After having sex with girlfriend she seems to show less interest in me

DaygameCoach · 2015-05-17T13:55:12+00:00

Buyer’s Remorse happens as a result of the guy neglecting to build comfort/rapport with the new girl.

At this point, stop telling her you miss her. Give her a few days without texting her at all and ask her out for specific day (you can give two options) instead of just asking her when you are seeing her. Your relationship? You dated her a week and slept with her once and haven't seen her since...that's a little early to call it a relationship, so since you haven't built enough rapport and she has buyers remorse, telling her you miss her is weird to her.

Good luck with this one.

ntuthu · 2015-05-17T17:37:06+00:00

stop analysing too much dawg. If the sex was really good she'll come back. Give her some time brother.

sacriliciously · 2015-05-17T21:10:44+00:00

Are you a woman?

This reeks of role-reversal. Read everything you wrote reversing the roles.

Dude, play the game or drop her. She's obviously playing it. Be on her level or find someone else. Tough love, but really.

Miggysaurus · 2015-05-18T03:46:19+00:00

Give her an orgasim.

cheeseburgerandfry · 2015-05-17T16:55:18+00:00

You're too needy and too attached. Emotionally you are being the female in this relationship and that's driving her away fast. Actually the relationship is already doomed. Just give up on her and find someone new.

Instead of "when will we meet" (expecting her to make the decision that men make) say "lets meet next tuesday at 9"(example)

instead of "I miss you" say... nothing, or "I miss your fat ass ;)" or something like that.

Basically the reason she doesn't like you anymore has nothing to do with sex. You're too needy and you have no self-confidence.

guy14 · 2015-05-17T15:08:57+00:00

A friend of mine was the girl on the receiving end of a situation like this a week ago, except she did not have sex with him. Allow me to state a few points without giving the whole story: -she liked the guy -she had JUST gotten out of a LTR earlier that week -she told him that he could sleep in her bed and they could cuddle and kiss but THATS IT -he kept pushing and it pissed her off To quote her "it wasn't making me hot, it was doing the opposite because he didn't respect my boundaries, I was NOT in the mood" -they did not freak

What does this all mean? Above all, a girl wants to feel like you respect her wishes (if you don't respect them now, why would you later?).

If you guys are meeting up to be alone and she tells you BEFOREHAND that she doesn't want to have sex with you (especially with some kind of "yet"), then that is not last-minute resistance. Lmr is different.

Another thing is that we are all human creatures driven by emotions of the moment, we all do something we might regret. Girls might find it hard to say "no" quite a lot. But just because your girl gave in, doesn't mean all of the mental checkboxes in her brain turned into a "yes, this is a good decision".

Tl;dr you had sex, but just because she agreed, doesn't mean she is 100% happy about it. Show her you respect her boundaries.

Title	After having sex with girlfriend she seems to show less interest in me
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Date	May 17, 2015 1:45 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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