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| 1 | My AA is extremely severe. Violently racing heartbeat, profound difficulty breathing, and gross-motor tics. Exposure doesn't seem to be helping.These are panic attacks, bro. Go talk to someone. You sound very stressed and I think confiding how stressed you are to someone in itself will make you feel better. Also something I learned a while ago is that part of the secret is to be okay with being afraid. I even started telling girls they made me nervous but the hardest person to admit my insecurities and fears to is myself. It may freak some girls out but that's okay. You'd be surprised how many women are okay with you being nervous (they… | /r/seduction | 01/07/16 02:31 AM |
| 4 | Early 30 year olds out there, how well do you do with younger women?I'm 33 but I look 21 and all I seem to find are college girls interested in me. I have the opposite problem in that younger women aren't very emotionally satisfying to me. Like I've already been where they are and I'm someplace different. But if you just want to hook up it's nice. | /r/seduction | 01/07/16 12:31 AM |
| 2 | TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off?I find women feel slutty when I tell them I'm interested just in friends with benefits. They seem to give a vibe of telling me they're not that kind of girl unless we've already hooked up. It seems to be something that happens organically more than being decided ahead of time. But how to make it happen... | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 09:39 AM |
| 1 | TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off?Honestly no I can't because I forget about them/my phone while I'm doing other things. I find if they text me and if I forget for a few hours or whatever they don't seem to like it. But it seems really needy to me to want me to text back so soon/often/etc. (they always just want to keep talking lol). | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 03:46 AM |
| 1 | TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off?But that's the issue, I feel like they want so much of my time and attention and I don't want to text/call every day or whatever. Shit, I don't even text my best friend every day, let alone someone I just met a week ago. It all just comes across as needy to me and that's a huge turn off. | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 02:06 AM |
| 1 | TBH I can't find girls who are cool with just hanging out/hooking up 1-2 times a week. How do you guys get away without texting/calling girls after dates/sex without pissing them off?I haven't been following any rules really, I just can't get a girl to keep talking to me after not talking to her for a week or so. | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 01:35 AM |
| 4 | Can you maintain attraction with only texting?So try this: Compliment question. If she gives a cute answer text: OMG you're so freaking cute So what did you end up doing today I usually send them as two but you don't have to. Just remember compliments are conversation KILLERS if you dwell on them. In fast transition they amp things up but if you just sit there and wait for her to thank you or something it's not doing you any good. Mention the compliment like you're not looking for a compliment (aka thank you) in return. Then start talking a… | /r/seduction | 14/03/16 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Snapchat gameGuys don't take lots of selfies unless it's a really awesome selfie. | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 01:06 PM |
| 1 | Her male friend, how do I handle a jackass?This guy is a real-life troll. | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Newbies: Try the "Honest Beta" approach.Spoiler: Nothing really fresh or new gets upvoted on here. Just try it one night unless you think, just like the other guys, it will ruin your rep with the ladies lol | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Newbies: Try the "Honest Beta" approach.If you mean to be vulnerable with yourself, yes. | /r/seduction | 01/03/16 01:23 AM |
| 9 | Now that I am really successful with women, I hate them more than ever.Not to sound like a dick but it's unfair to blame women for the fact that getting women didn't make you happy. It's not their job to be hot or great girlfriend material. It's their job to survive and have as much fun doing so as possible, the same as you, me and everyone else. We're only selfish because it works. You have to just pick someone you like and say fuck it to the rest. There's some cool chick out there and you're starting to see why a good partner is hard to find for both men and wome… | /r/seduction | 29/02/16 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Now that I am really successful with women, I hate them more than ever.The part that got me is I can't stand women flirting with me. I used to live for it but now that I realized how needy that is I don't like it. And now I look around and everyone seems needy as fuck. | /r/seduction | 29/02/16 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Just realized I have no game.I wouldn't start with cute. IMO there's really two phases to this game that are hard to combine. You need to learn how to get comfortable talking to people in general and being more social in general (believe it or not this is about the hottest thing you can learn, good conversation). The second part is learning how to let a woman know you're interested in a way she'll like to hear it. If you're a total beginner I wouldn't try to do the second without getting somewhat better at the first. My bes… | /r/seduction | 29/02/16 09:41 PM |
| 3 | Just realized I have no game.I have no game but I still get laid simply because I tell the girls I think are cute that they're cute. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 09:19 PM |
| 2 | You are out in public with a girl you have slept with but are not yet exclusive with and you run into someone you know. How would you introduce her ?"Ill put them on the spot and say, 'Damn, you're being nosy!'" then tell them. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 09:18 PM |
| 2 | You don't have to be perfect, in fact you're more approachable when you're not.Bartender, but I also do volunteer work at a place where I'm the only guy. Keep in mind it's not the job cause the guy I bartend with hasn't been laid in months. And I'm nothing special by anymeans, I just have what girls want (liquor at first lol then to talk to me) and I know how to use it to my advantage. That's really a lot of "inner game" is knowing how to work what you're good at. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 09:58 AM |
| 1 | You don't have to be perfect, in fact you're more approachable when you're not.The more a girl is into me the more nervous she gets... It seems a lot of this is just reassuring girls that you're really into them. Also if I girl is looking for perfection I'm convinced she, just like anyone who seeks perfection, will be nearly impossible to please. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 05:06 AM |
| 1 | You don't have to be perfect, in fact you're more approachable when you're not.Let's say I have a specific situation in life that gets me a lot of attention from women and tons act to shy to even try and talk to me. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 02:26 AM |
| 2 | You don't have to be perfect, in fact you're more approachable when you're not.As a female on a seduction board I would say your actions are not indicative of most women. | /r/seduction | 28/02/16 02:25 AM |
| 2 | I am confused when I should walk away or break rapport (show aloofness) and when I should stay in the set and push the interaction without being needy.Not to be rude but I wouldn't worry about this at all. I would focus on two things: 1) Focus on making sure you learn some things about her. Make sure you remember her name, and 2-3 things about her. Ask her about things you find interesting. Just do your best to have a good, full conversation. 2) Make sure she knows you think she's pretty and you're interested in her as a girlfriend. Open your eyes up a bit bigger than usual and look the girl you like in the eyes when you talk. You can be dorky… | /r/seduction | 27/02/16 10:57 AM |
| 10 | You don't have to be perfect, in fact you're more approachable when you're not."We're all gonna make it, brah." Zyzz | /r/seduction | 27/02/16 10:50 AM |
| 11 | I've been totally surprised at how much women fish for compliments on their bodyYeah you're right! I used to get turned off by girls who were insecure but then I realized they ALL are. And when I started looking guys are, too. There are so many things we do that if you really break it down come from a feeling of inadequacy. Some are more obvious than others but like 75% of what we do comes from some mild insecurity or desire to be noticed by someone. TBH that's my whole "seduction" mantra. I basically try to raise their self-esteem in an honest way, then slowly get them use… | /r/seduction | 27/01/16 07:58 AM |
| 1 | Confidence is not the answer, it is merely the result of the answer. The true answer is simply to have faith.Yeah I mean I have doubts, don't get me wrong. I live in a 6x10 room without windows. My car is 20 years old (perfect pizza delivery car lol) I'm always amazed women come back in my old car to hang out with me in my weird room, but it's just not my place to qualify myself. Shitty Analogy: If I was applying for a credit card I wouldn't just not apply because I didn't think I could get it. At some point you just apply for one and hope it works out. That's kind of what I do, but I apply by just hav… | /r/seduction | 20/01/16 05:58 AM |
| 2 | How do I learn how to stop analyzing, let loose and have more fun?I'm allergic to alcohol :-( | /r/seduction | 20/01/16 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Confidence is not the answer, it is merely the result of the answer. The true answer is simply to have faith.Working towards something I love, whether it be writing music, going back to school, working out, whatever. I do what I love and I forget I'm a "loser" lol | /r/seduction | 19/01/16 11:09 PM |
| 1 | Confidence is not the answer, it is merely the result of the answer. The true answer is simply to have faith.I'm 30 and I deliver pizzas. So what? | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 09:21 AM |
