Hey Seddit! These last two or three months I've been immersing myself in seduction videos, blogs and of course r/seduction but not really taking much action. I'm still working on getting over my AA but I am making strides in trying to be more confident and "do me". So far it's working but I realize I should be talking to real girls to gain experience.

Anyway, tonight (or last night?) that's exactly what I did. I went to a club with three of my really close friends (all dudes) and had a great time.

We get inside and almost immediately me and one other friend go to a table of girls and start talking. The girl I was talking to was about an 8 but she was giving me one word answers so I walked off. No need in wasting my time. And whereas before I would've been upset by this one failure, tonight I didn't let it faze me. In fact, failing that first set was great way to start the night and loosen up.

A little later I'm on the dance floor having a good time when I caught eyes with this cute girl dancing with her friends. It happened a few more times so I decided to take action. I get close to her, smile and then grab her by the hand and pull her towards me. I actually couldn't believe getting a pretty girl to dance with me was as easy as taking her by the hand. So we dance for a while and then, not forgetting what I've been reading, I told her we should get some water so that we could have a change of scenery and I could isolate her. I grab her hand for a bit as we walk to the bar. When we get there I get her name and talk to her for a bit. Through the entire conversation I make sure to kino. When I said something I would touch her arm, or sometimes I'd lean in and our hands would touch and especially when I had to say something in her ear I would always put my hand on her waist. She wasn't put off by it but she wasn't limping back. I wouldn't say there was "sexual tension" but she was definitely interested. At one point she leaned in to say something in my ear and I realized after that I should have gone for the kids then. The conversation started dying down so I told her we should go back to the dance floor. From there I lost her. A male friend came by and started dancing w her so I just faded out and didn't see her the rest of the night, but that was definitely the closest to a hook up I got all night. But I didn't let it ruin my night.

I kept dancing and having a good time, not trying to make pick up my priority but still actually trying with girls.

The other notable moment was a number close later. As I was walking onto the dance floor I spot a girl standing on the side. She was cute and had a lip piercing, which I find attractive. So I grab her by the hand and pull her in to dance with me. She immediately started smiling and tried to talk to me as we were dancing (IOIs?) but I didn't bother much at first because I couldn't here anything. Then I realize it would be stupid to let this opportunity pass so I talk to her. Come to find out she's two years older than me, but I didn't let myself get intimidated. I tried to flirt with her by telling her to bust out her best dance move. She told me at one point I was the coolest guy she danced with all night which I took as a compliment. I was dancing close to her and touching her occasionally but when it came to dancing I was very passive. Eventually her friends dragged her off but before I left the club I went over and told her we should hang out next time she's in town and I got her number and then gave her a kiss on the cheek. I need advice here. She actually lives one state over and goes to school on the other in Florida, I'm in the NE. Would it be worth it to hit her up?

The rest of the night I just dance with a few girls but didn't really approach. I didn't have the same anxiety I used to get but I was still nervous. I would see other guys standing on the side, looking at girls and not doing anything. I used that as my motivation and it worked.

None of this would have been possible just a few months ago. Even if I was drunk! And tonight I was one hundred percent sober.

Lessons:

there's no perfect time. Next time I'm gonna work on being in the moment and just going for it when I get the chance.

Although I did dance behind and next to a lot girls, I had better results when I simply grabbed there hand and pulled them to dance with me. I tried asking a few girls to dance with me and i got all negative responses. To me it felt a bit too "nice". On the other hand standing behind girls and grinding on them as they danced by themselves or with someone else felt way too aggressive for me and just kind of creepy. I think the method I used tonight worked well and I plan on using it again when I go out.

I don't need alcohol to talk to girls.

I can do this.

Thank you so much Seddit!!

TL;dr went to a club and missed a k-close (maybe two) but got a number close