I turn 21 in a week, and I have no idea what to do when I walk into a bar/club

recyclablebantha · 2015-04-06T02:07:02+00:00

I am confident, but a little reluctant to try my luck at a bar. I am a nerdy guy that has had done most of my game at school. I have no idea how to do the party scene.

Well, there is going to be a learning curve because of your unfamiliarity with all of it, but here are some keys to keep in mind:

"Seduction" is merely being social. Preoccupation with day game, night game, school game, party game.... it's not very important.
In any situation, confidence is great because you need it to take action. But the tool we use to know what actions to do, is being attentive. A beginning step in any situation can involve paying attention to the situation and relating to people based on that. (I say "can," because some people get into routines and the like. If you want to do that, it can work but it requires re-tooling your strategy for every new scenario, rather than simply having a mindset that serves you and helps you be adaptable.)
Furthermore, you shouldn't to go a bar or club unless you legitimately think it would be fun even if there weren't any girls there. If you don't enjoy chilling with your friends over beer, playing pool, or darts and the like, then DON'T go to a bar. If you don't enjoy dancing to loud music, DON'T go to a club. If you aren't enjoying yourself, it will put your focus too much on needing something to come out of your interactions with girls, which will make it more difficult for you to see good results.

EDIT: By all means, give it a try if you haven't before. But if you find that you don't like such places, then don't go there! There are plenty of places and activities out there which can give you an opportunity to socialize and meet people.

wiitytwde · 2015-04-06T02:15:26+00:00

Drink and be in a good mood. Talk to everyone and have fun. Dance. Have fun doing it. Join groups and join their conversations. Sometimes they will kick you out, just move on. Give value to the interactions and be the person that you would want to run into there.

galactic_fury · 2015-04-06T02:31:28+00:00

If you are just starting out, know that you will probably not have a good night for a long time...until your mind gets used to the idea of going to bars.

Know that not everyone is having fun at the bar. The girls might be laughing and the guys may have "dates"; look closely, the dates are "friends" and bigger mixed groups usually consist of women hanging out with guy "friends" as well. Also, at least where I live, 90% of the men have absolutely horrible game. So, if you feel like you're not having as much fun as people in the bar are expected to, don't worry about it too much.

Big_TX · 2015-04-06T01:34:43+00:00

Watch RSD videos. That's basicly what they do.

The tldr is: self amuse your self. Don't try and impress anyon or get anything. Just self amuse for you own sake. Doing that will make your state go up, making people like you more because your good emotions will make them feel good, and it will just make you be more "on". Escolate because it is fun and you wanna, don't do it because to try and get a K close or something. Lead, and close.

Ultramental just do you. But be aware of other people. Don't have a negative impact on others.

He is a video, I had no praticly advice it it but it should help you get in the right headspace.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pR8LTd-SfBs

NicholasMD · 2015-04-06T00:41:20+00:00

Umm, turn up, obviously. Kidding! Oh how I loath that term!

Title	I turn 21 in a week, and I have no idea what to do when I walk into a bar/club
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Date	April 5, 2015 11:15 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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