| 1 | Confidence is not the answer, it is merely the result of the answer. The true answer is simply to have faith.Yeah I recently re listened to a video by Tyler and he said faith is important. That always struck me as odd until I realized this. | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 02:43 AM |
| 2 | How to Not Care What People Think - The Belief Shift To Live a Life Where You Are in ChargeI appreciate the content I think this is unhealthy thinking. You should definitely care what some others think. Not doing so IMO implies a level of unhealthy self-absorbtion. We're herd animals, and we respond well to things that please the crowd. Most people I know who truly come off as not caring at all what others think make me kind of nervous to be around TBH. The words, "socially uncalibrated" come to mind, or people completely void of trusting others. It's totally fine to care what others … | /r/seduction | 15/01/16 12:59 AM |
| 1 | I was told I want to change the world but am not intimate with the world around me, I don't know what that means.I know this type of talk isn't really appreciated, but IMO you all are on different frequencies. | /r/seduction | 11/01/16 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Recovering misogynist here: How do I find the value in women again?Yes absolutely. | /r/seduction | 11/12/15 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Recovering misogynist here: How do I find the value in women again?It's not like they mean to, I mean we all take value and give value (sharing), but I don't feel like I'm getting anything valuable in return so I don't feel like I'm sharing as much as just getting my time and energy taken away from me. Like seriously what am I supposed to be getting out of a relationship? What are you other guys getting other than a feeling of closeness, intimacy, and sex? Like my desire to be intimate and close with another person is almost gone, too. It just seems like no big… | /r/seduction | 10/12/15 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Recovering misogynist here: How do I find the value in women again?That's actually my problem. Like I can't see women as anything but people. They've lost all their sexuality to me, like it just doesn't turn me on to see a hot girl anymore and when I try to talk to them to get turned on it doesn't work. | /r/seduction | 10/12/15 09:29 PM |
| 6 | So many girls on Tinder say they aren't looking for ONS but is this really true?I put on my profile I like women who know what they want and don't just take what comes to them. My responses dropped lol | /r/seduction | 02/12/15 02:34 AM |
| 0 | How do you get with college girls in a college town if you are an older guy that doesn't really go to school there? (USA)Remember it's about what value you offer. You can offer the value of a good time but to a sorority girl she's probably going to want a boyfriend who already socializes with her friends and whatnot. Most greek people are greek because they greatly value having their close social circle that's active and fun. But to a non-greek girl you're a guy who has already achieved something with his life and has a direction. Plenty of undergrad girls get wet at the thought of going out with a dreamy grad stu… | /r/seduction | 21/11/15 08:28 AM |
| 1 | Went on a tinder date last night, had a great time, she tells me she didn't feel a "romantic connection." How do you create a romantic connection?A chemical reaction isn't about either chemical as much as it's about what they exchange and how much energy is given off. This is a good analogy. If you are Sodium and she is Aluminum (or maybe she's just really "Boron" you /dad) you'll never react. Nothing wrong with Sodium or Aluminum, but y'all just don't have the right chemistry. Now when you meet some Iodine or Chlorine you'll hit it off and have an awesome reaction that gives off lots of energy. But once again it's not you or her, it's th… | /r/seduction | 21/11/15 12:18 AM |
| 7 | Im doing netflix n chill with a girl and I need some tips.Biggest mistake people make on this sub is thinking seduction = sex | /r/seduction | 21/11/15 12:11 AM |
| 2 | Narcissism and egoism will DESTROY your gameI found out quickly the fastest way to get rid of a girl was by not validating her after sex. I used to think the whole three day rule applied after hooking up and wondered why all these girls who were all over me would flake. It still baffles me how much of my time women expect without really giving me all that much back in return. Being a sugar daddy has its benefits once your time becomes more valuable than your money lol. | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 06:33 PM |
| 6 | Narcissism and egoism will DESTROY your gameYeah at some levels it works and did for me too when I remained rational and calibrated, but then I found myself going too far and genuinely becoming detached from my surroundings. I'd say things that were downright rude, or make girls feel dumb or awkward just for a laugh (I could tell they didn't like it and I didn't care). My reality is still sometimes so powerful and feels so good I want to make myself happy at all costs. I really only see how hard it is on others when I talk or write about … | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 06:24 PM |
| 2 | My club promoter friend says I can't talk to his girls?This guy doesn't know shit about promotion if he doesn't think a hot guy can help him land hot girls in his club lol. Why can't you help him get more girls in the club? The girl can still spend money and go out to the club if she dates you lol. But...spoiler alert, there is something she can't do with him if she's dating you (which sounds like the bigger issue). | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 04:00 PM |
| 2 | Reverse FR? This woman had me dead to rights.None of that "Puritanical" element to your culture? | /r/seduction | 11/11/15 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Girls seem to really get off on being mean to me. Any ideas why this is? Is it possible to get too playful?Is female kino different from male kino, and they're essentially putting their hand on my back? | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Girls seem to really get off on being mean to me. Any ideas why this is? Is it possible to get too playful?That's DEFINITELY the impression I get, like I'm constantly being tested. It's only people I'm hanging out with or work with, etc. But of those girls it doesn't take long. I kind of figured it's just something women do to men, but I don't notice women getting nearly as verbal or physical with other guys, even guys who get way more girls than me. The thing is I'm not flirting with them. I don't know what I'm doing to encourage it. I'm just not depressed is all. | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Girls seem to really get off on being mean to me. Any ideas why this is? Is it possible to get too playful?I definitely give it back except I can't be as mean as they are cause they get their feelings hurt. I have to be more physical that wordy. Like I'll tease them more about things they're doing than who they are. That was part of what got me. Like these girls are dishing stuff at me they can't take back. It annoyed me at first but now I just let it bead off and laugh. I keep my teasing more lighthearted cause they got more offense than defense lol Finally I think part of this is I used to be a lot… | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Girls seem to really get off on being mean to me. Any ideas why this is? Is it possible to get too playful?I usually do, or laugh at them. It's definitely playful but girls like getting rough with me. It's not like I sit there like a punching bag, I just have a really high tolerance for shit like that. My problem is usually I don't care what people think of me, almost to a level that it bothers some people (especially girls I've noticed). Like when they punch me on the shoulder or call me a twig I genuinely don't care and laugh if the joke is funny. I guess the issue is that I feel like I'm doing som… | /r/seduction | 28/10/15 05:58 PM |
| 1 | I keep seeing on here to wait a bit to text girls but I find when I wait I get no response. Any ideas!?Through friends, at parties, sometimes at bars... I have a really hard problem with being affectionate enough I think. Like I think that may be the problem but acting too affectionate seems clingy to me. It's odd cause even hot girls, when they are direct and clear with me and tell me they like me, I get turned off and want to push them away. Displays of affection that are too strong really seem tacky and childish, so it seems hard to advance when my body tells me I wouldn't like the same thing. | /r/seduction | 26/09/15 06:40 AM |
| 2 | Forget one-itis. How do you get over none-itis?It feels like every conversation is the same. Who and what are you connected to emotionally? What are some of the more emotionally powerful moments (bad and good) of your life? What methods do you take to pursue happiness (almost always drugs, booze or some hobby). If you break down these conversation it's like you're having the same one over, and over again. The only thing that changes are the details but the intentions never change. It's kind of a letdown, like there's no new adventures out th… | /r/seduction | 26/09/15 05:55 AM |
| 2 | I keep seeing on here to wait a bit to text girls but I find when I wait I get no response. Any ideas!?Also, I have a hunch that these girls don't like that you're waiting so long to text them after they spend the night. I get that impression too but I'm really not all about spending every night with them, either. It's like they change they way they act towards you once you've fucked them which confuses me. I don't know how to treat a girl I've fucked any differently than one I haven't. I mean I'm just me... | /r/seduction | 26/09/15 05:49 AM |
| 1 | Forget one-itis. How do you get over none-itis?I guess the problem is more now. Like yesterday I barely talked to her when we hung out and she hasn't texted me or anything since. And now I'm wondering if I should bother texting her back or just say fuck it and not bother. I don't know if it's because I'm afraid. I could be, I guess... | /r/seduction | 24/09/15 07:01 PM |
| 1 | I was nervous about being too old for her. Turns out she was nervous about being too young for me.I used to be until I got older now I like younger women lol | /r/seduction | 22/09/15 06:25 AM |
