How can I get past feeling inferior towards women I find to be very attractive, and seemingly more experienced?

xau-the-tau · 2015-04-28T08:09:35+00:00

First off, there is nothing wrong with being introverted. Not everyone was born a social butterfly, but what you do have is the leverage to work hard at improving your life in general, and potentially end up being great at socializing. I think this goes deeper than wanting to have sex though. It's one thing to love rubbing your genitals on other peoples genitals, but as soon as you start expecting it to change who you are as a person, you're on a slippery slope. Start working on your life and looking at what you're bringing to the table for the girl. Rather than expecting it to change you, start just unapologetically putting yourself out there. If they don't like you so be it, their loss. You will find the people who you are meant to find if you just muscle it out socially. In terms of girls though, start developing a social circle with some girls. This will give you a "practice range" in a way. It allows you to see what type of attitudes toward them you should be cultivating. It also allows you to know what type of stories work around what type of people (if you have trouble finding things to talk about, have a few cold reads ready to go, for example "You seem like an outdoor/indoor person" then elaborate on why you got that impression of them. I wish you not luck in your journey, because I think that phrase demeans a lot of hard work. Instead I'll leave you with this. It gets better. All you have to do is chase the life you've imagined.

recyclablebantha · 2015-04-28T13:42:10+00:00

I'm just a very introverted person, and its easy for me to get in my head a lot.

The trick for you is probably going to be finding a way to express your social side without overwhelming your tendencies of introversion.

If you can see your way to focusing on gathering information from the people and environment, it will help. This has to be done because every time you get into your head, you are cutting yourself off from information that a girl is giving you.

I am 19 and just feel like I'm not where i want to be in my life.

Few people are, at 19.

Its like my thinking in my head is if i lost my virginity, i could finally feel like the person that i see myself as, yet i can't achieve it when i meet people. Like i don't know the other side of myself yet. If that makes sense.

It's doubtful that sex would clear up this confidence issue. The answers to this kind of thing are within yourself. Having sex with someone won't inherently teach you how to put your awareness outside of yourself.

I just can't help but feel inferior when i get attention from attractive women.

This is only in your head. All PEOPLE, attractive or not, have preferences. Everyone is attracted to different things. So there are going to be people who are attracted to you, that are also attractive.

But until you accept that truth, you will only repel them by assuming that there is some reason that they shouldn't be attracted to you. You owe it to yourself to question these thoughts in your own mind.

You feel inferior when you get attention from attractive women? Listen to yourself, man! Why should you allow yourself to feel inferior in a situation that should be reaffirming your own attractiveness?!

You have to do the work here to combat these thoughts. Sex isn't going to fix anything.

radicalomnipresence · 2015-04-28T21:23:26+00:00

I've seen some knockout girls with unattractive, bald, and unfit men before. With women it doesn't matter how you look so much as it is the confidence in your approach.

Sedditor829 · 2015-04-28T07:57:42+00:00

Imagine them pooping.

southpole4 · 2015-04-28T08:00:54+00:00

Inner game, inner game, inner game. Watch a ton of RSD videos (ones that focus on inner game stuff). Read up on some books and articles (good selection in side bar).

Title	How can I get past feeling inferior towards women I find to be very attractive, and seemingly more experienced?
Author	Iorgs2
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Date	April 28, 2015 4:39 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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