[FR] First day out in the nearby mall

dyllos · 2015-05-11T17:49:51+00:00

The "what time is it line" probably died after every 9 year old these days has a phone. But other than that, good day.

2015-05-11T20:12:12+00:00

Good for you. Now...

You need to start working on getting yourself in state more (to help combat AA), and I would suggest you start to go a bit more direct if the situation makes sense for it.

So let's think about the elements of a guys state when he's having a great set:

Confident
Sexual
Chill

So you need to start coming up with little things to do, or to tell yourself to encourage these three elements.

For confidence the thing I do is I correct my body language to be more confident, thus subtly feeling that way. Stand up more straight, walk in more of a straight line with my head up.

For sexuality, I'll clear my mind, and check her out. Being shameless about it, look at the way her ass moves and imagine it bent over and naked and... I look at my favorite feature, and wherever my brain wants to go while doing that, I don't stop it from going there.

For being chill, I just kind of slow down everything. Walk slower. Breath more slowly, like a slow breath one would use in yoga or meditation. It really is a mini meditation.

So steal what I do, and/or make up your own ways of getting yourself in that zone of being confident, sexual, and chill. That'll help with your anxiety...Particularly the sexual part, it murders nerves, if you just let it flow through you. You know how much more powerful lust is than your fear of being judged? So much more powerful that a tiny bit of it can make you forget your fear of being judged.

(edit: imo approach anxiety is best beat by: 1. relentless exposure to women, doing a lot of approaches 2. All those little things I talked about doing in this comment. and 3. The old 3 second rule. )

bachatatata · 2015-05-11T20:02:50+00:00

You did well. The important thing is that you valued your beliefs. You weren't attracted to her, so you didn't ask for her number.

However, if you saw friendship potential in her, I would've gone for it.

DravenTalkingToWomen · 2015-05-11T20:08:39+00:00

"Should I have gotten the number anyway?" << It's good to get reps in that are further along the schedule penetration process, even if you don't intend to go through with it. Great job, push a little further next time.

BajinghaBlop · 2015-05-12T17:22:14+00:00

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wontonamobae · 2015-05-11T19:51:16+00:00

nice.

2015-05-12T01:52:10+00:00

Try to end your interactions on a high note. When you're feeling really good and she's laughing just go "Listen, I've gotta go but would like to see you again" and then ask for the number. There's no way she'll refuse and it reduces the chance of her flaking on you because you left her with tingles.

runninggun44 · 2015-05-12T02:34:20+00:00

I'd say you should still try to get the phone number even if the girl isn't your type. Whether or not she gives you the number (and its pretty likely she would have) its still a confidence boost just that you actually asked. If she doesn't give it to you, thats okay, it takes rejection to get over the fear of rejection. Even if you have no intention of ever calling, its not like you're doing a dis-service to her, you probably give her a nice confidence boost just by asking for it, and it really can't do any harm.

YOUNG_G0D · 2015-05-12T16:10:54+00:00

Stop it with the "lines". Just be completely authentic, transparent, real. If you thought she was cute the moment you saw her, let your mind align with your mouth and tell her that. You eliminate so many birds with one stone just be letting her know this:

-You're being confident

-You're being sexual

-You're being real

To be honest, those are really the only things women look for. You actually had the chance to really get deep into her mind when she started talking about her university life and whatnot. Just do a bit more listening and respond as needed. Just "dance" with her, in a sense. She probably would've ended up giving you her number. Just remember that for next time. Align your mind with your mouth, and be an active listener. I actually find that eye contact helps me with the listening, as well as arousing her. ;)

Title	[FR] First day out in the nearby mall
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Date	May 11, 2015 4:50 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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