| -3 | All you need to know about negging. You have a problem of things going well with a girl but one wrong neg blowing you out? Has your negging(teasing) gone wrong and she's taking it personally? If so here is a really simple rule of thumb on how to tease a girl.I understand you're intelligent in this and a mod, but if you don't think negs are a form of teasing then that blows my mind. I mean it's all part of the big push/pull but I've found a more subtle approach where I keep it friendly works better than when I try to break rapport and make her go in her own head about what she's doing (which usually just makes the girls clingy but lose their fun-loving side which isn't what I'm looking for at all). By negging with a smile and making it more of a teas… | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 10:01 AM |
| 1 | I know this sounds crazy but IMO my confidence level isn't my problem to fix.Assuming attraction, advance is most of it. I think this outer game bit is what addresses this question, how to advance with a "smooth" delivery. But what I'm saying is to make sure she knows that if she advances you won't say no, and IMO not enough guys do this. If you can get a girl to make just ONE TINY move, and you respond favorably in her opinion, her trust level of you will increase for sure. I've had girls go from super quiet to borderline dominatrix because I did this. I became the guy … | /r/seduction | 20/09/15 09:40 AM |
| 0 | My first time opening a 2 set. I realize now I'm going to have to change my approach to have more successYeah I mean if she can tell your goal is already to get her in bed she's gonna be weirded out. Make it seem like you're just looking for someone fun to go party with or something, that's what girls want (at least at first). This is why IMO it's important to make approaching a girl seem more like a social interaction than a pickup. Showing sexual interest in someone before getting at least slightly aquainted is something foreign to them and will weird them out. They just don't get turned on as vi… | /r/seduction | 17/09/15 12:55 AM |
| 0 | My first time opening a 2 set. I realize now I'm going to have to change my approach to have more successFriends first when approaching groups bigger than you. You have to get them feeling like you're a part of their group before you can really escalate as someone she'd rather be with than her group IMO. Day game opening up more than one person is really freaking hard. You being hot will help because you can stay friendly and she'll still have some sexual interest. Stay super social, not very seductive and get a number. No more than 5-10 minutes tops. I'd really not push it other than getting a num… | /r/seduction | 16/09/15 11:56 PM |
| -1 | Hi, I'm a female PUA learning the ropes here. What's the best (nicest), no-nonsense way to reject a man?You shouldn't get downvoted for being real. That being said don't reject someone based on superficial assumptions. That, "PUA" may have just had his life changed and it helped him find passion in life beyond women and getting people to like him. Hard to criticize the knowledge of PUA so wholeheartedly based on the preconception you have of a "player" in your head. It's never the guys who you think learned seduction that did. It's the guys you hook up with that often times had to ask for help on … | /r/seduction | 08/08/15 06:44 AM |
| 1 | What is the psychology behind being mean, brutally honest, and indecent to women and them wanting to be with me?Status and testosterone. | /r/seduction | 09/06/15 04:31 AM |
| 6 | How can I get past feeling inferior towards women I find to be very attractive, and seemingly more experienced?Imagine them pooping. | /r/seduction | 28/04/15 07:57 AM |
| 0 | Do you think it's weird to inbox a girl on FB if you've never spoken to?Works for me. | /r/seduction | 25/03/15 08:11 PM |
| -1 | Do you think it's weird to inbox a girl on FB if you've never spoken to?FTR I get laid a lot more being a "creep" than I do trying to do all of this the smooth, right way. Start with a smile, a wave. Ask why she doesn't instagram anymore, say you miss her photos. It's easy, bro. | /r/seduction | 25/03/15 06:24 PM |
| -2 | Do you think it's weird to inbox a girl on FB if you've never spoken to?Just like one of her instagram photos. Make sure it's one that implies she's hot. Then just go slow and smile more at her, etc. Just be patient. | /r/seduction | 25/03/15 10:02 AM |
| 3 | Vocal tonality: A topic that doesn't get raised on this sub much anymore. It helped me years ago more than almost any other advice.Your voice lets everyone know whether or not you feel in control. | /r/seduction | 05/03/15 09:56 AM |
| 1 | When you have a sleepover...The issue I have is they DON'T advance, at all. They want you to. For a while we'd both just sit there and then she wouldn't talk to me as much after that. But then I would start trying to kiss them and they wouldn't stop me and I realized that was their "advance." | /r/seduction | 03/03/15 10:17 PM |
| 3 | How do I build sexual attraction over general attraction?Make sure she knows how sexy you think she is, too. Don't be afraid. | /r/seduction | 28/02/15 09:30 AM |
| 1 | How to approach a group of girls?Ask yourself this: What's in it for them. If the whole group won't benefit from you being a part of it you're already screwed. But if the girls are down with talking to you then you're in. Just look out for the mother bird who gets jealous of the guy in the group. | /r/seduction | 28/02/15 09:29 AM |
| 1 | How to respond to "I have a boyfriend" when she likely actually does and it isn't just a random girl who you will never see again?Protip: If a girl has a boyfriend but is down to cheat on him (and you don't mind being a homewrecker) she will almost always end up saying something negative about him or in a negative tone. She'll either admit the relationship is flawed, or sound like she's annoyed with him, etc. You'll be able to tell if she's still down. A girl who talks about her bf in high regard is USUALLY not DTF. | /r/seduction | 28/02/15 09:26 AM |
| 1 | Finally recovered from deep depression at (almost) 25 years old. Any tips for me?For me it was learning how to be friends first. A lot of guys I feel like want to learn how to seduce girls when they don't even know how to talk or have a conversation with a girl. Try that first, learn how to be comfortable around them. Being comfortable and relaxed having a conversation with a girl is IMO the most important thing you can do outside of showing interest. | /r/seduction | 24/02/15 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Trouble with girl who plays "the game"GUYS read this. WOMEN FEEL THE SAME WAY when you try to play games with them! This is why you don't bullshit them, they can tell. You're not Johnny Depp, you can't act so well for two hours straight that no one else can tell. The answer to OP is nothing. As a fucked up person the more stable I become and the more I'm starting to look outside myself the more I see a lot of girls are kind of fucked up as far as how they view life and love and there's nothing I can do for them. | /r/seduction | 24/02/15 09:51 PM |
| 2 | /r/seduction hits 200K subscribershttp://i.imgur.com/vIf0lAD.gif | /r/seduction | 24/02/15 09:48 PM |
| 1 | Can People REALLY Change?I think the real question is how do you NOT change? I mean to me the real problem is I'm impatient and I want to be better at something NOW. But the idea that I can't emotionally and mentally evolve throughout my life is absurd. | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 08:40 PM |
| 1 | The importance of mindfulness and losing ego.Ego is pretty closely related to narcissism in this case. Everyone is narcissistic to a point because we have to be to survive but it can go wrong fast. Make sure she feels like it's just as much about her as it is about you. | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Cant stand up for myself, I just ignore when people treat me wrongHOnestly bro you could probably help yourself out a whole lot to see a therapist/counselor for a little while. Even like three months can help you see what things you're doing that are keeping you from expressing yourself. Be picky, a good therapist is not nearly as much about credentials as about connecting and relating to them. I would suggest another man, personally. Just an insider tip: When you start getting assertive some people will flip out on you cause they're insecure and have problems… | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 08:29 PM |
| 13 | Don't let women know that you are learning from the PUA community.The problem with seduction is the word. It's semantics. I think to a lot of girls it implies (unfairly) that you're doing it in a way that is narcissitic and self-serving (like manipulating her into trusting you). I've told girls I had to learn how to flirt and when I say that they don't think it's weird at all. But in reality isn't that all this seduction stuff is is anyway? Just learning how to convey sexual interest in an inticing way? | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 08:21 PM |
| 1 | What to say if a girl says/thinks you are gay?That women sometimes think you're gay. I mean break it down: A woman thinks your'e gay it means she doesn't think you like women which means she doesn't think you like her which means she can't tell you're interested in her. If the girl who thinks you're gay isn't the girl you like who cares. But if it is a girl you're trying to seduce you need to push harder. And you may still be assertive, just not assertive enough with that specific girl. I mean they're all different so this isn't really far … | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 08:06 PM |
| 1 | How do you get a girl with social anxiety out of her bubble?Have you ever had social anxiety? What would it have taken for you to feel comfortable around her? Temporarily you could make me feel better by seeming interested in who I am. Help her trust you with her deepest darkest secrets by asking her to confess small secrets and liking her even more for knowing them. | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 12:21 PM |
