I am motivated to get good with women for the first time in my life. I'm 27. I'm almost stumped as to how it happened.

TheKakistocrat · 2015-04-13T07:53:38+00:00

the journey of a thousand lays begins with the first slap.

Blinkskij · 2015-04-13T11:00:14+00:00

I'm sure you know this already, but you're on the right track.

Improve yourself so that you feel better, it will do wonders for your confidence with women, and of course your desirability.

As for being late to the party, my own realisation kicked in at 28. I'm turning 30 soon, with a wonderful girlfriend that I previously never would have considered "in my league".

philosarapter · 2015-04-13T13:26:31+00:00

Exercise man. People underestimate exercise. Women are just as shallow as men, they want a man with a hot body just like men want a woman with a hot body.

Also there's a lot of hormones that get released when you exercise which make you feel good and when you feel good, you aren't worried about what other people might think of you. One thing I learned in high school really helped me throughout life: The less you care about what other people think of you, the more other people tend to like and respect you. Its counterintuitive but the evidence speaks for itself.

You're doing good just keep that confident feel-good mindset and continue to talk to any and all girls you find attractive. Soon you'll be doing it out of habit without a second thought, and that's where your game will really take off

taat1 · 2015-04-13T11:55:51+00:00

As others have said, you're on the right track.

As a side note, I think this passage below perfectly describes your change. You pondered your goal for a couple days then you focused solely on the means i.e. going to the gym and projecting confidence. The important thing here is that you are not thinking about anyone else anymore; you are focusing only on yourself and the means to achieve your goal.

"In human affairs of danger and delicacy successful conclusion is sharply limited by hurry. So often, men trip by being in a rush. If one were properly to perform a difficult and subtle act, he should first inspect the end to be achieved and then, once he had accepted the end as desirable, he should forget it completely and concentrate solely on the means. By this method he would not be moved by false action by anxiety or hurry or fear. Very few people learn this." J. Steinbeck

zoomfrog2000 · 2015-04-13T16:16:18+00:00

There was a recent thread about locking down the girl before the outing. Even if its not 100% you can follow up with seductive looks and smiles throughout the occasion to increase attraction. It would be easier to steal her away for more private and intimate conversation so you can continue to work your game uninterrupted. In a group setting it helps to be a good storyteller or bring up interesting conversation topics. Come off as honest and confident in your opinions of said topics whether it's popular or not. Stand by what you say and explain why. Comedians do it all the time. They say they like or do something that's usually viewed as atypical/unpopular and then they explain themselves and it's usually a spin on the situation that makes people think.

Don't be afraid to be self deprecating, but do it in a confident manner that suggests you don't take yourself seriously and that you learn from all of your many interesting experiences. It's okay to talk about how you got completely rejected by some girl 5 or 10 years ago, but make it funny. It almost implies how much you grown/changed/matured/learned without even saying it. Again, it's about how you say things otherwise you might come off like a dork. Done right it can come off as endearing and attractive.

AMOGs tend to be sharp and outwardly interesting. This is great to have so learn from it. However, while learning this stuff one thing that everyone has are experiences in which we've learned something from so you could talk about those things and you can sound very inspiring. To inspire you touch everyone not just the opposite sex. Let them talk about their nice cars or fancy knowledge of football or whatever. Hit them in the emotional spots like about the time you nursed a baby squirrel back to health or something.

Learn to thread conversations so you can steer it into your court where you have an advantage and talk about things you know and like. Do not try and compete with amogs. You are better and more confident than that. Take solace in the fact that WHEN you become more successful, you learned how to do it after being the underdog that had nothing before. Unlike your natural counterpart you've earned your more confident self and that it wasn't some gift to be taken for granted.

I think you are getting to a point where you are going to stop hating amogs and start learning from them. Hell, if you can surround yourself with amogs or people with A+ personalities your own abilities will increase tenfold. So what if you don't get the girl you had your eye on. There are many others - ones that are probably more interesting.

"Failure is the key to success" - some inspirational asshole who gets all the chicks

Big_TX · 2015-04-14T00:55:54+00:00

My guess. I don't live inside your mind so I could be way off, but her goes: you never knew or were friends with the other "alphas" so they were "them" or "those guys" they did not feel that "human" to you. So you just get pissed or envious.

You know this guy and maybe you are friends with him. So he is very "human" to you. So that humanized the whole being "Alfa" thing to you.

blowhouse · 2015-04-13T07:33:24+00:00

itll pass man. You'll be back to your same old self soon enough. If you have been in a rut for 27 years, some adrenaline in your system right now isn't gonna turn things around.

Title	I am motivated to get good with women for the first time in my life. I'm 27. I'm almost stumped as to how it happened.
Author	GuyMontag21
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Date	April 13, 2015 6:48 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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