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Arrived the beach an hour ago, got rejected 3 times already.

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May 18, 2015

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Title	Arrived the beach an hour ago, got rejected 3 times already.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	67
Comments	29
Date	May 18, 2015 10:54 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/36f9t4/arrived_the_beach_an_hour_ago_got_rejected_3/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/arrived-the-beach-an-hour-ago-got-rejected-3-times.1388331 https://theredarchive.com/post/1388331

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[–]hjjslu 23 points24 points25 points 11 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link

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I've been approach my women in stores

Do you have any particular plan for how you come up with your opener in these cases?

and others who compliment my tattoo.

Nice. The tattoo is kind of like a litmus test. Girls often won't comment unless there's some interest here. If they were repelled, they wouldn't bother.

I try to keep my conversations as short as possible until I ask if they want to give me a tour of the beach (if they live here) or something else involving us two.

Hmmmm. Trying to keep them as short as possible, while pushing forward towards your proposal to hang out..... having an agenda can affect the way you act and speak so that you're not quite as free and fun as you could be. A girl is looking for some kind of connection.... a basic level of comfort, trust, whatever. If you're keeping the conversation short and pushing toward a specific goal, that will have a negative effect on the impression you make.

It's similar to how you can tell some guy approaching you on the street, is a religious person about to start their pitch. You can just feel it by how they act and their word choice. And it pushes people away. Because it says to people that they don't care about connecting, only about their pitch.

It's fat better to just follow a conversation where it goes. Get her talking about herself, however long that is. If you need to go or she does, AND you've enjoyed the talk, then ask for a number and then exchange numbers.

But pushing for a date right there..... That's probably not going to work out too well.

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[–]Moderatorrecyclablebantha 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for the thought out response! Time to change my game plan, you're right about what you said. I ran this morning and walked to a diner for breakfast. There wasn't many people out, I'll try what you said next time I head back out and let you know how it goes!

You might try a place that features some activity that you like doing, so that you can approach at your leisure, either on the side or because of the activity.

And as far as this idea on the thread, of letting them know how attractive they are..... it's not going to do much. Say you tell them they're attractive. Then what? Then you still have to come up with something else. So it's more effective to just skip to the part where you're connecting. You can do that easily by focusing your attention on the moment and everything happening around you. (Including their actions, obviously)

Talking to them can show interest just fine without giving away free validation.

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[–]DaygameCoach 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

Direct saves you time but because it blows out women you could have gotten with indirect playful. So, you are giving up women who can't decide based on outer game and an approach...but require more verbal game before the SOI. That is fine if you are doing a metric shit-ton of approaches, but it sounds to me that you just aren't doing enough approaches to make up for going direct. There IS a time to go direct. Read below.

I wrote about this here: http://www.daygamer.net/2014/12/07/when-and-how-to-open-direct-day-or-night-game/.

Here is the important bit:

"So, when should you use direct openers? If you are getting IOIs (Indications Of Interest, which in this case are body language interest/flirting signals), she is already attracted to you, so open direct. Otherwise, open indirect playful. This gives you a better chance with girls who already like you (with direct) and a better chance with girls who might need some attraction triggers (like humor) to decide. Some good body language books for IOIs are Superflirt and Superdate by Tracey Cox."

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