| 1 | What to say if a girl says/thinks you are gay?I know others may disagree but I got called gay a lot before I got more assertive. IMO it usually means that you aren't seeming interested in the women around her It could possibly mean you're well-put together and thought out though. I mean think about it, bro: Would she say that she thinks you're gay if she can clearly tell you're interested in her, a female? Be more assertive. | /r/seduction | 23/02/15 12:07 PM |
| 2 | What you think people see when they look at you vs what they actually seeI've done this. I went through a long "avoidant" phase and I would reject girls without realizing I was. I really thought it was gross how people talked to each other and I had to learn that my sexuality is normal and healthy. | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 07:42 PM |
| 1 | What you think people see when they look at you vs what they actually see"x-post from /r/getmotivated" | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 07:24 PM |
| 2 | A quick tip for people struggling to find their flirting style: Flirt how you want to fuck.Yeah there's definitely unashamed girls but there are also girls who are shy and curious. Also I've found women love to dominate as long as you tell them to dominate. Like you still take charge and start everything but let them go from there. Like telling her to sit on your face or have her smack you kind of hard...or take her hands and put them around your neck. You'd be surprised how many girls get off on being able to do those things to a guy but think they never will find a man who would lik… | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 11:04 AM |
| 1 | I feel like a dancing monkey when I go sargingHow often do you ask people questions about who they are? Just curious, do you spend a lot of time getting to know a girl and asking her a lot of details about the type of person she is? A lot of dancing monkeys don't get anywhere because they're so involved in what they're doing they ignore all the signs the girls give them. They're all answers and no questions. They spend all their time entertaining and no time bonding or connecting. It's like a girl who spends the whole date wondering how she… | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 10:47 AM |
| 1 | So I recently picked up a job at my college's tech store, where I constantly interact with tons of new people/coworkers throughout the day. How can I use this job to up my game?Ask every person that comes in a question other than how their day is. Ask them what they've been doing or where they're going. Is this mildly intrusive? Yes. Is it mildly intrusive in a good way? A lot of people think so, and you'll be able to tell who these people are because they'll respond enthusiastically and like they enjoyed being asked. Then you can keep going if they seem friendly and like they enjoy telling you about themselves. If they got back from work ask what they do. If they're g… | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 10:23 AM |
| 1 | College Dormroom DreamYeah awkwardness happens when people act differently than they used to. One of the best ways to get yourself a friend with benefits is to fuck her the first time then act the same after cause a LOT of guys can't do this (and a lot of those guys think they can but really can't). | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 10:17 AM |
| 2 | A quick tip for people struggling to find their flirting style: Flirt how you want to fuck.I get the impression a lot of girls are ashamed of their kinks and hide them, so you can actually be surprised. I knew this super quiet little girl who weighed maybe 95 pounds confess she wanted three guys to have their way with her (not one, not two...three. Think about that). She was crazy drunk and never admitted anything like that again. | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 10:04 AM |
| 5 | A quick tip for people struggling to find their flirting style: Flirt how you want to fuck.I don't know you or your situation but I found for me that once again being honest works best. Are you a quiet, shy guy or do you talk a lot? If you're more quiet you'll still have to overcome some anxiety but look for other quiet girls. It's actually pretty easy to talk to an introverted girl when you have stuff in common. Like what if you are both anime fans or both play RPGs? There are TONS of super shy girls out there looking for some guy who enjoys a night of netflix more than a club. Talk … | /r/seduction | 22/02/15 09:59 AM |
| 2 | [FR]A good vibe makes seduction run on autopilot.Autopilot and confidence are the same thing in a way. Confidence is the result of having done something effectively so many times you no longer need to concentrate and can do it without thought. You know you're good. This is why experience is the best way to improve your game. | /r/seduction | 21/02/15 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Got a girl's number last night, heading to the same party tonight, any advice?Biggest thing IMO is to start from scratch. She was drunk, gave you a number. That's like not much on the drunk girl scale, no offense. As a guy getting a number means a lot more because it implies going after what you want and shrugging off your anxiety. This is monumental and often triggers massive changes in men. It's not the same for women. Girls don't have anxiety getting asked for a number, at least not in the same way. It's no big deal, they didn't have to do anything. So yeah just go bac… | /r/seduction | 21/02/15 08:06 PM |
| 15 | A quick tip for people struggling to find their flirting style: Flirt how you want to fuck.Mine changes from night to night. Some nights I just want to talk to a girl, chill like, and really just soak in all the little details but other nights I want to feel her submit, you know? But the thing is some of these moods I feel very confident but in others I don't. But the reality is men pick up women feeling a variety of moods, so it must be in my head. And it is. A fun way to try this is different bars. Bars if you think about are really selling a mood. Clubs get you feeling amazing, spe… | /r/seduction | 21/02/15 07:48 PM |
| 2 | What do you do when your job kills your game?I deliver pizzas. | /r/seduction | 17/02/15 02:07 AM |
| 3 | How to overcome fear of failure?- Worked on innergame, became late bloomer, stuck in a ruttAs a perfectionist I can say failure is crushing to some. | /r/seduction | 15/02/15 09:22 PM |
| 3 | Decided against sex when it was right thereThe biggest issue is women practically look for excuses to think they're slutty. They're really insecure about it so if she's rearing to go and you reject that it makes her feel easy and undesired. As long as that didn't happen you'll be fine. Some girls are secure enough they get it. Some aren't. | /r/seduction | 15/02/15 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Behaviors that reveal romantic attraction - "Psychologists coded 36 verbal flirting behaviors — such as making compliments, asking questions and revealing information — and nonverbal flirting behaviors —such as leg-crossing, palming, leaning forward, playing with objects and nodding."So what do the "Idiots" do who have to learn how to take a hint? I mean if you're going to teach with advice shouldn't you make sure it works for those who need it? | /r/seduction | 14/02/15 08:45 PM |
| 7 | Behaviors that reveal romantic attraction - "Psychologists coded 36 verbal flirting behaviors — such as making compliments, asking questions and revealing information — and nonverbal flirting behaviors —such as leg-crossing, palming, leaning forward, playing with objects and nodding."You got downvoted but I agree. If a girl is giving you the "go away" vibe don't assume she wants you. I think it's best to say, "When in doubt, keep going until you know for sure she doesn't like you." But the article also says it's much easier to tell when someone doesn't like you so this isn't a big deal I bet. | /r/seduction | 14/02/15 12:50 AM |
| 0 | Behaviors that reveal romantic attraction - "Psychologists coded 36 verbal flirting behaviors — such as making compliments, asking questions and revealing information — and nonverbal flirting behaviors —such as leg-crossing, palming, leaning forward, playing with objects and nodding."I'm having problems understanding this. Any ideas? | /r/seduction | 14/02/15 12:48 AM |
| 1 | How to get a guy/girl to ask you outYeah I always feel like when this happens I want it to be really obvious is all, especially if we've both had a few drinks. Girls kind of suck at being aggressors lol. Like they just aren't used to it (this may be the first time in her life she's escalated kino) so they need to play the game on super easy mode at least at first. So I make it easier by letting them know clearly I like what they're doing and that if they keep doing it I'd like it more. I don't want them worrying whatever they do m… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 09:48 PM |
| 2 | I think I figured out a huge secret to seduction. People ask what women want and I think it's as simple as "to be wanted and desired."Not different just more direct. IMO creepy isn't from being too obvious but from being too indirect. Like arm hovers or stuff like that. Moving too fast usually is more making her feel easy which isn't creepy as much as it makes her feel like what she's doing is wrong. I've told girls I want to kiss them within a minute or two and had it work. Its about where she's at. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 08:55 PM |
| 3 | I think I figured out a huge secret to seduction. People ask what women want and I think it's as simple as "to be wanted and desired."Thanks for the reply. I don't feel this is true. Actually since I've started getting into this my main thought/reaction to women now that I'm more seductive is that they aren't nearly as selective as I once thought. In fact the number of women out there who are DTF (and DT date whoever they F) is pretty crazy high. They move really fast! They're usually way more about Mr. Right Now than Mr. Right. If you're the guy right there in front of them and you're cute and they're having fun they're going… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 10:51 AM |
| 1 | Why are girls always in defensive mode?Persistence will beat a lot of defenses. IT's not that they aren't interested, it's that they want to know you're not just looking for an easy fuck. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 10:44 AM |
