Dealing with rejection? Starting to sting

DukeCanada · 2015-04-12T18:23:16+00:00

Honestly, I think it's only human to feel rather dejected after being rejected. That doesn't mean you should sulk around like some chump, but it means that it's not entirely abnormal to feel a little let down. You're going to have to reach a point where you're just ok with being rejected. You don't have to relish in it like some of the people on this sub might suggest, after all, you did put yourself out there and were let down.

It's probably nothing you said via the texts, so stop over thinking it. You have no idea why she cancelled on you so I wouldn't get angry or frustrated. Just forget about her entirely and move onto the next girl, because there's literally billions.

So cheer up, get back on that app, and move on with your life. That's what it comes down to for me when I'm in a similar place. Eventually it becomes routine, like making coffee in the morning.

CaliBboy · 2015-04-12T21:14:15+00:00

It stings due to you placing too much value on women and not having other options.

The Marquee Value Theory By The Kidd

perfectEarlobes · 2015-04-13T16:34:19+00:00

I don't know this app but have you ever played a game, lost abysmally, but had fun and thought "wow i suck lol".

This is what it is like for me when meeting new people and doesn't go any further or i get insta-rejected.

I don't know know how this app works but it sounds like you are skipping a massive part of meeting new people and going straight for a date. If that is your thing, cool, but it is going to be far less... personal? Since you are opening with Alpha numeric characters.

When it is face-to-face its kind of immediate/reliable, this person with talk with you or not.

I don't know the proper ways to open, i just have a big smile say "Hey, hi." Sometimes i might wave my arm to catch their attention it depends where im at.

When they don't want to talk, sometimes it is because they seem unsure (i could be crazy right? im pretty sure i am though), i try to break the ice but if they are having none of it i usually smile/laugh, throw my hands up and say "no worries".

Either way, instant rejection is not only is it immediate but i don't know... personally it can be fun/funny. Im not gonna lie though and say i don't stop myself sometimes. (It's something i need to work on).

Again i don't know how this app works, im guessing you have a profile a picture and some text and then chat with people? For me, they seems like it its always over populated with guys , but hey if it works for you more power to ya. It just seems like rejection is based on very little information like some text and a photo.

I don't know the right answer but if it were me, fuck it, who cares, next.

Title	Dealing with rejection? Starting to sting
Author	AnISTJ
Upvotes	3
Comments	3
Date	April 12, 2015 6:00 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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