked at the bar the whole night. Kept up the touching. She started opening up more and talking about everything. Started to talk about how I messaged her and how she loved the assertive/aggressiveness I displayed when I simply told her "Message me." in my first message. Eventually she opens about about a childhood story that showed how sweet and amazing of a girl she is. I was simply slightly speechless at this point, and thought this girl was great. So I just stared at her for a moment, then grabbed her and kissed her. If you want to get into the technical crap, she opened up and I rewarded her by kissing her. To me, it was simply I thought she was amazing and I wanted to kiss her already. She essentially pounced on me. This pretty much opened the door for the night, and I started to do more ridiculous things. A list of things I can remember:

  • Started talking about dominance and somehow led to a conversation about her throwing me against the bar and kissing me but she wasn't dominant enough to do it. I hesitated a moment, gave her a look like "really, you know what's about to happen." Looked her in the eyes, called her a pussy, then pushed her against the bar and made out with her. She loved it.
  • Another time we just finished kissing and were just looking in each other's eyes, I simply licked her lips and nose like a dog would. She pulled back, looked at me, and burst out laughing. She was like "that was perfect, I have no idea how to follow that up"
  • Somehow, which I still cannot remember why or how and trying to figure out for the life of me all day so far, I started playing with her boobs. She was wearing a low cut tank, and I just started bouncing them up and down, one at a time with my finger from the bottom. I don't remember why or how - I was just being playful, doing whatever the fuck I wanted, and touching her how I felt like.
  • Kept whispering inane, sexual crap in her ear throughout the night like I said. Taking a line that you really have to stretch to make it sexual, then just whispering it in her ear sexually. It's all about owning what you say, not "saying the right thing." You determine what is the right thing.
  • Talking about how guys already have sex on their mind. I tell her, "Duh. And honestly if you don't have sex on your mind you're probably boring." She immediately came back with something along the lines of "oh I do I'm not boring."

There's a lot more I could talk about, because I saw everything I've been reading about in action tonight. But this is already an epic story as is. Eventually I'm honestly exhausted. It's 1 in the morning. I want to go to bed. She has to go home, not with me unfortunately. Waiting for a cab for her, I push her against the wall and making out with her. It's forceful on both ends - a competition to see who could kiss each other harder. I pull back a second, mention this to her, she says something along the lines of "I don't have a problem." I took this as an invitation to start showing the more aggressive side of me, so I grab the front of her neck and lightly choke her with my lips an inch away from hers. She loved it.

Can't wait for the next date. She can't either. This is going to be really fun.

Honestly I don't know what to attribute everything to tonight. To me, I feel like we simply clicked off the bat and had a natural sort of chemistry, so doing everything I did felt a lot more natural, and easy and going with the flow. Or was it because I'm learning how to play things flowed as they did? I don't know.

TL;DR: Be aggressive, assertive, dominant, playful. Act like she's your girlfriend off the bat. Wear a suit. Own what you say. Touch her. Tease her.