| 2 | How to get a guy/girl to ask you outIMO the best way is to make sure she knows you're going to say yes and that you like it when she's aggressive. How do you do this? Tell her! If she does something sexy let her know! "That look you keep giving me is really freaking sexy, did you know that?" "Yeah so you're like a really good kisser *chuckle*." If you're someplace inappropriate be like, "If you keep doing that you're going to make me hard." You say these things and she's going to go crazy. She's going to feel like she has a lot of… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 10:42 AM |
| 1 | excuses to touch her hand or hair?Listen to what Throwaway said. Now using desire as your motivation a little sample conversation: "I love your hair." *runs fingers through lower part of her hair* "Oh damn your hair is soft. What sort of shampoo you use cause I need some," or, "Do you spend a lot of time on your hair or are you pretty natural?" Yes you can be this obvious. Yes women won't mind. Fun fact: Girls actually like obvious guys cause sometimes they're a lot less nervous putting the moves on a guy they know will say yes. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Hey guys, whats the rule of thumb for approaching in the gym?Only get flirtatious with a girl you've see regularly. Do it when she isn't working out, like maybe at the water fountain or inbetween sets. Wait for eye contact and a smile. Then keep it very short and friendly. Here's why: She's going to be focused on something else and on guard, both of which make game really hard. If it's the first time she's met you she's going to be freaked out, period. Also the gym is a place of hard work so it's best to respect people when they're legitimately working ha… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 09:31 AM |
| 1 | When I was younger and more insecure, I would break eye contact immediately when an attractive girl looked back at me. Now, how do I tell if a girl I'm checking out isn't interested, vs nervous and shy and just afraid to make eye contact?This may sound crazy but a shy girl I find will still look back if she's interested. I mean super shy girls won't but after a certain point you can't help them. If they can't even look a guy in the eyes then she needs to learn some game first. Either that or take over completely and get prepared for a girl who doesn't take very much initiative IMO :-) That aside if a girl likes you but is shy she's going to come back for a second look IMO. Like if you're cute enough to make her nervous she's goi… | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 08:59 AM |
| 1 | Music as a confidence boostI listen to Howard Stern cause my biggest issue is being too serious and not sexual enough. He keeps me laughing, playful and in a dirty-minded mood that makes for good conversations with women. | /r/seduction | 12/02/15 08:41 AM |
| 2 | Is it bad to admit to a girl you haven't had sex in a long time?Yeah and not only that but if a girl says she thinks you're a player she's actually saying, "I like you but I don't feel like I can trust you yet," If she trusts you she won't think you're a player anymore, she'll see you're different. Just realize it's not because you're a player it's because she's feeling like if she sleeps with you now she'll be too easy (or like every other girl, which she doesn't want). Best way around this is to slow down. Get to know her for a bit and let her realize you'… | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 07:20 PM |
| 3 | what are ways that guys show they seek approval and validation?Bro I really wouldn't worry about how you're seeking approval and validation. It's one of those things that the less aware of it you are the less of a problem it is. Thinking about it will cause more problems than it will solve. But for real just be okay for a while being needy. It's okay. Yeah you'll want to cut it out but TRUST ME you'll realize really fast if you're being too clingy (it was harder for me to see if I was being clingy enough and making sure the girl knew I cared about her) You … | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 10:48 AM |
| 3 | Why are many of us afraid of women?I wouldn't overthink this answer. I'd say it's pretty straightfoward, something as simple as it being because we're different than them. They have different parts and shapes and it's confusing. Then we get all this really shitty inaccurate info on "what women want" from movies, porn, our mysoginistic uncle, etc. and it fucks with us. We freak out, we can't possibly be all that! And from there without a big dose of awareness we just look for things that prove what we believe. | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 10:25 AM |
| 6 | How do you stop seeking the approval of women?Dude you never do. Anyone who tells you otherwise is nuts. You may not do it with every girl but there will always be situations where you can feel yourself slipping into a subservent mode. The difference is it happens with fewer women in fewer situations, and at least for me I'm way more aware of when I'm getting afraid now and can concentrate on slowing myself back down and getting under control. The irony is as you get along you find it's those ones who make you nervous and somehow get you se… | /r/seduction | 08/02/15 09:42 AM |
| 1 | "Alpha" males, what are your rules for communication online/via text?Dude the most important part is to not think about it too much. At this point there is no sexual tension so just text her like you would anyone else. Don't try to get cute or sound amazing. Don't try to be overly "alpha" either by keeping your texts to a minimum. If you're a man of few words be simple in your texts. If you text a lot, text her a lot. And if you're a goofball, go ahead and put those lols and :-)s in there. It's okay, this is your personality shining through! Also despite what I s… | /r/seduction | 06/02/15 12:56 PM |
| 1 | Is going to see fifty shades of grey on valentines day a good idea?Touching up on her during this movie will be creepy if you haven't done so already IMO. Cause even letting you touch her leg will imply a feeling like she's agreeing to the fetish on-screen in a way. You're going to be putting your hand on her leg while a giant screen in front of her is showing a girl getting tied up and fucked. Just saying it's going to create some mixed signals that may be really hot to some girls but may be just a little too much for some (especially if she doesn't know you w… | /r/seduction | 06/02/15 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Feel bad about being "alpha"This isn't always true. Often times we learn more about ourselves when we put our skills to the test teaching them to others. | /r/seduction | 06/02/15 12:14 PM |
| 1 | Most of the time you get rejected it will not be because of who you are or your personality. It will be because of your game.I hate being that guy but for real tell her the same thing back. No joke. "I was actually worried you were going to think I was a slut." | /r/seduction | 09/01/15 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Most of the time you get rejected it will not be because of who you are or your personality. It will be because of your game.Experience. But some things I've learned are to say it in a way where you can't go back on it. Stick your neck out. This is huge IMO. Also KINO. I'd say ultimately it's best to make her feel sexy. Like they say what turns a woman on is a mystery but IMO what really turns a woman on is herself. Let her see that she has the power to seduce you if she wants. That feeling that she IS sexy enough and even super sexy to you is hard for a girl to resist as long as she thinks it's sincere. Help her feel… | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Most of the time you get rejected it will not be because of who you are or your personality. It will be because of your game.You'd be surprised how much it turns a girl on to know they made a guy hard. They have to want you first, obviously, but once they do their primal instincts take over and all they want is to turn on the person who turns them on. None of us can help the desire to have a hot person tell us we turn them on. Once you get to know a girl a bit and she starts really getting into you you can straight up be like, "God, you make me so horny. Get over here and kiss me." And if a lot of times, she will! | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Messaging old matches on TinderI find the old, "Act like you've done this before," works pretty well. After time you'd drop the bs anyway. | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 02:47 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop seeking validation from females?A lot of people do, though, you know? These people are out there (and sometimes I'm one of them), so it's good to remember you can sometimes be dealing with someone who just feels like they deserve perfection. | /r/seduction | 07/01/15 01:21 AM |
| 1 | How do I stop seeking validation from females?What about if you're narcissistic and just like being worshipped? lol | /r/seduction | 05/01/15 07:25 AM |
| 3 | I had something become super clear to me this weekend: You must always be leading.None of this changes anything. If you want to be the star QB you can't think it's annoying that the other team is trying to defend you. If you're in sales it can suck that being too low-pressure will lose sales but it's still true. Instead of thinking it sucks use it to your advantage. | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 06:58 PM |
| 5 | I had something become super clear to me this weekend: You must always be leading.It's not about opinions. It's about kino and advancing. You always have an opinion, even if your opinion is that you don't have one. It's impossible in life to not take a stand, even one for neutrality and openness. | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 06:54 PM |
| 76 | I had something become super clear to me this weekend: You must always be leading.Girl was texting a guy she met the night before. After flirting with her a bit she starts showing me the texts and he's asking her why she didn't "make a move" on him the night before. So I said, "Well, why didn't you?" Her response? "Cause I'm a girl." I said "So that's it, there's no other reason?" She said said no there was no other reason. So then I leaned in closer, put a flirty smile on my face and said, "So if a guy is interested in you, he should just lean in closer (leaned in closer), l… | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 06:49 PM |
