The Basic Thing that will save you

this1 · 2015-03-02T19:13:41+00:00

Although slightly against the grain with the mentality of this sub, of nexting girls when they friendzone, and ultimately even when following the advice offered here, you may still have to move on; but this isn't a bad piece.

I think it's a decent enough approach actually, if you do actually like a girl and can envision yourself with a relationship with her.

I think besides the obvious not just blurting out your feelings (listen here guys - that never actually works). Keep it fun, and friendly, flirtatious even.

The next most important thing is to not allow yourself to become obsequious.

edit:Supplication is not in any way attractive and always comes off as needy.

Know when to move on. Specifically if you find that you've put this person on a pedestal. Sure you may be in love, but more likely you've become overly infatuated or obsessed, neither of which are healthy.

c00kiecutter · 2015-03-02T22:44:07+00:00

Summary:

Like a girl you have befriended as more than just friends.
Don't tell her.
Make her fall in love with you.
Make sure she really likes you before continue with step 5.
Tell her you like her too.

Great tactics. 10/10

HappyMexican · 2015-03-02T23:10:38+00:00

Ugh I don't know about this post. I feel it will be taken the wrong way by the younger crowd. I call that just beating around the bush with women. Beating around the bush like this instead of directly tell her your intentions sounds like it could amount to a lot of time wasted. I feel you will get too invested in a girl that you will never have by trying to "Escalate" things over time like this, or "Letting her fall for you". Most poeple (not all of them of course) I have met in real life that are very succesful with women are two things 1. Very physically attractive 2. Very Direct, they tell women what they want (because they know likly will work out to there favor, as it has in the past).

But I am no expert, I have tried both what this post suggests and tried to do the direct route of telling her you are interested in her early on. Honestly, niether has been paticularly successful, but it has been far less painful being direct. So, I prefer the direct method now.The more direct route just keeps you from wasting months of flirting and escalating on something that may never happen.

1dayHappy_1daySad · 2015-03-03T01:42:56+00:00

Sorry but I dont think it's good advice. Telling how much you love her too son obviously will kill your chances, but hittin around the bush will too.

Title	The Basic Thing that will save you
Author	NeilKrauss
Upvotes	44
Comments	4
Date	March 2, 2015 4:24 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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