A little bit about me:

I'm almost 30 and just got out of an LTR. I have no real friends around here and I haven't gone out in about three years. I'm new to seddit and seduction in general. I'm hoping to use the community as framework for rebuilding my life.

My goals are to reclaim my confidence, build a circle of friends, improve my social skills, become more attractive, and eventually find a girl I can settle down with. I'm hoping to chronicle my progress here both to get feedback and to inspire others.

I posted this last night over in askseddit: http://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/2xi4w5/im_about_to_go_to_a_big_fetish_party_tonight/

TL;DR I found a fetish event and decided to go for it.

I was really nervous about going (hence the askseddit post) but I was determined to go And at least try. My insecurities were SCREAMING in my head! I decided to listen to a few videos on YouTube about building confidence an my way there.

How To Be More Confident Instantly - Instant Confidence Techniques: http://youtu.be/W7u2opK5gVk

How To Get Confidence Inner Game Shae Matthews: http://youtu.be/SPsqUXkOdSo

Probably not the best videos on the subject but it got me in the frame of mind I needed. My takeaway from it was that your posture and body language affect your state of mind, people want me to talk to them and that visualization works.

I cranked up my radio and just jammed out dancing in my car the rest of the way there. My goal for the night was to just meet people and open sets. No numbers, no closes. I just wanted to get out there and learn about new people. I promised myself that I would talk to the first person I made eye contact with.

I walked in, grabbed a beer and saw a couple of guys standing with their backs to the bar who made eye contact. Yeah I know, but my goal was to talk to as many people as I could. I walked right over and struck up a conversation. They introduced me to a couple of their lady friends and we all had a few laughs.

I decided I wanted to go smoke a cigarette and on the way, I got eye contact from a girl as I was passing her. So I stopped and introduced myself. She was there with her husband. We all talked for a bit then I excused myself to go smoke my cigarette.

I just talked to everyone I saw and I met a shitload of awesome people. All together, I opened around 10 sets in the span of about three hours. A few interactions stood out:

-An HB 6-7 hanging out with her trans friend. She made strong eye contact and I approached and opened them up. She initiated incidental Kino on me rubbing her butt on my arm that was planted on the pool table behind us and brushing her body against mine as we talked.

-An HB4 who was laughing too much at all my jokes. I also ran in to her later and fucked up a couple negs by back tracking beta style. Lesson learned. I need to work on my negs and commit.

-An HB8 shy girl in a big group of girls who kept looking me up and down and worked her way next to me to introduce herself. I went chicken shit and didn't really talk to her much. I was really nervous about being rejected so I just ignored her and talked to other people.

Here's my take away:

Strengths: -I had very low AA (3 second rule) -I got people smiling/laughing -I got people talking -I didn't hang around in any of the sets too long, I kept moving

Weaknesses: -Negs, no idea how and when to use them, I didn't commit -Kino, I was inconsistent, didn't escalate, and was really just nervous about touching people. -I got super tired at around 11, I may need to focus on day game because I'm an old man. When my energy dips, my interactions suffer -I'm intimidated by beauty -I fear rejection

Opportunities: -The fetish community is super open and friendly. I think it will be nice to be able to bring a target into the community later as an experienced and well established member. -I made a bunch of contacts and added people to my online profile. -I just got a message from the HB6-7 Who said I looked great. I'll probably run in to her at future events -There are a bunch of fetish events all the time.

Threats: -I'm living with my parents right now while I look for a new place -I work overnights which really fucks with having a social life -I don't make a lot of money

Goals: -Rejoin the gym and start ICF 5x5 -Make at least three day approaches -Meditate at least 5 minutes every day -Begin reading my books on Tuesday

Overall I'm pleased with how the night turned out. I accomplished my goal of opening sets and meeting new people. Any feedback, tips and tricks, or high-fives are appreciated. Thanks for reading. Play on!