| 3 | Competing over girlA friend who cockblocks is no friend at all. I'm no psychologist but your "friend" sounds passive aggressive as fuck and the only way to beat a passive aggressive person is with assertiveness. This means you need to bring all of this to a head now, but with her not with him. The next time you two are together you need to escalate and fast. If you aren't kissing her and making out with her by the end of the night, then give it up cause you need to have tried by then for sure. | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 11:16 AM |
| 2 | Competing over girlI don't think he's being used as much as this girl is enjoying feeling wanted by two guys and likes the idea of having either one over the idea of having both. It's as much a fantasy for women to be wanted by multiple men as it is the other way around. Would you rather have a threesome or have to choose the hottest one? That being said your best course of action both for sanity and your chances with her are to back off and be polite friendly instead of flirty friendly. I can't tell you what will… | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 11:06 AM |
| 3 | Why will some girls ignore you after no sex?In my experience a girl will almost always think if you don't want to have sex with her that something is wrong with her. It will at the very least be awkward for her. They're just so not use to rejection on that level it's a very odd thing. Like it will happen in relationships but on the first night? Maybe once or twice in their life. It's going to mess with them. Sometimes you just have to conform, bro. It sounds messed up but you gotta just bang em. If for any reason but to complete the seduc… | /r/seduction | 16/12/14 11:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you keep sexual tension going when you aren't around the girl?She is a server who had no idea when her shift would be over. So I said, "Hey let me know when you're off work." Should I have just waited for her to text me since setting up a time beforehand was out of the question? | /r/seduction | 21/11/14 02:35 AM |
| 5 | Really not a bar/club person, where are some more relaxed settings to meet women?Wing dog | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 10:55 PM |
| 0 | Went out with a guy from the local "lair" yesterday. It was the most pathetic experience of my life. I don't know if I can do game anymore.The word you're looking for is fake. He was fake and everyone could tell. | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 10:52 PM |
| 2 | What do do with being really picky?Yeah from inside it's hard to tell. I see a therapist and so I'll definitely be seeking professional help but at the same time I feel like every problem that has ever been had with women has been experienced by someone here so I thought I might be able to see it from a different viewpoint if I posted this. | /r/seduction | 25/10/14 06:11 AM |
| 4 | Inner Game is The Most Important Thing To Work OnThe post-fuck empties... | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 04:23 PM |
| 0 | Isn't it ironic that the most desired women are on the having sex extremes: porn stars and virgins.Perfect wife and perfect mistress. | /r/seduction | 14/10/14 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Seddit Pro Tip: Don't be turned off if a girl acts slutty towards you. This is what girls do when they're horny.Yeah I get that but a lot of these girls are sweet girls who have about 100x more difficulty being assertive than we do. So when they do try to take charge they absolutely suck at it and come across more like a pornstar than a hot girlfriend. I'm saying give them the benefit of the doubt because they may just be nervous around you. And what if once she relaxes you find out this girl is not only very loyal but fun to be around and a total freak? | /r/seduction | 10/10/14 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Due to psychological issues, I have decided to remove myself from hookups/pickup/datingDude I don't know you but I'm so fucking proud of you. Trying to fix the finishing touches on a home with a cracking foundation is a bad investment, yet I'd say a good HALF of the guys here are trying to do just this. It's like, "If you invested your effort and time into a more hollistic goal the girls will come." Also I know PTSD is one of the toughest conditions to deal with out there but be strong, bro. Don't get worked up about "feeling" like you've made progress cause it's often times takes… | /r/seduction | 08/10/14 06:31 PM |
| 2 | I'm 29 and got a girl's number....but she's only 18.Fun Fact: All of Hank's books written before the show starts are the name of Slayer albums (God Hates Us All, Seasons In The Abyss, South of Heaven). | /r/seduction | 08/10/14 06:26 PM |
| 1 | I'm 29 and got a girl's number....but she's only 18.That would be if she was 17... | /r/seduction | 08/10/14 06:26 PM |
| 1 | A couple of observations I had about the book ModelsI think you can even combine these observations. Say, "I want to tell you a secret but I don't know if I should." Then if she asks why say because you're kind of nervous to. It will let her know, "Hey, I'm putting myself in a very vulnerable state right now," and maybe make it a bit easier to empathize. Plus she'll give you a good indicator of how interested she is in getting to know something special about you. If she's like "Please tell me!" then you know there's interest. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 12:21 PM |
| 1 | How long does it usually take to build attraction?If you can't tell you're not being assertive enough. Have you touched her? That is my tell, usually. I touch her on the arm, does she move it away? If I look in her eyes does she keep looking back? These are two good starters. Also try touching twice. I've had girls touch me and in an anxious wreck jumped away when i really wanted it to keep happening. | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 09:10 AM |
| -1 | I think it's important for us to not confuse seduction skills with self-esteemBut like I said before if you're trying to be that best person because you feel incomplete and you need to do so to be liked by others (which is exactly how a person who feels he has no self-value will take it), you're going to seriously fuck yourself up and do a lot of damage to your psyche. IMO you can't put the cart before the horse. You have to love yourself and gain that self-esteem, have that place inside that when rejected you can go to and keep the rejection from cutting too deep. Then y… | /r/seduction | 09/09/14 07:08 PM |
| -1 | I think it's important for us to not confuse seduction skills with self-esteemLOL this is the worst advice I've ever heard. You invalidate other people's potentially legit problems by implying that some problems aren't important enough to see someone about, and that ignoring said problems and dealing with them on your own is somehow better for you. Impressive. I bet you're the type of guy who gets the flu and refuses to go to the doctor because doctors are for "whiny pussies." Your logic is horrible too. If you're 20 and having problems why NOT go see someone before you'r… | /r/seduction | 09/09/14 07:02 PM |
| 2 | Looks Mattering.Okay so how it worked for me was realizing yes looks do matter but there are SOO many different women out there with different types it doesn't matter. Like for real, how can some of the girls out there NOT find you hot? Aside from having the courage and confidence to ACT (which I'm sure it doesn't feel courageous and confident to you, but it never does from the inside), there's probably more than a few girls out there that will see your "type" and go sploosh over it. You might just have a certa… | /r/seduction | 06/09/14 08:53 PM |
| 1 | So I'm starting to think we're going about this whole confidence thing the wrong way.Yeah I feel like this ties into the "direct and obvious" part I talked about. Like the more direct and obvious a skill is to learn, the more you'll get out of a book or manual. So math is awesome to read about then try, but seduction is a lot tougher to get a feel for by studying it. I'm sure other things like learning how to fix computers would be easier to learn from a book than, say, learning how to dive. Some things can be studied well, others are learned best through tangible immersion (act… | /r/seduction | 01/09/14 11:47 AM |
| 1 | A question to those who follow Mark Masnson Style???I think most of the seduction techniques that polarize men and women and focus on their differences are not good for natural game. Women are people, too. I'm not saying there are NO differences but that IMO there are fewer than we realize. We all like being around someone who is attractive, interesting and fun. If we're around someone we're interested in, we are usually going to be more nice and accommodating, and put more effort into a conversation, date, etc. We like feeling sexy, and it feels… | /r/seduction | 01/09/14 10:28 AM |
| 2 | One Tip that gets me killer eye contact and smileWhen I do this I'm met with girls who look away very quickly. Does anyone else experience this? | /r/seduction | 01/09/14 10:19 AM |
| 2 | How to make out/get with girls at parties etc? I can talk to them and flirt, but I don't know what point to kiss them? (17, UK)You'll stay right where you're at as long asyou fear your friends knowing you failed. failing /= failure | /r/seduction | 16/08/14 02:03 AM |
| 1 | "I want to just go with the flow."This is non-talk IMO. She's saying she wants everything to feel natural and spontaneous. Well duh lol who doesn't? It may mean anything but I wouldn't sweat it. You just have to stay genuine and be persistent. | /r/seduction | 09/08/14 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Gaming multiple girls from the same circle: Possible?I'd say no. I did this and the one girl kept giggling and saying, "You can't flirt with me and my friend at the same time!" Even when she wanted to she was like, "You can't do that." | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 10:29 PM |
| 1 | Officially have left r/ForeverAlone and joined r/SeductionJust remember what you think others think of you isn't what they think of you. Women often just take your lead and if you feel awkward they will think you are. | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 10:27 PM |
