I can't talk to girls that attract me at all

chiliehead · 2015-05-25T18:13:09+00:00

Just treat every person the same way. There are now cute girls, attractive girls, ugly girls, cool guys, or creepy guys anymore. They are just people. Chances are that some of the girls you´re not attracted to could be super cool and great friends.

And you don´t fall in love with women the first second you see them, you have to date people to see if they are worth it or not. Don´t burn bridges and give it a shot. If you "don´t feel it", be honest. It takes balls to say "I really enjoyed the date with you, but I don´t want to be more than friends/FWB/not exclusive/whatever with you". Just try it, do stuff.

Anyways, girls hit on you. They are interested in you. It´s like the most difficult part was just skipped and you just have to talk with them and be flirty. You have to be super confident, because you are attractive to girls. For the being cold part: Don´t distance yourself. Treat anyone you meet like an old friend, smile and be interested in people. Give sincere compliments, just interact.

Put yourself out there, interact, approach, make friends. Be confident that you are attractive and approach.

EpictetustheWise · 2015-05-25T18:34:22+00:00

All girls (no matter what they look like) are just girls...they have a lot of the same traits and feelings, so talking to one is pretty much like talking to any other.

You need to learn how to control your desire and believe that you are good enough as a man. Try to not focus on the outcome of the conversation (getting a number, sex, whatever), just exploring who she is as a person and seeing if there is any interest there. Hot girls aren't special, they're sexy as hell, but not special. Think about how you would perceive this girl after dating her for 6 months...would you still be nervous to talk to her? Nope. Actually, you'd probably be wanting to avoid talking to her sometimes, because you now know all her annoying habits and other nonsense. That familiarity would knock down an idealized version of her in your head, so, she'd just be another person you have no issue talking to.

This type of thinking pretty much boils down to the fear of rejection and placing your perception of your own self-value into the hands of another. So, if she likes you, you feel good and if she doesn't you feel bad and as long as it goes like this, your emotions will always be riding on the outcome. The thing is, that girls aren't the arbiter of your value, they don't get to determine how you feel and what you can say or do. You are good enough to talk to anyone, don't put them on a pedestal.

Nothing_Gazes_Back · 2015-05-25T20:50:44+00:00

Stop caring about whether you're "cute" or not to them. The only thing restricting your behavior is your own ego and your fear of rejection.

Title	I can't talk to girls that attract me at all
Author	Gintokki
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	May 25, 2015 4:20 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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