| 7 | An article on the perspective of the hot girl. Just curious what you guys think.I feel like once you start dating you start to see pretty quickly that hot is not necessarily attractive. | /r/seduction | 29/07/14 12:02 AM |
| 34 | An article on the perspective of the hot girl. Just curious what you guys think.It tends to be more prevalent in countries that are in the middle of military coups. Not to be a dick but keeping that mindset is either going to get you in trouble in hot spots or keep you from experiencing awesome stuff in safer places. You should definitely have a different gameplan for South Africa than, say, Sweden. Personally I would love going but I really do have an issue with places in governmental strife. | /r/seduction | 28/07/14 11:57 PM |
| 1 | "People who work out live longer, but those extra years are spent at the gym." This is funny, but now I am starting to think that there is some sort of truth in it. Shouldn't I spend more time in improving my seduction skills?I can already tell you that you're thinking about this too hard. Be honest with yourself and trust what you believe. Do you think looks matter? Do you think they're all that matter? What do you think it would do to help you? No one else can answer these questions for you because they're not a matter of being correct as much as they're a matter of forming an opinion. There are no real, definite answers to these questions you ask (aside from what psychological studies are out there), so there's no… | /r/seduction | 28/07/14 11:50 PM |
| 5 | As a Young Guy, How Do You Convince Older Women You're Mature Enough?I wouldn't try to convince them of it at all. Those who try to convice others they're mature rarely are and those who are mature see through it. All you can do is make it no big deal to women. You can't convince them to just not care about age anymore if they already do. Relax, just keep doing what you're doing. | /r/seduction | 01/07/14 02:54 AM |
| 3 | How would you approach a girl at a festival?I found starting conversation before band sets really works. When I went to Bonnaroo I started talking to this girl and hit it off a bit. Band comes on, and I kind of put my hand on her side and she just backed right the fuck into me and started grinding on me. I was like, "Oh, ok!" At that point I was pretty beta so I just left after the show (d'oh), but then doing the same thing worked AGAIN on another girl (once again fearing rejection I stopped there). It was crazy. It's amazing how down a l… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 09:47 PM |
| 2 | Do I need to have all those "tricks and cards" like DHV etc. if I want to become better with women?Noticing what someone else says isn't a game. It's genuine interest in who they are instead of being more concerned with ourselves. This is a crucial, integral part to attracting other people to you in general. | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Do I need to have all those "tricks and cards" like DHV etc. if I want to become better with women?No offense but as a beginner I wouldn't worry about trying to be "fast" about this. Unless a person is procrastinating or stalling out of fear it's okay to take some time. You don't have to escalate the kino in 5 minutes, and if you do so without her being ready for it you're going to blow up magnificently. | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 10:26 AM |
| 1 | I got a girl's number tonight and noticed some things. If you're still at a phase where numbers are a problem this might help you out.Yikes if I'm being honest I am reluctant to tell you because I still feel slow and clunky with my question asking. But if you insist I am still learning to do this also so I just asked a lot of easy to answer stuff about her favorite movies, music, TV, books, the usual stuff. I may not be as smooth as Don Juan but I've heard people say on here you can ask whatever you want if you do it the right way. So I figured as long as I ask a question I really want to know the answer to then it's the right… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 09:40 AM |
| 2 | I got a girl's number tonight and noticed some things. If you're still at a phase where numbers are a problem this might help you out.physics major | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 09:32 AM |
| 0 | I got a girl's number tonight and noticed some things. If you're still at a phase where numbers are a problem this might help you out.Yeah I get this. If I was my ideal person I want to be I would probably not react nearly as much to positive attention as I do but since that's not true I wasn't going to hide it. Though in saying this I will say that I feel like the whole buyer mentality prevents me from liking her just because she likes me. Like that's just a prerequisite that the girl is buying too. Although yes I admit I do find a woman more attractive when she's receptive to me and seems interested in who I am. This would a… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 09:11 AM |
| 1 | Want to establish deep connections together? "Be the buyer, not the seller."Maybe that person's time isn't for sale. | /r/seduction | 29/06/14 01:58 AM |
| 6 | Want to establish deep connections together? "Be the buyer, not the seller."Ah, yes. I realized this, too. I was like, "If I'm the buyer how to I make myself seem as valuable as possible?" And I realized that was not really the right way to look at it. Although you can most definitely increase your value to do so in order to get a hot girl/best job is just selling yourself to them again. It's trying to improve your qualifications to the buyer and be the best product. But despite that we can be honest and admit you do have to do that to get a job somewhat. So then you go… | /r/seduction | 27/06/14 09:28 PM |
| 17 | Coming across sexuallyIn my experience it's best to set the tone from the near beginning. Just say something like, "You're really cute." Don't dwell on it, but just say it, and then if she's like "Oh yeah," just pause for like one or two seconds, look her in the eye and say, "Yeah...but anyway," and go back to what you were talking about Most of your approach should be non-verbal but there's no replacement for straight up telling a girl she's cute. IMO it will put her in a state, too, where she'll know what's up and … | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Sedditors who work out, how much of a difference have you seen in your game since putting on some muscle?Care to elaborate? | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 11:53 PM |
| 8 | How can a guy act "hard to get"?Well this is why you don't develop oneitis. It's kind of like that free agent in sports. He's shopping around, probably has a dream team in mind, but sometimes the GM plays his cards the wrong way and the player goes to his second or third favorite place. But as that GM you have to understand there are other players out there and you can't bet the farm on just one. If you lose one, find another. | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 11:44 PM |
| 16 | Do you think smaller/shorter guys have to be more aggressive when approaching, or that they can get away with being more aggressive than most guys?Okay so I'm not saying you're wrong but my argument is this. A lot of times passiveness can be condidered either alpha or beta. A 6'6" dude who plays it cool will have everyone around him still respect the fact he could really be dominant if he needed to be. But the smaller guy doesn't have that luxury. A big guy gets called an insult, lets it slide and he's being the bigger man, but if a 125 lb. guy gets called out and shrugs it off will people still feel the same or will they think he doesn't … | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 07:17 AM |
| 10 | Do you think smaller/shorter guys have to be more aggressive when approaching, or that they can get away with being more aggressive than most guys?I'm not saying it's an "issue" or that I want to change how tall I am. I'm just wondering if being short or unmuscular/skinny allows or requires a greater level of assertiveness. I mean I think bigger guys can be more intimidating and if some 6'4", 250 lb. linebacker was acting really aggressive it could be too intense for a lot of people, including women. So maybe it works the opposite way too, maybe a guy who is 5'5" like you and weighs 130-140 needs or can be a little cockier than the average… | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 06:35 AM |
| 2 | I have a problem: I can only approach while on drugs.Never done 2C-B, but I know when I'm on acid I feel like I'm Lord fucking Byron in the middle of Don Juan. Then I see the girls' face start distorting and I just start laughing uncontrollably. I used to do tons of xanax then go out and party. Honestly I hooked up a lot with girls and wouldn't remember shit the next day. But one day I had a girl who I actually like tell me she was turned off by how loopy I acted. It made me realize that when I do drugs I'm not showing people my genuine self. I'm … | /r/seduction | 27/03/14 07:02 AM |
| 7 | What is a good way to approach a guy for sex in a bar w/o seeming...um hookerish?Taking advice from men on how to pick up men is as crazy as taking advice from women on how to pick up women. No one will admit it but it's true. That being said I'll bite. First things first is to overcome your approach anxiety. Honestly with women you don't need a very flirtatious open. If you start a conversation with a guy that will be enough. From there I'd give you the same advice I'd give a guy, display desire without giving him everything he wants (being too easy) Use some push/pull tech… | /r/seduction | 27/03/14 06:43 AM |
| 1 | (FR) going to the club soberNot trying to white knight but this is why people have so many reservations against sober guys picking up on drunk girls. It's just so much easier that our society has deemed it unfair. | /r/seduction | 27/03/14 06:38 AM |
| 7 | What is being needy?It's hard to explain, which is why half the posts on here talk about it. To me there are some general themes: 1) Putting other people's needs before your own (who aren't friends/family). 2) Doing things with the sole purpose of getting others to like you. 3) Being too clingy. That's a good start. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 03:45 PM |
| 2 | How I picked up a model in the mall (Infield Audio)Dude sounds like Sasha. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 03:37 PM |
| 2 | How I picked up a model in the mall (Infield Audio)The thing is once you do it it's easy. You don't have time to be nervous once you start talking. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 03:36 PM |
| 1 | How I picked up a model in the mall (Infield Audio)Dude when a girl tells me she's a model I go along with it. Let her feel sexy. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 03:35 PM |
| 2 | [FR] When it was going well, and how I fucked upI don't mean this in a rude way but was this girl younger? Honestly she seems kind of sexually immature. I notice you said YOU fucked up. I urge you not to look at it like that. It just didn't happen. A lot of times women get nervous too and fuck up around guys. A lot of times they'll have something like this happen and feel like it's their fault, too. Don't internalize incompatability like it's your fault. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 03:33 PM |
| 10 | When a girl puts HERSELF on a pedestalI disagree with this approach because it seems over-reactionary. But to each his own. Me personally I would respond in a way that made her realize I thought her confidence was cute but that her high opinion of herself doesn't change anything. Like I'd reply with a simple, "Is that so?" If she replies back with a reason why then that's a sign of qualification. If she replies back with a simple yes, then just go, "Okay," or "We'll see." Give her an amused smile and some eye contact while doing so.… | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 08:39 AM |
| 2 | Do any of you guys use the "I can't resist you/I can't say no to you." method?I don't know really how this will work for others. I didn't really think this through as a guide as much as an explanation. Use at your own risk. Remember not to be too passive or go along with her too much or you'll get walked over. Still keep teasing and being playful, use your push/pull or whatever you call it, keep up the kino, eye contact, etc. It's not an excuse to not be challenging. Be a fun flirt! This isn't about about how to talk to women as it is about how you show interest. Really i… | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 07:38 AM |
| 1 | How I picked up a model in the mall (Infield Audio)I'd say the opposite. I never need to resort to passive-aggressive insults to knock a girl down a peg. That's beta IMO. When I use a neg it's with a girl who seems pretty cold and frosty. It's not to put her in her place or anything, but because some girls like it when you play rough. You can usually tell pretty fast, these are the "sassy" girls who can sometimes come across as bitchy. Except they're not really bitchy as much as they are just the female version of cocky. And IMO it's best to rep… | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 06:09 AM |
| 2 | Sober meeting to drunk hookupB likes S. S probably knows this. She may not like him back but drunk girls notoriously go along with things that their friends do like this. I'd say you did fine, honestly it may have been for the better. Now instead of being a one night stand you left something more for her to find out about you. The key is to play it cool. If she wants to meet you she will, and it sounds like she wants to. But at the same time I hear that oneitis creeping in. You had a hot night with a HB and got blocked. Get… | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 05:10 AM |
| 1 | How I picked up a model in the mall (Infield Audio)I feel like they work on really cocky girls. Some girls get off on a good burn and some heated back and forths. I knew one girl who liked to tell me I acted like a girl and I was anorexic. But yet at the end of the night she asked me to go back to her place. She told me she loved how cocky I was, go figure. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Screens for if the girl has a boyfriendThis. I'll say something like, "Tell me more about yourself. Do you have a boyfriend, kids, pets?" Or just straight up be like, "So I have to ask, do you have a boyfriend?" Women aren't dumb. And what's crazy is they really dig the straightforwardness. | /r/seduction | 26/03/14 04:32 AM |
| 2 | Had an epiphany today I thought I'd share: Women don't want a guy who gets them, they want a man who is attractive and exciting.Actually I feel like the problem most guys have is that they are too logica, or at least overthink things way too much. I'm a rather emotional guy honestly. But I've found women aren't necessarily attracted to how in-tune I am with my feelings. Like I said it can be nice and will definitely make for a more fulfilling relationship but especially in the beginning there needs to be more of that "masculine" side I've never shown. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 08:19 AM |
| 7 | Had an epiphany today I thought I'd share: Women don't want a guy who gets them, they want a man who is attractive and exciting.I agree, which is why I said first and foremost. I feel like the masculine attraction is a prerequisite in a way to the understanding each other connection. At least that would explain my track record. | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 08:16 AM |
| 1 | Completely walked away on two separate IOIs today. Now I'm drowning in guilt and shame. Don't be like me.Yeah buddy the eye contact lesson of seduction is one of the hardest lessons there is IMO. It's so intense and powerful when you first do it you want to look away. I felt like I was being waay to intrusive towards women that I did that to. It took a while for me to look a woman in the eyes with a flirtatious smile without having my heart pound out of my chest. That lesson alone took me almost a month of trying every day to get. I know some guys on here will disagree but you might want to try and… | /r/seduction | 24/03/14 03:48 AM |
| 3 | Completely walked away on two separate IOIs today. Now I'm drowning in guilt and shame. Don't be like me.To each his own. I admittedly am not an expert or anything, but to me there's a difference between pushing myself and feeling guilt and shame when I fail (except OP didn't even fail). I feel high levels of guilt and shame in my everyday life and one of the main obstacles towards being the best man I can be is eliminating those feelings. I've found feeling that way hardly ever gets me where I want to go, and usually just serves to paralyze me from going after what I want. It's just my personal op… | /r/seduction | 23/03/14 05:58 AM |
| 6 | Completely walked away on two separate IOIs today. Now I'm drowning in guilt and shame. Don't be like me.If you feel pressure to hit on every woman who flirts with you, you're going to get burnt out really fast. I'd take it easy on yourself. The first rule of seduction is to have fun. It sounds like you're new to this. If I were you I'd just lay back and enjoy the ride. Today you didn't approach a girl. Big whoop. You had a fun day at the mall with your friend, and you noticed a girl who was checking you out. Nothing bad happened, you just didn't fully play out the situation as far as you may have … | /r/seduction | 23/03/14 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Day game when living in suburbs with parents.Maybe. The farther from home you go, though the harder the date will be to set up. Say you travel an hour, but you meet a girl who traveled an hour herself from the opposite direction. On the other hand the girls you meet locally may be fewer and far between but will be easier to set things up with. It's a compromise. | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 06:17 PM |
| 10 | Every "nice guy" or guy who exhibits "nice" tendencies should read this. It's a great explanation as to why "nice" doesn't work on it's own and how to balance it with attractive actions.The reason I posted it is because I feel like not enough guys get that it's about passion and not about technique. Technique and all this "alpha" talk is secondary, but guys work on it like their moves and lines are what's getting them laid and not the raw desire they show towards women. It's not who you are, it's how you make her feel. If you make her feel irresistable, then chances are you have a girl who is going to be hooked on you. IMO it's not even that hard to balance. If you're a "nice g… | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 05:33 PM |
| 5 | Every "nice guy" or guy who exhibits "nice" tendencies should read this. It's a great explanation as to why "nice" doesn't work on it's own and how to balance it with attractive actions.I felt like it did something different. The whole "alpha" thing IMO is overrated. You need to show clear, direct, emotionally-driven intent. Be passionate, tell a girl she's irresistable. Allow yourself to want her. IMO you can be a beta who does this and get laid more than the alpha who tries to play it cool (which is why some "losers" get laid all the time, notice they're usually the guy who isn't afraid to tell girls they're hot). Being "Alpha," smooth and cool are the chocoloate syrup and ch… | /r/seduction | 20/03/14 05:20 PM |
| 2 | What does it mean if a girl texts you this?Honestly? Without knowing her it's hard to tell. It seems like a great sign, though IMO it means she's a girl who loves to talk about sex with anyone, or she's a girl who doesn't just talk about sex with anyone but doesn't mind talking about it with you. If she's the type of girl who is totally unashamed and says anything to anyone I would take this as less of a hint than if she's a girl who has some reservations about certain things in front of certain people. Either way though your action shou… | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 10:58 AM |
| 2 | Shit test: "So you do this all the time huh?"I get what you're trying to say but the best way to ease her mind IMO is a compromise between you and the other posters. You don't want to invalidate her but you can also ease her mind without getting all serious. If it were me I'd probably respond playfully at first and if she persisted then I would give her a straightforward answer. I wouldn't be overly ridiculous, but I would definitely give a small laugh about the question and answer with something playful. I was talking to a Canadian girl (… | /r/seduction | 08/03/14 10:42 AM |
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